Test day

[Flossy85]

Hi everyone, had results today from our 5th transfer unfortunately it's a BFN again 😢 feeling pretty gutted to say the least. Has anyone ever had 5 fails and gone on to have success? Starting to lose hope that it will ever happen for us. Xx

[Hidden]

I wanted to give in after my 2nd failed cycle so I can't even begin to think how you are feeling.

I know a couple that are on about their 12th attempt had 3 successive but all ended sadly in miscarriage she is going under extensive investigations.

I don't think this journey will ever be fare or ever make sense some of us our lucky and some are not, I question when is enough enough when not to go anymore if you are on NHS and are lucky to have a few attempts he pressure is eased a little bit having to private fund and get BFN all the time is another punch.

Take your time to grieve and figure out whats right for you both emotionally and financially and take it from there, take a little time to be angry and sad, let it all out and then get back up and decide what's best.

My heart goes out to you we have embarked on our final and 3 private funded round xxx

[Flossy85 in reply to Hidden]

I've felt like giving in many times, we are nhs funded. If it wasn't for that I would always wonder 'what if' I would have given up a long time ago.

If never been successful on any of the 5 ivf attempts, iv only ever been pregnant once naturally and miscarried at 10wks...that was over 6years ago and never fell pregnant since.

If had many operations to remove large ovarian cysts and suffer from pcos and bad endemetriosis.

We have 4embryos left to use and if they don't stick we are allowed one final round on the nhs however if I choose to do that it could be very risky as I was hospitalised and almost lost my life with severe ohss after last egg collection.

It does cost a lot still as well in prescriptions, fuel, time off work, hotel stays as our clinic is over 3hrs away.

Going to take some time out then discuss going forward and trying again but see if there is anything different we can do or any tests we can undergo.

I hope and pray your 3rd round goes well for you, wishing you all the luck in the world xxx

[Hollibob]

Sorry to read your news

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[Flossy85 in reply to Hollibob]

Thank you Hollibob, it's just upsetting I would've thought I would be used to it by now.

Hope everything is going well in your 2ww and your lil frostie is burrowing in nice, good luck hun xxx

[E81hopefull]

Just wanted to say I'm sorry to hear of ur bfn. It must be so emotionaly draining to go through it 5 times!! U are a strong woman to keep going. I really hope u do manage to get a bfp you definitely deserve some good news. Stay strong xx

[Flossy85 in reply to E81hopefull]

Thank you E81hopefull, Its certainly emotionally draining I didn't know I had so many emotions until I started our ivf journey. It's been like a huge rollercoaster ride. I really hope our luck changes too, I just wanna get that elusive bfp, while there's all the chance of it happening one day I just can't give up. It is very hard tho. I hope you are doing well after your egg collection amazing no. Of eggs I hope you get lots of nice fertilises embryos, good luck. Xxx

[E81hopefull in reply to Flossy85]

Thanks flossy, i hope ur feeling slighty better today i can imagine how hard it is for u at the moment but its good that u won't give up and there's still a chance of u getting ur bfp one day soon hopefully. Thinking of u hun xx

[rainbowbreeze80]

So sorry Flossy, it's so unfair this process. Xxx

[Flossy85 in reply to rainbowbreeze80]

Thanku rainbowbreeze80 it certainly is. I hope you are ok too after your traumatic day, make sure you get them feet up and Dr-stress. Good luck for test day Xx

[Daisy14]

Thoughts are with you. Be selfish at this time and wish there's something I could say to help xx

[Flossy85 in reply to Daisy14]

Thank you daisy14, I hope all is still going well with you? Xx

[Daisy14 in reply to Flossy85]

Yes I think so, all very unknown until the scan so feel like I'm walking on eggshells! Take lots of time for yourself, thinking of you x

[Hidden]

Life can be so cruel. Thinking of you xxx

[Flossy85 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks button-123 that means a lot. I hope all goes well for you, good luck with your ivf journey, I hope to see good updates soon Xx

[samrakkar]

Big hugs xx

[Flossy85 in reply to samrakkar]

Thank you samrakkar, I hope your feeling well and good luck for a problem free pregnancy xxx

[pm27]

I'm really sorry you got a BFN. We've had 2 BFNs from 2 rounds of ICSI plus and our 3rd round ET had to be abandoned and the 2 embryos frozen. It seems to be getting harder with each round so I'm not surprised you're gutted.

Time take to recover and then consider your options. Although it might not feel like it you are fortunate to have 4 frosties waiting for you.

[Flossy85 in reply to pm27]

Thanku pm27, that means a lot. It definately gets so much harder, I try to keep up a barrier but it comes crumbling down each time. I can't even count the number of times iv cried through this whole process. Your journey sounds extremely hard also, I hope you get to have your ET soon I hope your ok? I know how disappointing it can be, ours was cancelled after egg collection in April when I was hospitalised. We are very fortunate to have some frosties, we are going to take a few weeks to recover and speak to the hospital about tests and what we can do differently Xx

[pm27 in reply to Flossy85]

This journey is so hard, although you're warned that it will be a roller coaster at the beginning it has been far harder emotionally than I'd imagined. I was more worried about the physical side, especially the injections. Crying was my default setting last week!

If my period arrives when the clinic predict we can hopefully have FET before Christmas, if it doesn't down reg will start in December and FET in January. I just want to get on with it.

[Maria-Louisa]

I'm so sorry for your bfn, flossy 😞 you're situation sounds so similar to ours only we've just done 3 privately funded, also have had our 1 and only natural pregnancy end in miscarriage and have four frosties! Consultants tell us we're in a good position for it to work, so frustrating! Give yourself time and maybe make decisions in a few weeks, I know I find it easier to see things clearer a good few weeks after a bfn. Here's hoping we get those bfp's soon xxx

[Hidden]

Flossy, So sorry to hear your sad news have you ever been checked for uterine high natural killer cells? These are cells in the womb that attack the embryos like foreign invaders and cause implantation failures and early miscarriages. It's very common in ladies with Endometriosis. The only way to find out is through a biopsy test. I went for the biopsy in Coventry. Professor Quenby does it there. My results came back very high. A normal NK count would be 5% or less. Mine came back at 25,5%. It might be something to look into? They give you prednisolone, extra progesterone and Clexane if your cell count is too high.

We have two failed rounds. But have no embryos left due to my low egg count. So have to go overseas next time to try with donor eggs. Xx

[Filmgirl101]

Round 6 was our magic number. Each negative test really hurts. Im sorry this happened again for you.