Need help! Almost 5 year old never pooed on toilet!

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Hello I'm after advice..

My son is 5 in April and started school last September. He has never EVER done a pooh on the toilet. He is completely dry day and night but has always refused to use the toilet to pooh. He will pooh is his pants. Originally he did have constipation but this is no longer the case.

When he needs to go he sneaks off and does it in his pants. He is getting worse and has now started to lie about it.. So refuses to be cleaned which ends in arguments.

I have been to the doctors numerous times who have no advice. I was under the health visitors and tried all of there advice with no avail.. We have tried everything. I am at my wits end.

Now that he is at school it is even more stressful because he will pooh himself there too and also not tell the teachers. I am so scared someone will see and then he will get teased about it.

He just does not seem to be bothered by it at all? Iv tried ignoring iv tried being nice iv tried being mean he just isn't faded.

Does anyone have any advice??????? 😬

I am waiting for a school nurse referral but god knows how long that will take.

Thanks in advance from one upset confused mum.