Joined this in the hope of getting some support.
My father was diagnosed with final stage liver cirrhosis noticed by prominent ascites in March 2018. I have supported him to numerous appointments in hospital (endoscopy, draining of the abdominal fluid) and even an admission to a detox ward in a mental health hospital I work with.
My dad has been alcohol free for the past 6 months and we have had the best relationship I have tried my best to keep in contact daily and help with anything I can. Just this week however he has started drinking again and doesnt plan to attend any further appointments and has started making funeral plans for when the inevitable happens.
I am finding this very hard to cope with it feels as though he has given up and I find the relationship with my dad when he is drinking difficult as he can be quite snappy. My dad describes alcohol as 'better than medicine' for his underlying anxiety and depression diagnosis. Thus the reason for drinking again.
As a mental health nurse myself I feel particularly useless and this is contributing mostly to the sadness I feel alongside the realness of having to grieve for my dad so young (im 23 and he is 56 years).
Anyone going through a similar situation id appreciate hearing from you.
Hi. Sorry to hear about your dad. Has he been told that he has a chance of xplant if he stops drinking for 12 months ? My partner was diagnosed in June 2015 & had a xplant in July 2016. He wasn't an alcoholic but a heavy social drinker. He did however stop drinking on diagnosis & was very ill for 6 months prior to xplant. He is now doing really well & extremely thankful to be given a chance of a healthy life. I do have to say that only your dad can decide what's best for him but that isn't easy for you. I found great help on this site, don't know how I would have coped without the support.xx
Thanks for replying. Nice to hear a success story following transplant. My dad was offered to go on the transplant list however declined it as he believes he will have complications before a liver would become available. I also think he has such a poor quality of life due to depression that he has no motivation to change or wish to live to be honest. He also doesnt feel he deserve another chance as he has done it to himself (drinking) I think all I can do is deal the best I can with the next while and hope he doesnt deteriorate too quickly