Dad failing

[klr31]

Hello,

Dad finally came out of hospital last Thursday and was initially pleased to be back at the Nursing home. He had a week of intravenous antibiotics in the Home and finished those today but should be on oral antibiotics for another two weeks. On Sunday and today when I visited dad hasn't looked or felt well but can't say exactly how, apart from he's very tired.

I have to make the decision whether to have dad readmitted to hospital if his infection returns (which is highly likely) but have had very little input to help me with this decision. He could have oral antibiotics at the Home and be made comfortable or just be made comfortable. I think he might be approaching the end as he looks unwell and his hands and legs are cold despite the weather. However, he has recovered before.

In addition, my husband has had a UTI and needs to get home to visit his own doctor in order to go for tests/checks. He is aiming to travel home on Sunday all being well but I wonder if dad has long left to live and whether I should be going or staying.

Karen

[sassy59]

I don’t envy you the decisions to be made regarding your dear dad but I think it may be best to leave him where he is. He can have oral ab’s and be kept nice sod comfortable.

See how things are in the next few days and then decide if you stay with dad or go home.

Thinking of you. Take care xxxx

[Bananas5]

My own feelings is leave him where he is and no more disruption if at all possible.

Doctors prefer patients to be in hospital as it is 'convenient' but Dad shouldn't need to move again..

Maybe speak with the home Sister and see if he needs anything to make him more comfy. Hard for you if husband not well either. I have been in your situation but with my Mum.

Hugs

x

[jaykay777]

You might do best to accompany your husband unless he tells you otherwise.

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Hi kir31

Thanks for coming back to update us on the latest news with your dad. This must be such a draining and emotional time for you, and I know that, as the end draws nearer, decisions get harder and harder to make.

This has to be your decision, ultimately, together with any input dad is able to give too, as to his wishes. Maybe I'd try to tackle it by putting myself in his place and think about what I'd want if it was me and where I'd rather end my days.

It's so hard, but please be reassured that, although we can't decide for you, we are most definitely here for you and thinking of you.

None of the options you give are the 'wrong' thing. You can only do the best you can.

With warmest thoughts and best wishes, and if you can find time, please keep us informed.

[klr31]

Thank you to all who took the trouble to reply. I really appreciate it.

Karen