93 years old stage 2

[Bigtaz]

My father is 93 years old, went to hospital yesterday, was told his kidney is failing and stage 2 Ckd. His not been eating or drinking for 2 Months now. Consultant said he has a few days to weeks to live. I'm so confused at the moment

[Bassetmommer]

HI, At stage 2, he is not in kidney failure. I think you should look for a better consultant who will explain the situation to you. With the age of 93, I would think that stage 2 would be normal because the kidneys decline as we age. Think of it this way, stage 1, perfect to near perfect function, stage 2, some impairment, normal with age( 93) . Stage 3, there is an issue. Stage 4, big issue. Stage 5, near kidney failure to complete failure.

The reason for his lack of eating and drinking is most likely not linked to stage 2 CKD. You need to find out why he is in "loss to thrive mode." But remember, it is his choice.

[itzmich]

So sorry about your Dad.....maybe talk to hospice they are so caring... for the love one and yourself. Prayers for you and your Dad.

[RickHow in reply to itzmich]

You are so right in suggesting Hospice. My mother developed Breast Cancer. They removed the cancer, but did not followup treatment. Not even scans. It was all new to us. If I knew then what I know now, it would be different and I would have insisted. But she was doing fine, but then got Alzheimers. We kept her at home and it was a VERY difficult time. She got to the point the only person she recognized was me and she thought herself a young child. Then the cancer decided it was time to take control. The doctor assigned her to Hospice at home. IT WAS FANTASTIC service. It was best for her as they took such wonderful care. Brought in a hospital bed, controlled her medications and pain (she basically was what I would call in a coma), changed clothes, washed, even at one point dyed her hair for her (something that was very important to her). This brought not just wonderful care to her, beyond what we could provide, but it did so much for us (my father and I) that for the first time in years we felt at peace. They talked with us daily about our feelings too. Medicare paid for everything. My mother passed peacefully in her sleep (they labelled her death due to cancer).

[RickHow]

I can relate on several fronts. My father was your father's age when he passed away. He simply died in his sleep. For years prior he was told his kidney was failing and he was some begining stage of CKD (like your father). Stage 2 at that age is really exactly like someone else posted, quite normal. But why are you even thinking about it. Your dad is 93. Has lived a long life, far exceeding most people. He is not eating or drinking. All the same things my father did. It is not simply his kidney that is failing (stage 2 is nothing to even think about at 93), but he just has had enough and all is failing. It is a difficult time. I realize. I experienced it. There is nothing you can do. DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME searching on the internet for answers, or worrying about this or that health wise. It is out of your hands. Simply spend as much time with him as possible. Not just to be by his side, but it is also for your own sanity. You will see how he is resting comfortably. At times he has enough strength you will be able to exchange a few words. I did this with my father the last 2 weeks of his life as he lay in bed, without pain, without eating or drinking, basically "sleeping". It was 2 weeks I will never forget and gave me peace of mind even now. It seems silly I suppose that for those final weeks I just sat by his side, basically just reading. They brought in a computer and played his favorite style of music (who knows if he even heard it). It is TOTALLY out of your hands and beyond your control so there is nothing to be confused about. 93! Think of that.

[Bigtaz]

Sorry for your lose to my friend. Yes yiur guys are absolutely right. For me it has got to a stage that I just want him to pass peacefully. It's difficult to see him pain now. Yes his had an amazing life leaving 7 children and 30 grandkids. I guess it's a waiting game now. Once again thank you all your your kind words and advice. Stay blessed folks.

[RhenDutchess123]

Ouch...losing your Dad hurts...My Dad has been gone for 18 years now and I miss him everyday. Walking the Earth for 93 years is an accomplishment in itself... I bet he has stories to tell...and I am sure he was a wonderful Father...A strong Man

Now it's your turn to be strong ...try to make him comfortable...pat his hand...tell him what a wonderful Dad he was...remind him of all his successes and your favorite times with him...let him know it's okay to "rest" now..

And it's okay to cry...

Bless You...

[seabreezegirl]

He needs to eat and drink pure water. But I am confused also as Stage 2 is nothing to worry about .

He must have alot farther stage than that to have failing kidneys .

Maybe you miss- understood the Stage number.