How to tell her?

Ok so I'm 15, but I still wear diapers for bedwetting; what's even worse is that I still have a babysitter because my parents dont trust me to be by myself. Anyways, at night, when my babysitter is here she'll help me change out of a wet diaper; but she teases me in a light friendly way. How can I let her know that I dont like that, without being rude.

[PinkSciFi]

I’ve always found these types of conversations really hard, but learnt a few tips on a crucial conversations course at work that might help you (google crucial conversations tips if you think it would be useful).

Firstly, it would help to bring it up when she gets over, rather than in the middle of the night.

Think before hand what you want to say - I’d suggest something like “I don’t want you to feel I’m being rude but I need to chat to you about something. When you comment about my diaper it makes me feel embarrassed and silly (or however it does make you feel). I’d really like it if you could.... (what do you want her to do? Leave you to do it yourself, or still help you but not tease you?)”

And then stop and let her respond.

I’m sure she’s not wanting to make you feel bad and that even if she’s a bit taken aback for a moment, she’ll be really glad you let her know how you are feeling - if not then you need to have a chat with your parents.

Good luck!

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Thank you I will do so!

[Frustratedmum1]

I think you just need to be honest and tell her how you feel. Perhaps she thinks it is making it better by humour as she doesn't know what to say.

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Hiya - I was in a similar situation. I am 16 and am in the same position as you. I constantly wet during the day and night. Sometime I have trouble with both pooping and wee. Maybe you should tell your parents and they could have the conversation if you don’t feel comfortable. Just know your not alone. Also a final question - what types of diapers do you wear for night time as i have found it hard to find some that don’t leak as mine get very full

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Thanks for the advice! I usually wear tranquility ATN, Super undies, or sometimes Rearz. Also, if you'd like to talk more I'm always open!

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Thank you - could I message you on here

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Yes, ofc

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Thanks

[Slice]

Land03, I guess to understand this better, I need to know a little more about the situation. I'm going to be a bit direct but please don't take that the wrong way. Do you have physical, medical, or learning challenges? I'm trying to understand why your parents feel that they need to hire a babysitter for you at 15. Are you a boy or girl, and what gender is your babysitter? Taking things at face value, it sounds as if the babysitter is well aware of the awkwardness of this situation, and rather than tease you is just trying to lighten things up. I would just take a time to sit down with them and have a casual discussion with them. Keep it light and casual. If you don't have any of the challenges above, perhaps there is someone who you can talk to that can help you talk to your parents and help them understand that you want to be able to deal with this yourself. Some of the people that may be able to help are relatives (grandparent, aunt, uncle, doctor) to name a few.