"Push the button" Thanks and another thought. - Tinnitus UK

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"Push the button" Thanks and another thought.

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Thank you to everyone who joined in the discussion. The overwhelming outcome was that we would " Push the button". However, there were some interesting points as to how T had shaped people in a positive way. It had made them a more empathetic person. I understand this as I am one of those people. However, I would still "push the button".

This generates another discussion. Would you rather be a "better person" with T or more of a selfish person without it?

Thoughts again would be appreciated.

Wishing you all peace and quiet.

Ade

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Ingrid-p

That’s a very difficult question as I would love to get rid of my t, but I would not want to be a selfish person. Having said that I would definitely still push the button. After 38 years of bloody t I think I’m now entitled to be a little bit selfish 😊

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ade-the-pade in reply to Ingrid-p

I am with you. Life can be a struggle and sometimes you have to put yourself first. T is no doubt a heavy burden to carry. You have put in a long shift. I'll let you know if I find a button.

Ade

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Ingrid-p in reply to ade-the-pade

If you find that button tell me where it is as I’m pushing it straight away! Selfish is the way forward 😂😂😂

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Keoni

I would definitely push the button but I would also carry with me the need to remain calm, relaxed, tolerant and empathic of others. Life's experiences shape us into who we are. So, maybe I would be a better person either way.

Respectfully submitted,

Keoni

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Marlayna

I would naturally be a better person without it! I wouldn’t have to worry about noise levels and monitor my situations and feel stressed. Currently in NYC and honestly don’t understand how people live here as it’s unbearably loud. I wear earplugs just to go outside!

And as a stoic, I feel that selfishness is a positive attribute (however cruelty is not.) Remember the advice on a plane is to put your oxygen on first before you help anyone else. We are at our best when we care for ourself and then have the strength to help others.

Since this is anonymous, I can say that while walking the other day I gave my last bit of cash I had in my wallet to a man who said he was hungry. My 21-year-old son said I should never give money away because most of these people are scammers. My answer was but what if that one particular guy really was hungry? Will never know but I prefer to think that my action Contributed toward a meal rather than drugs or alcohol.

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ade-the-pade

Vert thoughtful and considered response. Ade

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Ruud1boy

I'd rather be the better person without my whistling friend. But given the options, I'd happily trample on anyone to get rid of him. I can be kind later.

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ade-the-pade

I must admit that i am fully with you on that.

Regards

Ade

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