So tomorrow I go into hospital for the day to have the tablets, feeling pretty nervous now. They’ve said there’s a chance we’ll see baby and in a way I want to. This could be our only chance to ever see our baby as I’m not sure how many more cycles I can put myself through.
My consultant has asked for some of the placenta to be sent off for testing which I also have mixed emotions about as I want some answers to explain why but am so scared something will come back that means I can’t carry children.
Why is life so unfair 😢💔
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I'm sorry hun ☹ some people choose to bring the baby home? I didn't get a choice when i had medical management and i wish i had done because i would have said goodbye to him/her in my own way. I'm so sorry for your loss ❤👭 xxx
Thank you and so sorry for what you’ve been through to. We’ve decided to have a service this year to say goodbye properly as last year we weren’t given the option and like you it’s one thing I wish I’d done xx
So sorry to hear this. It's very painful. At my 7 weeks scan I was told they couldn't find a baby but a perfectly formed sac. HCG has been increasing, I went back last week, still same thing, I have been asked to come next week to see if things have improved or not. It's been a very stressful week for me, including using progynova and cyclogest when you don't know what's going on.
So i just want you to know that my heart goes out to you as I can relate with what you are going through and I pray you have your baby or babies very soon.
Thank you, sorry to hear all you’ve been going through. I was in a similar position last year with a healthy sac but no baby unfortunately it didn’t end well. I really hope next week brings good news for you, il keep my fingers crossed!
Hi E_05. Just wanted to say we are with you here. Going to be a traumatic day for you, and I do hope all goes as easily as it possibly can for you. Don't know what else to say to you, except that I do know how you feel. I shall be thinking of you first thing. Gentle hugs. Diane xx
Really sorry again for your loss. Thinking about you tomorrow and also praying for you. This is such a difficult time for you. Sending you big hugs. Xo
Such a difficult time you are going through. Our thoughts are with you.
It’s good you can see the baby if you want to. Though that will be tough. But it will help you to say goodbye.
It would possibly be good to have a check of your placenta - will that potentially show something is wrong but which can be fixed? If so, that would be worth knowing? But I know it’s scary.
Thank you, your definitely right and I want to see our baby I think I worry more it might not possible. I’m so grateful my consultant as asked for tests as I know it’s not the ‘norm’ and if it can prevent any future heartache it’s worth it just like you say very scary xx
I'm sorry. Take good care of yourselves tomorrow. I hope you get some answers soon. xx
there are no words but just want to say thinking of you. I went through it in June so know how you feel. We saw our baby although I appreciate it's a very personal choice. We had no offer of investigation of the placenta but would've said yes if offered. Not knowing is worse than knowing in my opinion and it's not forced to be bad news. Hope it goes as smoothly as it can xx
Thank you, I to want to see our baby I think I need to. Definitely your right about the not knowing, I’m really grateful my consultant has asked for tests and I know it’s not the ‘norm’ xx
Oh Hun I feel for you. I have started my medical management, it's ok at the mo. Manageable. I asked about testing but they said they wouldn't do that. I understand your feelings on it as hubby wwas against it but I was for it. His thought was next time it's a new egg and new sperm so different outcome. Let's hope. If you need to talk I'm always here. Spending the weekend on sofa in pjs.
Hope you doing as okay as you can be. They wouldn’t do any testing last year so I am grateful this year they are. Sounds a good idea for the weekend, lots of rest and eat/drink what you want x
Oh Hun. I'm so sorry to see this. What an awful time for you. I am praying for you and hope the day is as bearable as possible. Sending you a huge hug. xxx
Will be thinking of you tomorrow and hope it goes as well as it can. Re the testing, I can understand why you’d have mixed emotions. If it were me I’d want it done so I could possibly find a reason. If it’s not fixable then it’s devastating but at least you’d know so you could start dealing with it rather than go through the same heartbreak again in future x
So so sorry hun. It's a real tough journey and none of it seems to get easier even when we get that bfp. I hope the answers you get reassure you some how. At least their doing something to find out why this may have happened not many of us get that. Doesn't make it any easier though I get that. Thinking of you hun through this really tough time. Remember we're all here for you. Lots of love and hugs hun. 💗🤗😘
I'm so so sorry darling.. Nothing I or anyone can say will make you feel better, but we are all here for you if you need us. Sending you so much love ❤️ xxxxxx
life's bloody shit isnt it? Im sorry to hear that's happened and it all feels so damned unfair that's its easy for others and not you. sometimes its just a case of having been very very unlucky and no ones to blame but it doesn't make it easier to take when lucky people complain about being pregnant when you sadly lost out.
Awwww hun the worst feeling ever. Sending you a big gentle hug and hoping things will happen soon for you lovely lady. Are you At hospital all day? 💗💗😘
Yeah, we’re in a side room and they are being really nice which is a bonus. Not really sure what happens if baby doesn’t come and last year I started bleeding after the first lot xx
They may leave it a bit longer and give you some more. If tour getting anxious about what happens if bubu doesn't come ask them your options hun. The more you have control of will help in a way. Next time they come in ask them I'm happy they're been nice that's what you need nice people around you. 💗💗😘
Oh thanks thats a long story I updated my post yesterday evening I replied half way down saying what happened. Thinking of you I'll keep checking for updates 💗💗😘
Thank you all, they’ve said if nothing happens after this lot they’ll decide whether to let me go through the night and then start again tomorrow or just give me more tablets. Either way we’ll be here till tomorrow now xx
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