Hi everyone,
I have been reading so much on here and trying to find answers but then realised quickly that I should just write my own posts and stop worrying about asking for help. The joys of being a natural born worrier are that I worry if I don’t have anything to worry about - but I’ve taken a good few, positive steps since my diagnosis in March.
I’ve turned a corner with my grief for my dad and finally feel like I’m on the path to starting to accept that this isn’t one of his usual dreadful April Fools - it still hurts like hell but I’ve moved out of the “I might as well just join you/life is totally pointless now” stage. (Some may not know I got diagnosed with cirrhosis within three weeks of losing my dad/hero/soul mate).
I’ve reconnected with my counsellor, been far more open with friends and my fiancé and feeling more positive than negative on more days.
However, I still have moments of blind panic where after a few days of being in total denial I remember that I am actually very sick still. When I have extended bouts of feeling well and happy, my mind convinces me that because I’m eating well, gaining some much-needed weight, have good energy and practically shouting “carpe diem” at anyone who’ll listen, I’m cured....that because I’ve totally changed my lifestyle (zero alcohol, early nights, healthy food, moderate exercise) my liver has fixed itself. Has anyone else had this - either not long after diagnosis or further down the line? If so, I’d be so grateful to read your experiences.
Signs that remind me I’m still sick include fatigue and the best ‘tan’ I’ve ever had. The tan is a hard one as I spend a lot of the year in southern France because of my fiancé’s work (I do my job online so I can work anywhere). I’m brown as opposed to yellow but still have never in my life tanned this colour before. I’m constantly checking the whites of my eyes. They’re certainly not bright, still a little bloodshot but I do wear contact lenses and my partner says they’re not yellow but I see a tinge.
I had an MRI in May but have had no letter or results yet and at my three month check up just prior to the scan, my consultant (who also lectures) told me he’d just had a debate with his fourth year students about whether you can recover from cirrhosis without a transplant- he said it was a misconception that you couldn’t but this just may have fuelled my false hope?
My gums bleed easily and I still get the odd very small, light nosebleed usually when I’m stressed...
I have no pain at the moment and that’s about it!
Sorry to witter on. Hope to hear from some of you lovely people.
Take care,
Beth.