Dating Scan Nerves

[Kempton]

Just wondered if anyone could offer any reassurance? I'm over 13 weeks pregnant and my dating scan is not until Wednesday. I'm really working myself up about it. I just feel so scared that it's not going to go well.

I was freaking out recently as my symptoms seemed to have vanished. Lots of people said that it's very normal to feel like that, they've said "welcome to the second trimester - enjoy!".

I wish I could relax and enjoy this but I feel like I can't relax and enjoy my pregnancy until I know my baby is OK and has a heart beat.

I feel frustrated that I've been made to wait right until the end of my 13th week. How can I calm my nerves. Is it normal to feel the way I do?

[Hormomalmess]

It's perfectly normal to feel this way. I don't think any of us ivf ladies will ever relax and enjoy until we are holding our little ones in our arms.

My symptoms nearly stopped after about week 12, boobs still hurt but mostly due to their new a huge size now!! Symptoms slightly wing down and stopping us normal.

All I can say to reassure you is that you made it past 12 weeks which is great so sure all will be ok for your scan.

Can't wait to see your scan picture xx

[Lynnr54]

I agree, I think it's perfectly normal after everything we've been through to get this far - I'm not sure anyone having a normal pregnancy would really understand it. I relaxed a little after my dating scan but as the pregnancy went on but there was always an element of worry at the back of my mind. Then towards the end I got really anxious again as my LO didn't have a regular pattern of kicks so I was constantly stressing over that. All you can do is try and relax and understand what is normal to try and give yourself some reassurance. My dating scan was also later than normal and the wait seemed like forever! Think my symptoms (other than the bloody insomnia) subsided around week 13-14 and it really is strange as you know you're pregnant but you don't feel it. Enjoy the scan when it happens and hope the rest of the pregnancy is smooth!

[Oakey80]

Absolutely that is so normal...well I hope so as that's exactly how I felt last week when waiting for my scan! I got myself so worked up, I was a mess! I had my scan last Thursday and it still took me til yesterday to calm down and believe everything is ok. I'm 13wks5d now and my symptoms have mainly disappeared...except I have a lovely new one making an appearance since only yesterday. ...heartburn! Apart from that my boobs don't hurt, my sickness has pretty much gone and my main symptom insomnia (that has been my "friend" all through the 1st trimester) has flip reversed and I'm really enjoying my sleep right now.

I'm sure you'll be fine hun...in and out in 5mins...let us all know how you get on.

xxx

[Hormomalmess in reply to Oakey80]

The heartburn is horrific!!! I found refreshers or love hearts made me have a good burp which helped a lot and it's a good excuse to eat sweets all the time too 😜xx

[Mrsjj]

It's normal to be a bit nervous for a scan it's only natural. I had one at 38weeks and still a little apprehensive until I got the ok then too.

We paid for scan in between the standard ones as after this dating on you have 20 weeks and then nothing at all until the end (unless there are issues which no one would want)

It's all a set up for motherhood - third trimester you barely sleep and I imagine, as I'm due in 5 days, that we will worry about our kids forever. Keep yourself occcupied with work or something else I'm sure tomorrow will go great and you will wonder what you were worried about x

[Linda78]

Totally normal to insanely worry! Am now 26 weeks and still worry on an hourly basis - the dating scan is pretty thorough though and will let you know what is going on so try to relax just a tiny bit and enjoy it as I feel that I've missed out on any real excitement so far due to anxiety! Wishing you all the best for tomorrow x

[emmab178]

I don't think the anxiety ever leaves. I got excited about the 20 week scan and then two days before the 'what if' set in. Although I know the what ifs are a sign my anxiety is getting out of control.

If it's any relief the second trimester does calm a lot of symptoms down so that in itself for a lot of people and shouldn't be a cause for worry. I even cut out the afternoon naps which was an amazing achievement.

One thing maybe Is get a Doppler. You should be able to pick the bubs heartbeat up with it by now. You have to use with a bit of caution in that maybe one day the bub is lying in the wrong position and you don't pick it up. I found I used it from 10weeks onwards every night till about 13 weeks and 1) really enjoyed listening to the heartbeat 2) settled me that everything was ok. For thirty quid it's cheaper than a scan! They warn you about using it in late pregnancy saying reduction on movement is a better indication and not to get false hope using a Doppler so I haven't used it for the last 6 weeks mainly because midwife appointments are ramping up and I'm being constantly kicked

[Kempton]

Hi everyone. Just wanted to update you. Had the ultrasound today and the baby is growing fine it was such a little wriggler!

So happy - can't wait to start sharing the news with wider friends and family.

Thank you all for being encouraging when I was so nervous!

[Cinderella5 in reply to Kempton]

Great news!! Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy!x

[N_M_10 in reply to Kempton]

Congratulations! xx

[Bluebelle1 in reply to Kempton]

Thats really good news. I feel like Im going to have a breakdown Im so scared about my scan. To the point where i don't even want to go. I feel so bad as Im putting a downer on everything for my husband who is really excited but I just don't feel pregnant. No sickness or any other symptoms??! I had a scan at 8 weeks and everything looked fine but Im just so worried. xxx

[Kempton in reply to Bluebelle1]

Don't feel like that. Everything is more likely to be ok that not! Good luck

[Oakey80 in reply to Kempton]

Yay! I knew you'd be fine....congratulations!! Xxx

[Hidden in reply to Kempton]

Glad all is well xx