Vascular dementia/Alzeihemers

[1poppie1]

My mum has an obsession about going to church everyday of the week (she always goes on a Sunday) it doesn't matter if it's 10am or 2.30am I just cannot get through to her it's not open. any suggestions?

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Obsessions are so difficult to deal with aren't they? My mother is convinced that she needs the loo (bowels wise as she calls it) every 10 mins. Consequently she won't leave her toilet. I have no ideas, I am afraid unless you can find a church or chapel that has something like a coffee morning and she can go to that.

[Jennymary]

Please don't take this the wrong way, if your mother had dementia and says she needs to go to church why not try the, let's have a drink first and then go and try to distract her, so she forgets she wants to go to church, I visited my late Great Aunt for ten yrs who had rather bad dementia (she was also 101 when she passed away) if she said she needed to go to the shops I sat and talked to her about different things and she soon forgot about the shops, I wish you, your mother and family well xx

[1poppie1 in reply to Jennymary]

Thank you I've tried the distraction technique to no avail X

[harrisonharrison]

Don't know if it would be appropriate for your mum, but have you thought about a colour changing clock to help demonstrate difference between night and day? Its aimed at kids, but have been thinking it might be useful for my Dad at some point.

I have this one for the kids: argos.co.uk/product/9103348 -

For the church service - is there a tv recording (e.g. church service on Youtube) or radio programme that might satisfy her immediate needs while staying at home?

Appreciate these have a low chance of working - but thought it worth suggesting as ideas. Good luck.

M

[1poppie1 in reply to harrisonharrison]

Thank you so much for your time. I'm going to try the u tube idea next time we have an 'incident' x

[swarwick]

I know how frustrating this can be, I always found that distracting them, with 'let's have a cuppa tea then we will go' works, it stops you getting frustrated in having to explain every time it's not open and your mum will feel like she is being listened too.

Best Wishes

S

[1poppie1]

Think you've replied in the wrong post

[Kamma50]

Hi, my Mum watches online youtube vatican channel and it is a God send (no pun intended!). Here is the link and they run on a continuous loop once the one mass finishes, another one starts. My mum is Italian but the masses are in Italian and different languages, too.

Here is the link: youtube.com/watch?v=BEkEnNm...(Not working as expected?)

My Mum's church also has a live link and you can watch some of the recordings of the masses, too. This is their link and you can click on the 'recordings' to watch some of the previous masses, if your church does not have this service: stbedesbasingstoke.org.uk/l...

Hope this is of help? xx