How to stay sane?!

[CassieJ]

Hello, my first post here...trying to seek advice/inspiration on how to stay sane in ttc after a miscarriage. After a month of trying again I have just started my period and felt devastated. It’s really distracted me from work and my fiancé and I ended up having a difficult chat on Saturday about how concerned he was about me being so neurotic/obsessed and scared. We’ve worked things out for now - I know it’s tough for him too and we talk about how he struggles to see me sad and not be able to “fix” things. But I’m really trying to commit to making the next two week wait easier for both of us. Felt super down as lots of friends have managed to conceive very quickly recently and also turning 35 in December so extra feared up. Thank you for reading and tons of luck & faith to all trying to conceive so any thoughts/experience v gratefully received

[justanote]

I'm so sorry about your miscarriage. In my life, I have struggled with infertility and never actually experienced pregnancy. It must be heartbreaking to lose a child. Yet, I believe that God knows what is best for you and the baby. Take some time to heal your body and your spirit. Consider waiting until you and your fiance are married before trying again. Perhaps then your body and spirit will be ready. Meanwhile, I ran across this article that may be helpful to you: bit.ly/2CUC5gJ. I'm praying that you will find peace in the midst of your pain.

[CassieJ in reply to justanote]

Thank you for your kind advice Much appreciated Xx

[Hidden]

Hi Cassie I know how it feels to get the first few periods after a mc is absolutely soul destroying I don’t think men get it they don’t experience the hormonal changes and what your body had to go. Our relationship went through a tough time because of the mc we had to talk also about he’s feelings too as he was massively affected too. We’re in a good place now even tho we just had another mc in July I think we handled it a little better emotionally this time.

[CassieJ in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for getting it. I’ve felt a bit mad this week as having a super heavy very odd period and scared it means something. Inspiring to hear that you and your relationship are surviving despite a second one. I was so exhausted & in so much physical pain after the first-it knocked me for six-so already scared about another. Hope your clinic appointment goes well huge luck :)Xx

[Hidden in reply to CassieJ]

Yeah my periods were abit weird for a few months but the other way went very light it’ll calm down. Take your time let your body and mind heal eat well etc