My embryos not graded before transfer 😪

[slupton]

Hello you wonderful ladies, I've had a double transfer today but I'm slightly worried as they both weren't graded. This morning they hadn't turned to blastocyst but when I went for my transfer I was told one had turned into a blasto but not graded. My other is a morola I think she said? Any body had a similar experience and does this mean my chances are lower? Currently googling like hell and reading conflicting information. Thanks 😘

[Hidden]

Hey try not to panic, morula is the stage before blasto and they can't grade them until they are full blasto which yours will be developing into.

I haven't had luck with morulas myself (had a chemical) I had a right wobble like you are and did loads of searching on here and there were LOADS of positive stories and people saying their morulas were sitting beside them 7 months old etc! So you are still in the game!!

Good luck xx

[slupton in reply to Hidden]

Thank you 😘

[KiboXX]

Hey lovely,

My clinic actually don’t give you the grades of embryos at all because they think it causes unnecessary stress. All grades make babies so try not to worry. A blast and a morula is brilliant. Sending you lots of luck (and sanity!) for your tww xxxx

[Phoenix200 in reply to KiboXX]

The same here. I didn’t even know there is a grading system until I read about it here. Try not too worry. Lots of hug

[slupton in reply to KiboXX]

Thank you xxx

[Hidden]

My clinic didn't give gradings with my first and he is now 3 years old. Good luck, they only transfer the best that made it first.

[slupton in reply to Hidden]

Thank you ❤

[DolphinJ]

So glad to hear you had a transfer. I'm hoping for one in about a month because I got the all clear after dodgy polyp problem back in January. Really hoping for the best for you xxx

[slupton in reply to DolphinJ]

Oh hun that's great news! So glad all OK. Now you can look forward to your transfer ❤ do you still have the one frozen? Thinking of you xx

[DolphinJ in reply to slupton]

Yes, still one frozen. I've started meds so 11 day scan will be on 13th 😊 xxx

[slupton in reply to DolphinJ]

Exciting! Ill be thinking of you xxxx

[xIVFWarriorx]

Hello lovely. Just wanted to advise that I had a double morula transfer and got my BFP a few days ago, so try not to get too hung up on not having a grading. I wasn’t told whether my embryos were near blast or not, just told they weren’t developing as quickly as they would expect but felt that 2 of my 5 were suitable for transfer so I felt really anxious, especially when I began heavy bleeding last week but having had 7 positives now, there’s got to be something going on in there. Please try your best to relax and enjoy being PUPO. Wishing you all the best 🥰

[slupton in reply to xIVFWarriorx]

You know that one reply that makes you feel loads better yours is the one! Yesterday felt helpless feeling more positive now. Congratulations on your positive and I've read heavy bleeding is common so I'm sure everything will be OK. Bless you sending big hugs xxxx

[xIVFWarriorx in reply to slupton]

Awww, I'm really glad that I've made you feel a bit better 🙂. This whole IVF journey is a total rollercoaster, there's so many ups and downs along the way. I really tried to celebrate the mini wins in that for a moment. I went from being excited on the morning of my transfer, to thinking I didn't have anything worth transferring, to then being told 2 are ok to transfer. So many emotions in just one day, never mind the whole process.

As much as it's tempting, I definitely would try to hold off from testing until your OTD. I tested 2 days early (my OTD was Monday) due to the bleeding last week and no real comfort from the nurse that I spoke to at the clinic last week, I was sure I was out and didn't want to have to test on Monday and get bad news before work. Testing early helps in one way but adds anxiety in the other. I've done 7 tests over the weekend and Monday and have told myself I'm not doing any more as I'll just be stressed out over whether new tests are darker than the previous. Also, try your best not to google every symptom under the sun, again, it just adds to the anxiety which you don't need!! Just look after yourself, put your feet up, wear cosy socks (they say warm feet, warm uterus), eat lots of warming foods and watch some light hearted programmes/films and just enjoy this happy time during your 2ww. Please let me know how you get on. Best of luck lovely 😘

[slupton in reply to xIVFWarriorx]

What a kind thoughtful reply thank you ❤ funny thing is as soon as I read your reply I put socks on and I've worn a pair ever since! God its hard isn't it I've been so low the past few days and absolutely exhausted. I know what your saying about the testing but I just know I'm going to. This is my 6th transfer 1 success 1 chemical and 1 miscarriage and if I leave the testing to the end I don't want to do it then I build it up to this horrendous tense situation so I thought if I test regularly from early on I know what to expect. I litreally could just curl up in a ball and pretend it's not happening. Hope your OK xxxx

[xIVFWarriorx in reply to slupton]

Aww, I'm glad you've got your socks on 🙂. I was definitely struggling with the heat at points but those socks did not leave my feet at all during the 2ww (other than in the shower of course lol). I didn't want to go too crazy with all of the superstitions, but the socks was an easy one to accommodate and if there's the slightest chance that it will help then we'll do it, right? Yeah, it really is a massive drain emotionally. We haven't told our families/friends about our IVF so we've had to deal with everything just between the two of us. Do whatever you feel is best for you love. Just don't drive yourself crazy over the lines, the added stress and anxiety really won't help 😘. I'm doing good, thank you. I just can't stop thinking about my first scan, really rather nervous about it but really trying to listen to my own advice and stay relaxed and just see what that day brings 😬 xx

[slupton in reply to xIVFWarriorx]

Hey hun whens your scan? Been thinking of you. I've not tested yet and your right its not going to help me mentally at all is it. I've been having loads of twinges and cramps so trying yo stay positive. Hope your OK xxxx

[xIVFWarriorx in reply to slupton]

Hi lovely. Hope you’re well. My scan isn’t until the 8th ☹️. The time is dragging by. Just want to be put out of my misery either way! When is your OTD? You’re definitely doing the right thing holding off, the relief you get testing early only lasts a brief moment before other worries creep in. Much better to just enjoy knowing you’re PUPO, you don’t want to test and bring that “until proven otherwise” forward 🙂 xxx

[slupton in reply to xIVFWarriorx]

The 8th is not too far it will be here before you know it. Have you tested since for reassurance? My otd is the 7th and its coming way too fast. Like you say its quite nice to be pupo isn't it. Do you have any symptoms? Xxx

[xIVFWarriorx in reply to slupton]

No, I haven’t tested again as I know I’ll just be panicking about whether or not the lines are getting darker etc. I’d rather just be blissfully unaware if anything bad is happening until my scan date. I’m not letting myself get carried away, I’m pregnant but aware that we could get bad news at the scan so I just want to enjoy the happiness for the time being 🙂. Yeah, I’ve had quite a bit of nausea, pulling/pinching pains in my tummy, sore boobs, strong sense of smell, bloated beyond belief (I look 5mths pregnant) and back ache. Currently sat with a hot water bottle on my back trying to ease it off a little. Ahh exciting, you can let me know your test results on the 7th and I can let you know how my scan goes on the 8th! ☺️ I think once it gets to Wednesday and I’ve only got a matter of days to wait it will pass quicker, until then it seems too far away lol xxx

[slupton in reply to xIVFWarriorx]

Your absolutely right why would you test again your pregnant and if conceived naturally you wouldn't repeatedly test would you so I totally get that. The symptoms your having would totally reassure me. Throughout my successful pregnancy I worried but everything was ok I just wished I had enjoyed it more. Enjoy your positive and I can't wait to hear all is ok. Xxx

[xIVFWarriorx in reply to slupton]

Thanks love. I’m typically quite a negative person so it’s strange for me to be so positive. You’re completely right, had it been natural conception I would be happy knowing I’m pregnant so I’m just trying to be the same despite the medical intervention. Something turned 7 tests positive so I’m just trying to take comfort in that 😬. I know for a fact if all is well at my 7wk scan that I’ll be worrying about my 12wk one. I guess it’s only natural for us to worry. How old is your little one? This is my first ever pregnancy 😟. Xxx

[slupton in reply to xIVFWarriorx]

Morning your almost there! Ill be joining you waiting for a scan soon too 😬 my little/big one is 9 now my first ever free NHS cycle was a success then the next 5 weren't. This one has took so far got my bfp today. How are you feeling? Xxxx

[xIVFWarriorx in reply to slupton]

Hi love. Thank you, I know! Just want it to be Wednesday now. Even my husbands allowing himself to get a little excited. He keeps kissing my stomach which just melts my heart 🥰. Ahhhh congratulations!! I’m so happy for you 😬. Here’s hoping we both have the outcome we want at our 7wk scan. Have you got a date for yours? Xxx

[slupton in reply to xIVFWarriorx]

Awww that is cute! No not yet the clinic should hopefully call me back tomorrow with a date. I was on cloud nine yesterday after my positive now today the worry has kicked in but I am definitely still in the mind set of PUPO. All the best for weds ill be thinking of you and your little bean 💖 xxxx

[xIVFWarriorx in reply to slupton]

I can imagine 😬 it’s such an amazing feeling seeing those two lines!! It’s weird how we can be so happy one minute then a bit of reality kicks in and we start worrying again. I’ve not really left the worry stage since I got my positives. I’ve done well with staying away from testing again though. Can’t cope with the stress of it lol. Thank you love. I’ll let you know how it goes. Hopefully the clinic don’t leave you waiting too long for your scan 🤞🏼 Xxx

[IRR26]

Hi there... I am also suffering. Did my egg collection past Monday and unfortunately I am not that happy or I mean I am terribly nervous.

Currently with 3 eggs but it seems they are slow developing........

I wasn’t expecting this to my life.

[slupton in reply to IRR26]

Oh bless you but 3 eggs is still good! How are they now? Xxxx

[Naomi23]

I went for a double transfer currently pregnant with one baby I wouldn't worry about it to much try not to think about it thats how I got through them hard waiting days I kept myself busy plus my clinic didn't give me gradings x

[Itwillhappen]

I had two transferred. Two early blasts out of 36 eggs (27 fertilised) it’s all we had. Also said they were slow developing and went on to tell me I had bad egg quality. I held no faith the entire TWW for the two they transferred. Well turns out I’m nearly 7 weeks pregnant. I have kept reminding myself since that our specialists wouldn’t transfer them if they didn’t have a chance. That would just be cruel. So try and remind your self of that. All the best!