Well Xmas Eve morning to be accurate, and yes I lie here spotty pajamas's once more and think back. Who would want a 40 something, no job, no money, no home and ill. At the time it was very tough, I took some tough decisions and it hurt. It hurt a lot, and those around me too. But with PD you have this overwhelming need to focus, to drive in your direction, to be who you want to be. Shaping that into an old life sometimes doesn't work. It didn't for me, so I had to move on.
Finding someone again seemed impossible, but it has happened. There is an ease within me that he didn't know me before PD and that he therefore doesn't mourn for the woman I was, as I am to him what I will be for the rest of my life, someone living with illness. He knows to give me space, he lets me run at 1000 miles an hour, he accepts the whole deal. I am fortunate to have found him, but I did, and so can you. The right person is out there, keep looking. Thank you so much for all the kind words and support, and messages.
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In answer to someones question I was 100% upfront about my condition, and I found my man on the internet
Good luck for Saturday, youre a very lucky person to have found someone to understand and give you space...almost 5 yrs ago now ,I also found a wonderful man, had no pd problems like i have now, he has stood by me and my children and helped me through the tough times and made life bearable. Today you made me realise something i have been stressing over for the past 2yrs by what you said 'trying to be who you used to be and shaping into yr old life ' . Has made me realise I need to stop trying to be who I was and focus on who I am now. We have bought a lovely l new place together and move in next month (hopefully) to start a new life.
In the back of my mind i kept thinking 'whats the point' now i know exactly what it is.... to be focused on the future and not let this bloody disease rule my head.
I met the best guy when I was 63 same year I was diagnosed. We had 4 glorious fun years together when he passed away from lymphoma. SO glad we had that time together. I feel confident that nothing can keep two people apart if they live life one day at a time.
Good for you! I had to face my diagnosis without the love or support of a spouse, it is difficult. I do have a close friend whose father had PD and that has been helpful, but not the same. It has been 8 yrs, since my ex and I split and I would really love to have someone in my life. I am very happy for you!
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