Little update

[Sweets1]

So today was our 1st appointment at the fertility clinic. They were all so lovely there and put my partner and I at ease-well as much as you can be on this journey. We talked about different options that we had. We have decided to go for a sperm donor. I had an internal scan, which showed PCOS. Not a massive shock as it was expected. He also mentioned that I had a heart shaped uterus - not really sure what he meant by this, but didn’t seem to think it was a problem of any kind. We also have our first counseling session on monday( hadn’t expected that to be so quick). This is going to mean appointments here and there, and not really sure how much I want to/need to tell work? Just wondering if anyone is going though something similar? Sorry for rambling 🙈, thank you xx

[Amanda86]

Hey,

Can’t offer any advice but just wanted to wish you luck with your treatment 🤞🍀 xxx

[Sweets1 in reply to Amanda86]

Thank you xx

[Rachael_]

Im in a similar situation with work i just dont know what to do for the best ...... wishing you lots of luck with your treatment x x

[Sweets1 in reply to Rachael_]

So far they have been great, my mum seems to think I’m worrying over nothing. I’m sure she is right, it’s just I don’t want them thinking bad of me if that makes sense! Good luck to you also xx

[Rachael_ in reply to Sweets1]

I know exactly how you feel .. i think we worry to much but I suppose the stress of it all doesnt help either ..... we have just got to keep swimming (as dory of memo says) that little sentance has kept me sain through all this .... very best of luck 🍀Xxx

[Hidden]

I was speaking with occ health at my work today regarding wether to tell the manager and she suggested that I tell him that I’m getting some treatment if I didn’t want to give him all the details and say u will have to get some time off at short notice for a treatment but I’ve said I wouldn’t mind telling him as they will be more likely to accommodate me at short notice when need be x

[Sweets1 in reply to Hidden]

I’m being very private about what’s going on to be honest, so the least they know the better. Thank you for your advice, good luck to you xxx

[Kyell2]

If you have a manager at work and feel comfortable then you should definitely tell them. They can then support you when you need to leave early/start late.

I didn’t really want to share with my new manager because I didn’t know them very well but they have been great. We agreed that I would just say that my appointments are for another condition (that I actually have) and she does the same...she does get vaguely confused though and the other day had to ask me whether this weeks appointment was a real or a pretend one 😂.

Good luck and only share if you are comfortable x

[Sweets1 in reply to Kyell2]

Thank you! Good luck to you also xx

[Nickimidge]

Hey, glad to hear your 1st appointment went well. I’m currently waiting for my 1st appt at our clinic.

I’ve had already told work about our journey and what lies ahead, i originally felt really anxious and nervous about it, but because i’ve had investigations done including operations which involved time off work, whilst all that was going i ended up having to confide in my personnel manager about it all, and i’m so glad i did, she’s been amazingly supportive and has assured me i’ve got her support through out it all. Sometimes its best to be honest. But do what you thinks right for you xxx

[Sweets1]

Thank you all, I think they have an idea that it’s woman related, and as I say they have been great so far, I just hate asking for time off- I get all my words mixed and start rambling!! 🙈hope your 1st appointment goes well, good luck xx

[E_05]

Hey, glad things are moving for you. I would say if you have a manager you feel comfortable talking to it’s worth letting them know. Only because as treatment goes on sometimes scans happen unexpectedly and can be quite last minute so I think work can be a little more understanding. Also my uterus isn’t heart shaped but it tilts back and have been told it wouldn’t affect me carrying a healthy baby. Good luck for Monday xx

[Sweets1 in reply to E_05]

I spoke to my manager, and he was great, I didn’t really go into detail, but he was fine! I feel much better now! I guess I’ve never thought about my uterus shape, but the doctor didn’t seem concerned so I’m not! Thank you xx

[KateEdison]

Hey there. How are you feeling? Hope you are in good health. Thank you so much for updating us. Good to hear that you have decided something for your future. Your experience to the clinic seems very wonderful. It shows how the people and environment there has made you relaxed. Yes, it is a tough and long journey but it ends beautifully. Its end makes you forget every difficulty you have been through. Wish you luck and strength. More power and love to you. Wish you to have a baby soon and don't forget to share it with us. You will be experiencing the most wonderful feeling in this world which will surely make you feel out of the world. Hoping to hear more from you.

Best wishes. Stay blessed.

[Sweets1 in reply to KateEdison]

I feel much better now things are happening! Yes fingers crossed it all end well! Thank you so much xx

[LorrieWalden]

Hey there! I m so sorry to hear about your condition. So heart shaped uterus is basically known as a bicornuate uterus, and it's not something that can make you infertile totally, there is no complication whatsoever because of this during pregnancy, but the chances of preterm birth and miscarriage are high. So you also have PCOS, With PCOS the chances of you being infertile are very high. You will have a lot of complications because of this during pregnancy. But it's better if you exercise on daily basis, because it will keep your body fit, and the chances of your successful pregnancy are also increased. My Cousin also had PCOS, nothing worked out for her, so then she went for surrogacy, which was the only option left for her though. But I hope your case is not that bad. Good Luck! Much Love!

[Sweets1 in reply to LorrieWalden]

I’m exercising regularly, it seems to just help me, plus I have a wedding dress to get in to!! I’m just taking everything a step at a time. Thank you xx

[Sally2605 in reply to Sweets1]

Hi there, I’m so sorry for the struggles. I also have a heart shaped uterus, though only slight. From what I’ve been told and what I’ve read, it does not interfere with getting pregnant and does not usually cause early miscarriage. My clinic said that as the baby grows, it usually chooses one horn to settle in to and does just fine. But as Lorrie has said, there is an increased risk of early delivery and you’d be monitored closely. I was told not to worry, women can very much still have a healthy and full term pregnancy. Good luck with it all! xx

[Sweets1 in reply to Sally2605]

Thank you. My doctor didn’t seem concerned at this point, but I’m sure if/when I fall pregnant I’d me monitored as you closely! Good luck to you also xx