A message from a fellow warrior who is still battling infertility.
Nobody said it will be easy, nobody thought it would be easy. It's actually a blinking nightmare having your dreams crushed to pieces so many times. But one thing many of us forget sometimes is that life is too short. We live once and no matter what, we have to make sure we do the best of it.
Child, or not child we have a duty to fulfill and that duty is to live fully every single moment of our lives.
Sometimes I see so much desperation on this group and other groups I follow and this really breaks my heart. I wish I could help every single one of you to feel just a little bit better.
Remember, it is not the end of the world! There is a solution and sooner or later, one way or another we will become parents and it will be the most beautiful thing ever happened to us.
But until that day, please please be kind to yourself. Don't forget to greet the sun, smile at the trees and the flowers, greet the stranger you meet while walking in the park, buy yourself your favourite perfume, cook your favourite meal, pour a glass of your favourite Italian wine.
Don't lose yourself along the way! You are IMPORTANT! Take care of yourself please ❤️😍😍
P. S. I mean I'm saying all these things but it took me a loooong way to come to terms with all that and I just needed to say it out loud ❤️😍
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what a lovely lovely post. I entirely agree with you too. It’s very important to live your life to the full and be who you are and don’t lose sight of that. I hope you’re finally getting some answers as I know how hard it’s been for you. And I hope the latest attempt revealed some even if it ended in disappointment. But it also sounds like you’re really seeing the positive in life and this is so important to releasing stress. You’re such a warrior and an inspiration to others. 🫶💪
Thank you ❤️🏵️ I've been feeling in quite a good place for a while. And just re-discovered how much I love myself, it might sound selfish lol hahaha but ever since I re-discovered this life looks so much more beautiful. And I've been supporting a few ladies on another group who are in such a bad place after only one attempt, not seeing light in the tunnel and it made me feel so sad. It's so difficult for some people to find the right support and the right way to deal with all that ahh, I wish I could help more people somehow.
This is such a beautiful message and I couldn't agree more although infertility consumes is day in day out and most of the time its all we think about, we must at least try to rise above it look around us and appreciate life. Thank you for the reminder 🥰
I remind this myself every single day for the last few years. I used to think about it like 24/7 but enough is enough. I need to think about myself now, we need to think about ourselves 😍💕😍💕 Hope is all going well with you xxx
I couldn't agree with this more. I wished I had thought like this a long time ago. I lost so much of myself during IVF. Had a lot of therapy after our second miscarriage and now back having counselling. It just chips away at your soul! Thanks for posting this. xx
The journey is so consuming and makes us forget everything and everyone around us. And very often ruins relationships, and sometimes even marriages. We are all in this together and when possible we should support each other and help each other remember that life isn't just about having a baby ❤️❤️❤️ Sending millions hugs and lots of positive vibes your way ❤️
I love this post! I have been in a dark place for so many months, and to top it up last month was our first attempt and ended in a chemical...but after a couple of weeks I am kind of feeling like myself again, even now I feel like taking a break to breathe, but feel guilty at the same time...Such a difficult journey!
You shouldn't feel guilty, sometimes break is the best gift you can give yourself. After my last loss I've given myself a longer break and I've just focused all my power on taking care of myself and recovering and that was the best decision I've ever made! Hugs and positive vibes your way ❤️
such a lovely post & beautifully written , your words of support & hope is what we all need in our struggles & desperation. It really helps to not feel alone too.
The sunshine & nature always make me feel that little bit lighter , enjoying the simple things like walks in the park seeing the birds & the butterflies really brings joy to my heart even though life is tough.
Lovely to see that you are feeling in good spirits & lovely photo of you & your dog 🥰
Are you in treatment atm ? I am currently on a forced break from ivf having Prostap for 3 months to calm endometriosis. Even tho it’s not what I wanted in all honesty I believe this is what I needed to help me feel a bit stronger physically & mentally.
Sending positivity your way ☺️Enjoy the sunshine Xx
Forced break are always the worst aren't they? But I'm sure is for good, gives you the chance to enjoy the summer and have a nice cocktail, or a glass of your favourite wine whenever you want 😅😅😅 As they say we need to always see the positives in every situation 😄I went to Turkey for treatment and my sister in law took me on a few trips. I've visited hubby's village in the mountain where he was born. 5 days in the mountain with no phone reception, no shops, no traffic just the sounds of the nature it was like a mind retreat. I felt like a new person hahaha. And I did not have time at all to worry about the actual treatment at all, it was like I was there just for a holiday. I'm still waiting for OTD but staying away from tests and everything and just trying not to think about it 😅
That sounds just perfect 😊, what is needed a break from the everyday to distract you whilst going through it. sounds like it has given you time to relax and enjoy which is a great help. Positive feelings only ❤️
Yes definitely helps being able to do certain things this summer that helps pass the time before getting back into it.
sending the best of luck for OTD, I truly wish you well and hope this is the one 🌈 in the meantime keep doing what your doing to feel the best you possibly can mentally as it seems to be doing wonders for you xx
This post has made me feel a little better today. Been told my pregnancy isn't viable but need to wait until next Saturday to do another test and a for a scan to be sure, it is killing me inside. We have put our life on hold to have a family but in August I finally get to marry the love of my life ❤️. If this pregnancy isn't the one there has to be another one that will be. All our energy has gone into our fertility journey, but I want to be able to enjoy my wedding day without thinking about being childless. We will be parents one day. Thank you so much for this message today! X
I am so sorry for your loss, sending you lots of love and hugs ❤️Focus on your wedding it will help you and makes thing a bit easier. Hope you have the most amazing wedding you've ever dreamed of! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for the wonderful post. I am in a difficult position right now, and after feeling emotional for an hour, I told myself it is not within my control if I will have a baby. And all I can do is pray to God and do my best. Because there are worse situations than what I am facing.
I'm always around, sometimes I just don't feel like posting anything but reading everyone's stories and commenting when I can. ❤️🤗 Thank you! Hope you and your little miracle all doing great! ❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗
A really good reminder which I definitely need! Have been feeling quite negative recently and almost not wanting to feel positive. I think things can pile up and that comment from the person at work who doesn’t know what you’re going through is sometimes just the limit! A good reminder that I am important with or without a child, which sometimes either you or someone makes you feel. Thank you. Xx
I'm glad I could help even just a little bit! People can be very insensitivity sometime unfortunately become for them it isn't a big deal, they have no idea how consuming infertility can be. But having or not having a child doesn't determine what person you are. You are one of your kind and you deserve all the happiness, respect and beautiful things in this life! ❤️
This is such a lovely post and so true! It’s nice to hear so many of us feel the same. I lost myself in IVF, suffered from PTSD that triggered every time I had a failed transfer or with pregnancy announcements. I felt like a complete failure, couldn’t sleep at night, spent my days just in either IVF mode doing another transfer or in between just analysing and convincing myself that there was no way the situation wasn’t my fault somehow. I had positive days and weeks where I would pick myself up better than others.
I do have to say that finally my positive pregnancy has massively helped with healing some of these demons - lots of them and my heart is filled with love! I really really wish that every one gets their happy ending like we have as it really does help heal the years of pain. I did have other options I was open to such as adoption and it helped me having this along the journey. Families are made in many different ways if it’s what you want xx
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How do you pick yourself back up and keep going? 
losing hope and think its time to call it a day
Goodbye and wishing you all the best!! Might be sensitive, protect yourself if you need to! 
Future mummy in London meet up? 
