Alcohol and me.

[secrets22]

I once was a very heavy drinker,brought on i believe by always trying to be a people pleaser,plus verbal abuse at times,and abuse is still very rampant for gay people in many sections of society,because the ignorance of some is still very backward looking.

I also was desperately shy and nervous,but thankfully not now,well,still a bit at times,i guess it depends on the circumstances.

I had the most wonderful and kind husband,and how he put up with me in my worst times i really dont know,but he never got angry with me ever.

However i have weaned myself off alcohol without much trouble,in fact alcohol does'nt like me anymore,yes i will still have a drink occasionally,and i do mean occasionally ,but 2 small G&T and i'm done,I just cannot hack it.

I had a real fear of going back to my old habits when i lost my devoted husband,but i hav'nt thank goodness,and i often would drink almost a bottle of vodka of a night ,not every night,but certainly many nights.

If i can do it anyone should be able to,but i do believe reading,writing and discovering new interests helps enormously.

[Isinatra]

For me it was a necessity to replace old habits with new ones. I had a lot of free time on my hands once I stopped drinking and had to fill that void that alcohol left. What you are doing instead of drinking isn’t anything less than positive. Peace to you. 😊

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Hello Roddy thank you that's very inspirational myself similar started drinking socially when got in my teens when I started going out to pubs clubs me and friend were shy we would have couple of scherrys before went out to give us confidence, as the years went on I developed confidence and eventually was able to go out and wait until I got to the pub before having a drink exept on them internet date times I'd be a bag of nerves and would have can cider or lager before going, now when I go out for a bar meal I never drink infact have cup tea if it's a baguette and chips lol we only go to our quiet local tho, at family b b Q's I may have couple if others are but go onto cuppa tea as I just pref my food swilled down with a cuppa lol, not very etiquit can't even spell it 😁my problems still the same with binge when bored upset stressed I will have full bottle cider or wine even more, this week I've been fine except one night had full bottle which made me so poarly, rest of week fine stopping at one glass or half bottle had 2 nights with nothing my alternative was cocoa or tea with chocolate biscuits milky bar chocolate buttons or and mini mars a great combination but not so good on the cholestrol and still sugary, but sure as I exercise I'll be fine, either biking or swimming or good walk round park, the exercise I feel relaxed me and relives stress and I go to sleep early most nights now,as you know I'm now 57 and as we get older it's harder on the body to cope with alcohol and certainly plays havock on my tummy at times especially when I'm stressed, I'm like you we don't have addictive personalities so we are able to drink in moderation in social occasions I'm aiming for this without the home alone drinking,or maby just a treat drink at home on weekend with some treat foods and not 5 nights a week, if and when I'm settled in the home of my dreams wherever that is I hope to start painting again not the abode as currently are but on canvas in oil, and do more photography and paint what I see, I'll swim more too when all this DIY is over and the cold weather eases, I'm so pleased you haven't slipped back to your old ways you are so much stronger than you think and I feel more than me after all you have had to endure and it never ends does it one thing after another, same here but your adversities are far worst than mine have been mostly and you have had to face them alone most of the time and during the lockdowns, you came through the loss of David all on your own you should be proud of yourself, love and hugs to you and your doggies as always from Mandy and pixiebob 🤗😺💛🌟xxx

[Rita1404]

Wow what an inspiration. I'm struggling at times but have reduced which i guess is a step in the right direction. Sorry for your loss though and your husband would be proud you haven't picked up the drink again xx