Lost

[Hells18]

2 miscarriages in 5 months and I’m struggling to move on I have no support I just lock myself away and cry I feel worthless and my husband isn’t supporting me like i need him to 😭 I’ve literally never felt so low in my life there is so much going on I can’t cope anymore

[Fertilityjourney]

I'm really sorry to hear this. It is so hard.... But hang in there, things will get better.

I have been in your position and couldn't stop crying. But after a little while you start to look forwards and start planning your next steps.

Does your clinic offer a counselling service? If so, please give that a go. And try and explain to your family and friends how you feel. You are not alone and remember, none of this is your fault. Lots of love, xx

[Ranchu90]

Oh I am really sorry that you feel this way. Let me tell you one important thing that you probably need to remember, according to statistics those women who had chemicals or miscarriages have better chances to succeed on their next transfer. I was one on those, after 3 chemicals we been successful. I am not sure if you tried steroids to help you keep the pregnancy as implantion is not a problem in your case. Also make future plans they will keep you going and look forward to next treatment. Don't lose your hopes, believe in fate. I am sending you a massive hug from me 🤗

[strawberriesandcream]

I’m so sorry to read this. It’s so painful. Have you tried to talk to your husband to let him know what support you need? That might help.

It doesn’t take away the pain of today but know that you won’t always feel like this. Take care of yourself and do something you enjoy this weekend xxx

[Hidden]

I am so sorry you are so low, completely understandable you are dealing with grief and lost hope. The key thing is to talk to someone, I have had a large number of MC and bottled it up and it all just came to a head in the end. Are you in the UK? If you don't like your clinics counsellor I used Talking Therapies via the NHS and they really helped. And believe me I am not a counsellor type of person - I just want a fix not to talk about it for hours!! But it did help me.

Bear with your husband, remember he is grieving too and they often don't know how to deal with things or how to support us. I know my OH has really struggled over the previous years not knowing what to say and he ended up coming off looking like he didnt really care about what had happened, or about how I was feeling. But I also realised I wasn't communicating very well with him either.

I am not sure if this was IVF or natural pregnancies but after the initial grief I found planning my next round or doing something positive towards getting pregnant helped me too, as so much of it is out of your control and it gave me something that I could control eg. diet, vitamins, exercise, planning dates for next round etc etc

Huge hugs xx

[MamaWeez]

I’m so sorry to hear this! It’s tough I know, I’ve been there with 3 miscarriage in 6-7 months. Give yourself some time to grieve the loss. Focus on yourself and what makes you feel better. Once you are ready, start with what you can control, vitamins, diet and so on. If you are doing IVF, change up your protocol.

What you are feeling now is the most difficult, but it will get better and you will be able to pull yourself out of this. Miscarriages mean that pregnancy is a possibility, so if it did not happen today, it only means that it will happen. Believe in that and let it be your anchor.

What worked with me is vitamins for my husband and I (Antioxidants, coq10, zinc). I also took blood thinners injections, aspirin & steroids and high doses of progesterone. Discuss these options with your doctor once you are ready to move forward.

Giving you big hugs and I am here if you need some support. It is always helpful speaking to someone who has been through the same and know how it truly feels.

[StPhilomena]

😢Hi...it is ok to feel lost, specially after ur two babies lost. Please make sure you find urself, ur strength, n inner peace anytime. Take the time ur need to cry, to heal n get well for ur coming baby. Healing, physically and emotionally. Stay blessed.

[HaveFaith1]

I don't know what to say that will make you feel better. I just want to say I'm so sorry to read about what you've been through and I hope you know you're not alone in how you feel. Please be kind to yourself and I wish you lots of luck on your fertility journey xx

[Hidden]

I am so sorry to hear this. I’ve had 2 miscarriages in the last 5 months too and I am struggling so much. My partner left me before I found out I was pregnant and despite coming back into my life left again when I was having a threatened miscarriage. It’s a lot to navigate when you feel so alone. My situation with my ex was very unusual… how are things normally with your partner? Do you think there’s a way to reach him and get more support? What about other people in your life or a counsellor? I see 2-3 professionals a week currently as it’s all been so devastating. Im here if you need anything x

[Hells18 in reply to Hidden]

That’s horrible him leaving you like that!!! I hope ur doing ok!! My husband tells me to talk to him but when I do he brushes it off or goes on his phone it’s making me hate him xx

[Hidden in reply to Hells18]

Could you try a couples counselling or therapy session? At the least I hope you can get some sessions for yourself to explore how you’re feeling and feel heard. How are you today? Sending you much love x