Just the beginning

[Emma04]

Hi just introducing myself. We are starting our IVF journey next month and I'm ranging from terrified to angry right now. Please tell me this is somewhat normal... my poor husband is doing his best!

[Hidden]

OMG this is totally normal and how I was too... terrified, angry, fearful, sad, a tiny bit excited..

But, I got more excited and oddly, relieved, as I was in the process, when i was administering the drugs. It was like it was a relief to be there, actually doing IVF, rather than thinking about it.

I would say, the dread is worse the actual doing.. So, take heart, the process itself is not as bad as the thought of it.

I'd tortured myself for years of whether to do IVF or not to bother with it - that was the cruellest part for me.

xxxx

[Hidden]

Welcome!!! Totally normal unfortunately, once you get started things will get a little easier the hard bit is having no control xxx

[Leesalou]

Wishing you lots of luck on your ivf journey,

It's a tough journey up downs and full of emotions happy, sad and angry, excited, 🍀🍀 xx

[Hidden]

Welcome! We are just waiting for day 1 of my cycle and we are getting started on the long protocol. I've been very chilled the whole time and not at all stressed. I do feel guilty at times and think that it should stress me if I really cared as much as I think. I guess I just really believe my time will come when it's right. Wishing you the best of luck on your journey xx

[abcgirl]

I'll be starting next month too. I've experienced all the emotions and oddly enough now that it's almost time, I feel more at peace with it. But we've been waiting now for a year since our first appt with the clinic to get the process going so I've had a lot of time to deal with it and come to terms with it. Good luck!

[MrsTM13]

Hi. You'll quickly realise every range of emotion is normal and at least one person will have experienced the same or similar. I've dropped in and out of the network depending where I am with cycles but everyone has always been supportive and offer their advice.

Once you get going keep busy. You'll likely be Googling absolutely everything everyday on different websites just to make sure you have all the information possible. X

[E_05]

Welcome to the rollercoaster ride, totally normal. Try to take each day by day I know it's easier said than done but you do become so obsessed with what's next it can easily take over your life xx

[Emma04]

Thank you so much for you replies. I think I'm just so anxious at the moment that I can't see straight. I think you guys are probably right in saying once we start treatment I shall probably feel more "in control". I'm also a teacher with added to the usual back to work dread (love my job but the break is too long) I know I need to speak with my head about having time off for appointments - we cannot obviously just take leave or time off so it's really tricky as my treatment starting is most likely to start in term time.

[E_05 in reply to Emma04]

That's also understandable, I think the unknown of starting treatment is also a lot worse than once you 'get going'. It's hard with work and everyone has their own opinions as to what they tell their managers but I think the most honest you can be it helps as sometimes apts can be needed quickly (like during stimulation etc) and bosses tend to be more understanding if they know all the circumstances. Remember we're all here to support each other, no question is silly and I'm sure one of us will know the answer or have had some experience to offer x

[Emma04 in reply to E_05]

Thank you so much for your reply x

[Wedding17 in reply to Emma04]

I'm in a similar situation we are going to our first appointment tonight. I'm very anxious too as I work in a school and I'm worried about fitting appointments around out of work hours like you said we can't change our work hours. I'm going back to a new head who I haven't met yet which doesn't help either.

[Shanks_21]

Totally normal for you to feel this way. I found once I got the go ahead for treatment I had lots of excitement and hopefully the start of new and exciting beginnings for me and the hubby. Take each day as it comes, be positive and most importantly stay chilled and relaxed xxx

[SeniorPhipps]

Hi Emma, you've certainly come to the right place! 😊

I found my first cycle the most stressful, not knowing what to expect made me feel out of control... I read things and talked to people to prepare myself as best as I could, but only after I'd experienced something did I truly feel comfortable with it.

This forum is such a good support though, through the bad and good.

So, don't be too hard on yourself, take time to enjoy things non-IVF related and remember that whatever emotion you feel it is ok, it's a tough journey after all.

Good luck 🤞🍀❤️

[beauty1984]

Good luck starting out on you ivf journey, all those feelings are normal so don't worry. Wishing you both all the best 😊 xx

[emmab178]

Welcome to the rollercoaster. I got giddy and excited when i did my first injection and went full circle in the emotions in the space of 10 minutes

[jenny34]

Hi and Welcome! Sounds totally normal to me! I think once you get started you will feel abit calmer because you will be focusing on the process itself and there is ALOT to take in! Nothing was as bad as I thought it would be and you will find a huge amount of support and love from all the lovely people in this forum . Wishing you loads of love and luck xxxxxx

[Frenchie2017]

Hello and welcome! I have just started the IVF process and feel exactly the same as you. I've found this group really helpful and just reading other people's stories has calmed me down a bit. It is scary and at times I can't stop thinking how unfair it is... but im trying my best to stay positive. We have our appointment next week to learn how to do the injections. I just want to get them started now. Good luck with everything and I hope it all goes really well for you xx