Hi I am new to this. I have just lost my second tube and now our only option is ivf. We have two children one by previous relationship.

[p_mackenzie]

Has anyone else lost their tubes through ectopic and the only option is ivf?

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi p_mackenzie. Just thought I would reply to your post, as no one has answered yet. I was sorry to read that you have now lost both of your tubes through suffering ectopic pregnancies. This is such bad luck to have lost both of them in this way, but I speak to many ladies who have been through such losses with or without having had ectopic pregnancies. Some have had to have them removed because they were badly blocked and could have hindered implantation of a developing embryo. Many of them have gone on and had successful treatment with IVF, either a fresh go, or by using frozen embryos. Obviously, I do wish you well when you come to have your cycle of IVF, and hope for a positive outcome. Diane

[Katrina13 in reply to DianeArnold]

Yes I lost both of my tubes due to endometriosis and infections, and became pregnant via an IVF frozen transfer.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to Katrina13]

Hi katrina13. Oh that’s not good. Hopefully the endometriosis is under control now and you will be able to proceed with further IVF/FET. Diane

[p_mackenzie in reply to DianeArnold]

It was endo that caused my first ectopic. I know exactly how endo feels.

[Katrina13 in reply to DianeArnold]

Sorry, I said in my post that I DID become pregnant. You have misread I think.

[p_mackenzie in reply to Katrina13]

Hi Katrina, did you? I am trying to believe I can go on to have a successful treatment. Feel as though I am in the black tunnel and trying to find my way out. X its just horrible. Started counselling last week at the hospital. Did you get any counselling?

[Katrina13 in reply to p_mackenzie]

Hello no I didn't have counselling although I know it can help people a lot. If your tubes are the issue it is important to have them dealt with even if it means removal.

I was really really upset when I learned that they needed to be removed, and right up to the surgery day was a mess. It was very hard to explain to people why I felt so bad when I knew it was the right thing, but coming to terms with having part of your reproductive system removed is very hard emotionally.

What changed things for me is that after my surgery the doctor showed me a picture of the tubes and they were a complete mess, and instantly I felt hugely pleased that they were now gone, and like a 'clean slate', ready for the next round of IVF.

I am sure that this feeling of a fresh start contributed to my relaxing and subsequent BFP.

[p_mackenzie]

Hi Katrina, yes it is a horrible feeling that when tubes were taken, it felt like our whole life had been turned upside down. I can't believe how it actually happened. My baby was still alive in my tube. The questions of why did it happen, could it have been prevented. Its just horrible.