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Don't lose yourself along the way ❤️

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A message from a fellow warrior who is still battling infertility.

Nobody said it will be easy, nobody thought it would be easy. It's actually a blinking nightmare having your dreams crushed to pieces so many times. But one thing many of us forget sometimes is that life is too short. We live once and no matter what, we have to make sure we do the best of it.

Child, or not child we have a duty to fulfill and that duty is to live fully every single moment of our lives.

Sometimes I see so much desperation on this group and other groups I follow and this really breaks my heart. I wish I could help every single one of you to feel just a little bit better.

Remember, it is not the end of the world! There is a solution and sooner or later, one way or another we will become parents and it will be the most beautiful thing ever happened to us.

But until that day, please please be kind to yourself. Don't forget to greet the sun, smile at the trees and the flowers, greet the stranger you meet while walking in the park, buy yourself your favourite perfume, cook your favourite meal, pour a glass of your favourite Italian wine.

Don't lose yourself along the way! You are IMPORTANT! Take care of yourself please ❤️😍😍

P. S. I mean I'm saying all these things but it took me a loooong way to come to terms with all that and I just needed to say it out loud ❤️😍

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what a lovely lovely post. I entirely agree with you too. It’s very important to live your life to the full and be who you are and don’t lose sight of that. I hope you’re finally getting some answers as I know how hard it’s been for you. And I hope the latest attempt revealed some even if it ended in disappointment. But it also sounds like you’re really seeing the positive in life and this is so important to releasing stress. You’re such a warrior and an inspiration to others. 🫶💪

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Klndmr in reply toPositivechangeplease

Thank you ❤️🏵️ I've been feeling in quite a good place for a while. And just re-discovered how much I love myself, it might sound selfish lol hahaha but ever since I re-discovered this life looks so much more beautiful. And I've been supporting a few ladies on another group who are in such a bad place after only one attempt, not seeing light in the tunnel and it made me feel so sad. It's so difficult for some people to find the right support and the right way to deal with all that ahh, I wish I could help more people somehow.

Hope you are doing well 😊

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Positivechangeplease in reply toKlndmr

aww that’s very giving of you. Just being there for others will help. Xx

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Star241

lovely and important message, you are right and always so positive and lovely 🥰

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Klndmr in reply toStar241

Trying my best, Ive for some dark days too if course but thank God that's very limited now 😍 Hope you and the little one are doing very well 💕

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Applepie7

This is such a beautiful message and I couldn't agree more although infertility consumes is day in day out and most of the time its all we think about, we must at least try to rise above it look around us and appreciate life. Thank you for the reminder 🥰

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Klndmr in reply toApplepie7

I remind this myself every single day for the last few years. I used to think about it like 24/7 but enough is enough. I need to think about myself now, we need to think about ourselves 😍💕😍💕 Hope is all going well with you xxx

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CarlottaD27

Thank you for sharing such a positive and uplifting post. It's so true and so easy to forget when you're in the throes of it all. Mindset is key! x

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Klndmr in reply toCarlottaD27

Way too easy to forget ❤️ Hope your re doing well xxx

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Boo718

this is just the perfect post 😍 such beautiful words. It really does help when the sun shines too. I hope you are doing good xxx

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Klndmr in reply toBoo718

Sun is shining and birds are singing, I'm back to being the desperate optimistic I've always been 🤣🤣🤣

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hifer

I couldn't agree with this more. I wished I had thought like this a long time ago. I lost so much of myself during IVF. Had a lot of therapy after our second miscarriage and now back having counselling. It just chips away at your soul! Thanks for posting this. xx

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Klndmr in reply tohifer

Same here! I wish I had the same mindset to star with, it would of saved lots and lots stress and tears. Hope you are feeling good ❤️❤️❤️

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HedgehogMad

What a beautiful post, and important reminder for those of us in the throes of this all consuming journey. Sending you lots of love and positivity xxx

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Klndmr in reply toHedgehogMad

The journey is so consuming and makes us forget everything and everyone around us. And very often ruins relationships, and sometimes even marriages. We are all in this together and when possible we should support each other and help each other remember that life isn't just about having a baby ❤️❤️❤️ Sending millions hugs and lots of positive vibes your way ❤️

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Kotick83

I love this post! I have been in a dark place for so many months, and to top it up last month was our first attempt and ended in a chemical...but after a couple of weeks I am kind of feeling like myself again, even now I feel like taking a break to breathe, but feel guilty at the same time...Such a difficult journey!

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Klndmr in reply toKotick83

You shouldn't feel guilty, sometimes break is the best gift you can give yourself. After my last loss I've given myself a longer break and I've just focused all my power on taking care of myself and recovering and that was the best decision I've ever made! Hugs and positive vibes your way ❤️

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butterfliez

such a lovely post & beautifully written , your words of support & hope is what we all need in our struggles & desperation. It really helps to not feel alone too.

The sunshine & nature always make me feel that little bit lighter , enjoying the simple things like walks in the park seeing the birds & the butterflies really brings joy to my heart even though life is tough.

Lovely to see that you are feeling in good spirits & lovely photo of you & your dog 🥰

Are you in treatment atm ? I am currently on a forced break from ivf having Prostap for 3 months to calm endometriosis. Even tho it’s not what I wanted in all honesty I believe this is what I needed to help me feel a bit stronger physically & mentally.

Sending positivity your way ☺️Enjoy the sunshine Xx

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Klndmr in reply tobutterfliez

Forced break are always the worst aren't they? But I'm sure is for good, gives you the chance to enjoy the summer and have a nice cocktail, or a glass of your favourite wine whenever you want 😅😅😅 As they say we need to always see the positives in every situation 😄I went to Turkey for treatment and my sister in law took me on a few trips. I've visited hubby's village in the mountain where he was born. 5 days in the mountain with no phone reception, no shops, no traffic just the sounds of the nature it was like a mind retreat. I felt like a new person hahaha. And I did not have time at all to worry about the actual treatment at all, it was like I was there just for a holiday. I'm still waiting for OTD but staying away from tests and everything and just trying not to think about it 😅

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butterfliez in reply toKlndmr

That sounds just perfect 😊, what is needed a break from the everyday to distract you whilst going through it. sounds like it has given you time to relax and enjoy which is a great help. Positive feelings only ❤️

Yes definitely helps being able to do certain things this summer that helps pass the time before getting back into it.

sending the best of luck for OTD, I truly wish you well and hope this is the one 🌈 in the meantime keep doing what your doing to feel the best you possibly can mentally as it seems to be doing wonders for you xx

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notifbutwhen

This post has made me feel a little better today. Been told my pregnancy isn't viable but need to wait until next Saturday to do another test and a for a scan to be sure, it is killing me inside. We have put our life on hold to have a family but in August I finally get to marry the love of my life ❤️. If this pregnancy isn't the one there has to be another one that will be. All our energy has gone into our fertility journey, but I want to be able to enjoy my wedding day without thinking about being childless. We will be parents one day. Thank you so much for this message today! X

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Klndmr in reply tonotifbutwhen

I am so sorry for your loss, sending you lots of love and hugs ❤️Focus on your wedding it will help you and makes thing a bit easier. Hope you have the most amazing wedding you've ever dreamed of! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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Purple_skies

Thank you for the wonderful post. I am in a difficult position right now, and after feeling emotional for an hour, I told myself it is not within my control if I will have a baby. And all I can do is pray to God and do my best. Because there are worse situations than what I am facing.

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Klndmr in reply toPurple_skies

Absolutely! Things will get better ❤️❤️❤️

Sending you lots of love! I am always looking for a post from you on here and wondering how you are doing, you look amazing - good on you xx

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Klndmr in reply to

I'm always around, sometimes I just don't feel like posting anything but reading everyone's stories and commenting when I can. ❤️🤗 Thank you! Hope you and your little miracle all doing great! ❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗

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HoneyB11

well said xx

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Klndmr in reply toHoneyB11

Thank you ❤️

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Kmcdon

A really good reminder which I definitely need! Have been feeling quite negative recently and almost not wanting to feel positive. I think things can pile up and that comment from the person at work who doesn’t know what you’re going through is sometimes just the limit! A good reminder that I am important with or without a child, which sometimes either you or someone makes you feel. Thank you. Xx

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Klndmr in reply toKmcdon

I'm glad I could help even just a little bit! People can be very insensitivity sometime unfortunately become for them it isn't a big deal, they have no idea how consuming infertility can be. But having or not having a child doesn't determine what person you are. You are one of your kind and you deserve all the happiness, respect and beautiful things in this life! ❤️

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Kmcdon in reply toKlndmr

Thank you! Having a big wobble this morning and your lovely message made me cry! ❤️

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Minniemouse88

Really strong and comforting words - I'm sure a reflection on you. I wish you all the happiness you deserve and thank you! ❤️

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Elmo13

What a lovely positive post 😊 xx

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Positive20

This is such a lovely post and so true! It’s nice to hear so many of us feel the same. I lost myself in IVF, suffered from PTSD that triggered every time I had a failed transfer or with pregnancy announcements. I felt like a complete failure, couldn’t sleep at night, spent my days just in either IVF mode doing another transfer or in between just analysing and convincing myself that there was no way the situation wasn’t my fault somehow. I had positive days and weeks where I would pick myself up better than others.

I do have to say that finally my positive pregnancy has massively helped with healing some of these demons - lots of them and my heart is filled with love! I really really wish that every one gets their happy ending like we have as it really does help heal the years of pain. I did have other options I was open to such as adoption and it helped me having this along the journey. Families are made in many different ways if it’s what you want xx

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Skittles11

You are so lovely and thoughtful with your words, it is truly uplifting and brings a smile to many faces through difficult times xx

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Miracle43

Thank you for your positive post ❤️ It’s so easy to forget to live if you know what I mean xxx

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