Well, dad moved down to a nursing home near me just before Christmas. He found the move "overwhelming" and the journey horrendous. He came down to the Home with a bad cold and, as I feared, ended up in hospital after only a few days so that he could be given intravenous antibiotics. He was there over Christmas and was then discharged back to the Home but had tested positive again for MRSA. Because of this he is being kept in his room and I think he is fed up.
I have been to visit him as often as I can - my husband and I both had colds over Christmas (caught from dad, we believe) and our health isn't good at the best of times. We now have to go up to the Midlands to put his bungalow (where we used to stay when we visited him up there) on the market. The trouble I'm now having is that I feel guilty that I don't go to visit him often enough! Or how often should I be visiting? We live about 5 miles away and I feel desperately sorry for him as he knows no-one in the new Home but we have to protect our own health as well as carry on with our lives. I'm hoping that things will settle down eventually once he is able to mix with the other residents and we've been up to the Midlands to deal with the agents.
I just wonder how others cope with the guilt and also how often others visit their parents/loved ones? When I do visit he is never that bothered and yesterday went to sleep. He is always more demonstrative with carers or others than with me but that's been a long-standing problem. I just don't know what to do for the best and am still worrying even though he's now close by.
Thank you for any replies and advice.