My nearly 4 year old daughter is still in pull ups help. - ERIC

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My nearly 4 year old daughter is still in pull ups help.

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Hi my little girl has no feeling at her bottom end due to bowel disorder stretch bowels.

I do not want her in pull ups in September 19. So I'm just going to go cold turkey and put her in underwear. Peeps has said put a liner in but I don't want her thinking their like pull ups. What does everyone else think.she screams when I put knickers on her.this is getting me down but I don't let her see me when I'm down.she on meds to help her too. Any advice much appreciated. Thanks.

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Rosieabc

Hello, My son is the same. At 5 1/2 he still doesn't know when he needs to go. Routine has been the key for us. On the potty just before bathtime for 10 minutes with a toy or singing or blowing. And we just buy a lot of pants. He often soils his pants but I tell him it's fine and Mummy will wash them nicely for him. After a few washes if they're stainEd we bin them and get more. It's cheaper than pull ups! Sometimes when it's particularly bad he asks you wear pull ups during that day so he does. Maybe take her out to choose some knickers? Good luck xxx

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Rosieabc in reply toRosieabc

For the washing, we have a nappy bucket and rinse the pants with the outside tap than in the machine with a prewash and antibacterial stuff. Not that pleasant a task but they get clean.

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Misty10 in reply toRosieabc

Hi I have done that took her to m and co and she choose my little pony .she contantly poos anywhere .ive ask her nurse and pedrititians there happy to go to school in pull ups but ive said no way.I have no problem in cleaning them as a carer myself im use to poo lol.its just so frustrating x

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Frustratedmum1

My son is 6and half and still in pull ups. I don't want this but it is the only way I can maintain his dignity and have some form of normal life. At home we do go without and I find it stressful because you are washing pants and trousers all the time. It winds him up because he sees a mess all the time. A toilet routine has really helped us.

If you have any luck could you post me some tips please.

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Misty10 in reply toFrustratedmum1

Are the school good with him he doesn't get bullied I just feel if I send my LG in a pull up their think I'm lazy ,ive tried everythink she screams blue murder where it potty or toilet .she hold all day until I put a pull up on.ergh.

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Frustratedmum1 in reply toMisty10

To be honest he was in pants when we initially sent him to school. But the accidents were getting more regular and more severe. We were getting to the stage where the other children were noticing and he was sitting in it. What I find with the pull ups it seems to have stopped the other children finding it out. We put boxer shorts on over the top so They are hidden. The school have been good but we were going into school after every lunch to sit him on the toilet and change him as they did not have the staff to do this.

What I have found with schools is to be honest What is going on from the start and keep them in the picture. In itself this can be a tricky road as I found that the staff couldn't understand the problem so you end up educating them aswell.

I went through a stage where my son didn't want to sit on the toilet. Someone told me to stop rewarding him for doing a poo. Reward for sitting on the toilet. I thought this was odd but you give anything ago out of desperation and it seemed to help. Perhaps you need to go back a stage. So perhaps just get her comfortable with the toilet and not mention about pooing there. We had to use a tablet in the end and it took longer than I wanted. It seems to take alot of patience and time to get passed small hurdles but you will get there. Another suggestion I found if my son is pooing in his pull ups and I mention it all the time. Ie why not on the toilet this seems to make it worse because they feel they are disappointing you and indirectly we are placing pressure on them. Perhaps if she poos in a pull up just don't acknowledge it. Harder said than done.

Sorry about the essay

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Misty10 in reply toFrustratedmum1

Thankyou for your advice I will do that put knickers on top of pull up and toilet train. I appreciate your advice.

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Frustratedmum1 in reply toMisty10

To be honest if it wasn't for the ideas from this site I would be on a downhill spiral. Just remember you are not alone and all you can do is your best and also you know your child better than anybody. Good luck.

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Misty10 in reply toFrustratedmum1

You too thankyou.

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Misty10 in reply toFrustratedmum1

I have been puting knickers on top of pull up for her own dignity.

she has accepted them.in the summer im going to try and wean her off the pull ups .wish me luck.

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Frustratedmum1 in reply toMisty10

Good for you. Take care. I will be thinking of you

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Misty10 in reply toFrustratedmum1

Hi were back to square one and ended up in hospital she now having a disimpaction for 3 weeks on 8 sachets a day.and 5 most of senna as she was vomiting poo.completely block bowel.drs have told us to hide anythink toilet related and not to try again for at least 3mths to give the bowel a rest .ergh.I just feel it's a long road and feel sad for my lg it's not pleasent.

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Misty10 in reply toMisty10

5mls of senna instead of 2.5 .

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Frustratedmum1 in reply toMisty10

My heart is with you. I'm.not going to lie but it is tough going. Hopefully once the discompaction is done things will slightly improve. At least the doctors will see what is going on and hopefully you will get more support. Please keep in touch

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Misty10 in reply toFrustratedmum1

It's getting me down got one more week of dimpaction. Then she goes on 6 then 4 every day until she 8 years old.she has got and confirmed complex bowel syndrome and chronic constipation as well as ibs as I have ibs mixed.2-5 mls of senna. So be interesting but she so sore and screaming alot but drs say carry on with sudocream. Nightmare x

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Frustratedmum1 in reply toMisty10

You will go through large periods where it does get you down. I try just to think we will just get through today before I think of tommorow. Talk to close friends or family. Try and get things of your chest. The other thing I try and do is do something for yourself even if it is for 30 minutes. I find this is an escape from the whole topic area of constipation and when I re enter this world I have got a bit more fight in me.

Have you tried bepanthen? We find this more affective than sudocream.

Keep in touch

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Misty10 in reply toFrustratedmum1

I'm going to buy some thankyou .done some baking and bake myself a chocolate cake .for me. Also senna does it make your child lightheaded my lg keeps falling over and losing her balance since I ve up her senna to 5mls.x

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Frustratedmum1 in reply toMisty10

When my son was on senna it never made him light headed. He is now on sodium Piculate. Out of interest have they considered doing discompaction just using stimulant drugs. May be a thought for future reference.

Make sure you have a big slice of cake, you deserve it.

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