Bereavement leave and Fertility video

[Niki_B]

Hey ladies I hope you are all keeping well.

I know you ladies are UK based but I live in New Zealand and i seen this article that was done today on a NZ news site. This would be so great and definately a step in the right direction. I myself have never been pregnant and could not even imagine what a miscarriage feels like, but I do know how damn hard a BFN is. And I think you would all agree bereavement leave or just mental health leave is needed in times like this ❤

Theres a great little video that i think we can all relate to, and be good for 1st timers to watch x

stuff.co.nz/life-style/pare...

Wishing everyone well in whatever stage of your journey 💞💖

[Hidden]

Agreed. How we are supposed to just go straight back to work I will never know. Thank you for sharing. I will have a look.

I would also suggest to people that they check their work handbook - maybe we do in some cases. Although we would then have to find the strength to actually tell work....

[Niki_B in reply to Hidden]

Yes I have no idea...but we all know how people who have never been through it simply dont understand. Hey even I didn't realise how painful it was all going to be until I went through it myself. Definately 1 big rollercoaster xxx

[Hidden in reply to Niki_B]

Agreed. I also think that sometimes we don't let ourselves realise what a strain it is until well after the fact. It can hit at any time. Like self preservation or something xx

[Niki_B in reply to Hidden]

Definately! Gosh my anxiety is so bad right now a about to start round 2 in just over a week 🙈

How's everything with you? Xxb

[Hidden in reply to Niki_B]

Currently on the down reg (pill) to start proper drugs at the end of the month. Scans all booked in, flights and accommodation now booked and we are all set for 19th October transfer. This is donor egg fet so much more straightforward. I can't wait but I can also feel anxiety trying to bubble up. Just keep trying my mindfulness. Xxx

Good luck with your round. What are your timings? Xx

[Niki_B in reply to Hidden]

Oh wow sounds like it's all happening soon! Oh yes I guess it would be more straitforward. Well i hope it all goes smoothly and to plan xx

I've only had 1 fresh cycle and unfortunately no frosties. So back to square one and so much pressure as this is our last shot/funded round. I simply do not have the 15k to pay for another round here in New Zealand so this is it! I'll be on short protocol stimms and don't think I stimmed for long last time either 9 or 11 days I think? I'll be starting as soon as AF turns up on the 15th so just over a week away...thats if she wants to play ball and doesn't be 2 weeks late again like last time! xxx

[Hidden in reply to Niki_B]

It is always a pressure. Wishing you all the best with this round. AF never turns up when we want her to! Xx

[Niki_B in reply to Hidden]

I know she's such a bitch! 🤣🤣🤣

Thank you, and all the best for you too lovely, will look forward to your updates 😘xx

[TRYING2016]

I agree completely, thats what’s expected of us to come to work as soon as the physical pain is bearable but time is actually needed to grieve which a lot of employers do not understand.

[Niki_B in reply to TRYING2016]

Exactly it's not fair is it. But these people simply don't understand unless they have been through it xx

[TRYING2016 in reply to Niki_B]

No its not fair, i work at a nursery I’ve been working here for the last 10 years so with all women and not 1 person even knew what ivf was.

[Niki_B in reply to TRYING2016]

Omg what?? They didn't know?? Where have they been living all these years in a barn lol. That's shocking

[TRYING2016 in reply to Niki_B]

Honestly they didn’t know, and thats why they don’t understand what we go through.

[Niki_B in reply to TRYING2016]

Well no they wouldn't have a clue then would they! Oh poor you so I guess your not getting support from the women you work with 😟 well you have us! 😘😘😘

[TRYING2016 in reply to Niki_B]

Xxx

[LegoBatgirl]

Thanks for sharing x

[Niki_B in reply to LegoBatgirl]

Your welcome 😊 the video was good too I thought xx