For TamTam1 and all the parents of angels

[Madcatlady55]

For all those grieving a loss, this is for you with my love 😢

[Bumpwanted]

Thank you x we lost our beautiful baby boy 8 weeks ago at 36 weeks and I think about him constantly and I just want to keep his memory alive as much as possible. Life is so cruel sometimes.. What some people have to go through makes no sense X

[Hidden]

Thank you my love xxx

[Madcatlady55 in reply to Hidden]

You're welcome TamTam1. Pm me if you want my contact details. Happy to just listen or cry with you if you want. Remember you are not alone, we are all here and sadly some of us know how you're feeling. Take care xxxx

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It hurts....

[Madcatlady55 in reply to Hidden]

I know darling. I know everyone says this but it will get better. It never leaves you, nor should it, you just learn to make the grief part of your life. Don't make the mistake I did and push the grief to one side. When my boss lost our little angel at 7 weeks last year I fell apart. My counsellor said I had repressed grief, I'd never heard of it.

You need to take the time to grieve together. Men don't find it easy either, they can't fix this so they don't know what to do. Tell him he doesn't need to do or say anything, all he needs to do is hold you. Even now 9 months later I will sometimes give my boss's partner a hug when I know he is thinking about the loss. I don't say anything, just hug him and walk away.

Right now the thing you need most is time. Please accept any offers of help and people appreciate your being specific. So perhaps a meal prepared, someone to do the laundry, or run the hoover over. The miscarriage association has lots of downloadable booklets with advice on how people can support you. huggies. com.au also has several pages with really good advice.

Take care darling, I am always here xxxx