Hi all, I'm in need of help and advice. I have nowhere to turn. I'm at a vulnerable point and I don't want to be judged.
My son is undiagnosed but is showing traits of being on the autistic spectrum. He has been under community paediatric consultant since he was 2 years of age. I'm having issues all the time now with regards incontinence. Yuck I know.
I've asked for advice in the past and many people have said that he may be constipated this isn't the case at all.
My son smears it anywhere in his bedroom, he'll have it everywhere. He puts it on his hands and fingers. I've turned the toileting into a game where the toilet is hungry and thirsty this doesn't work for no 2's.
It's a constant battle as my house is staring to smell and my washing machine is starting to show signs of too much usage. I've tried reward charts, I've tried taking things off him which then result in him physically hurting me. I live on my own, I do not qualify for any help. I have DLA for his care needs. I don't have a social worker- why because on paper I'm doing everything right. He goes to school, he is mainstream no help but has IEP's, he is under a Peadiatrician, he goes to scouts one day a week, he has swimming lessons one day a week, he goes to a childminder for three hours a day Monday- Thursday after school as I am studying. He sees his dad on a friday/Saturday.
He soils mainly when he is in his bedroom when at my house. Normally when he is chilling watching his tablet or playing games. I've tried the reminder of going but this also turns physical. I've tried the "how does it make you feel", "do you like it". "I'm not cross, I want to help you". This too ends up physical. I've tried the "Keep it in theře", the threat of "buying nappies".
I want help and I need help, I don't qualify for help, I want to know how can I get out of this rut? How can I approach it when all I get it physical harm from him? Plus verbal? I can't carry him, he's too heavy and I have a bad back. I can't even lay in my bed because he will come in my room when I've taken his tablet off him and hit, punch and kick me. I have nowhere to hide. Please help me.