My mother is 89 years old and lives alone in Scotland. She was widowed 4 years ago after 65 years marriage. She is in relatively good health and still lives in her own bungalow. She has carers in twice a day but does not allow them to do very much to help her. She has an alcohol problem and as a result frequently falls and lately has begun soiling herself as she does not eat properly. I live 500 miles away so can not visit often. She has said she wants to go into a home but I am worried she will not be happy there. The family home would have to be sold to pay for residential fees and I worry that she might want to change her mind.