2 failed ivf cycles ... What next?

[Katybr]

Hi today was test day of my 2nd ivf cycle and it was a bfn, not really sure what to feel this cycle was totally different to my last one and I thought this would be my time. This was our last nhs funded cycle. We have decided that we would like to do another cycle which we will have to fund ourselves, I'm going to give my body a break for a lil while before we start our next. Is there anything I should be asking my clinic or anything that we should be doing different???

[Bunty83]

Hi Katy, I'm so sorry to hear about your BFN. From what I've been reading about how the embryo develops and implants, it just seems like it can stop dividing at any point because of the genetics of the embryo so basically I'm trying to say you have no control over whether it will work. You'll either be lucky and get an embryo put back that makes it or it won't. I don't believe what you do really makes much difference but helps us feel more in control of this shitty situation we find ourselves in. And medicine isn't advanced enough to know why some embryos can make it and others can't. Im sure you did all the usual things people take like multi vitamins and progesterone. If anything else was proven to be beneficial, your clinic would have recommended it. Im testing this week and can't imagine how disappointed I'll feel if it's negative. Good luck with your future attempts, I hope you get lucky xx

[pm27]

Really sorry to hear you got a BFN. I've also been through 2 rounds of treatment and both were very different. The consultant wasn't able to give an explanation and just said our bodies respond differently to drugs at different times.

It might be worth writing a list of queries/questions to take on your follow up appointment, just be warned the consultant might say "Don't know".

There isn't anything you could have done to change this result. Taking a bit of time to recover is a good idea.

Hope,it's 3rd time lucky for you.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Katybr. So sorry to hear that this cycle did not work out for you. I know it’s not always easy to think of what you should be asking about when you go for a consultation. However, I do have a list of questions you might like to go through before you attend your next appointment (too long to add here). There just may be one or two that you hadn’t thought of asking, especially as you are going for a private appointment. If you could send me your email address, I can send you them. Diane [e-mail]

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Katybr. So sorry to hear that this cycle did not work out for you. I know it’s not always easy to think of what you should be asking about when you go for a consultation. However, I do have a list of questions you might like to go through before you attend your next appointment (too long to add here). There just may be one or two that you hadn’t thought of asking, especially as you are going for a private appointment. If you could send me your email address, I can send you them. Diane [e-mail]