Help!

[Suekane]

Hi I've recently gone through a relationship breakdown (together 18 years) & have been finding it really tough. I have spent days feeling like I can't do anything; ,as a consequence I've ended up on beta block, depression, anxiety & pain meds. I have been in rehab, the local alcohol service (who offered to discharge me because they could find no trace of alcohol & I had no withdrawals. I have also been attending stress & relaxation courses. However I visited my gp today & my GGT is 290 & ,lft is 85. I'm worried to say the least - obviously I. Need to stop relying on drink, but its difficult when your partner of 18 yrs is taking you to court to force the sale of our house (which I love) any tips of any description would be most appreciated. I must get through this stressful time. Thanks in advance. Ps could any of you.guys let me know you LFT results. Thanks in advance my friends xxx sue

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Sue, my heart goes out to you. This is such a terrible thing to happen at any time, but sadly at this time of the year it's doubly hard. I really don't want to sound nosy, but was there a reason for him leaving? I ask this as alcohol has been the cause of many a breakup. 18-years is a long time, and a lot of investment would have been made by both of you for him to just want to up and walk away. I think once you know where it's gone wrong, that's when you can begin to put things right.

I've gone through my life making the same mistake over and over again, just because I never learn't or understood the mistakes I was making. If on the other hand, he's having an affair, then that's a different matter and can be very hard to understand for a woman. Either way this is understandably a time of mixed emotions. Anger, Rejection, bitterness, emptiness.... etc. I could go on, but hopefully you'll get my drift. It's very common for someone in your sad position to seek solace in alcohol. We use this as a form of self-medication, but this just adds more pain to the mix as alcohol is a depressant. You then drink more to lift the depression and a downward cycle begins. You are presently quit understandably emotionally damaged, but causing physical damage to your body through alcohol abuse is not going to help.

I'm not going to comment on LFT results as discussing blood tests results on this forum is frowned upon by the BLT.

You will get a lot of help and support here I'm sure. It's easy to say, but try to remain positive as much as possible, try to view things in a positive light and not allow bitterness to control your emotions.

You are not alone here, and there's plenty of support and friendship to be had.

Please just stay strong.

Richard.xx

[scampi2122]

I can only say I have been in a similar situation, it was my reaction to all the legal stuff which took my drinking out of control. It is so easy to medicate and drink on self pity and resentment, your head becomes a 'washing machine' of thoughts going around and around. So stop or cut down on alcohol giving you clearer way of thinking.

Try to be grateful for something each night when you go to bed. Life can be shit, but there rays of light everywhere, you have to look to find them. Try some CBT, that might help, ask others for help, explain how you feel. GGT tests and LFT can be all over the place with alcohol and medications. they should improve pretty quickly if you stop/cut down the alcohol. The other medication shd only be reduced with the advice of a Doctor, but personally I would try and cut down on those too, many anti depressants are useless when combined with heavy drinking. Keep well and do try your best for yourself x

[19581979]

Hi Sue

All I can say like everyone else is we are thinking about you. The other thing I will ask is are you getting help about the house? If not you need to. If nothing else your local Citizens Advice bureau might be a good starting point. They can at least point you in the right direction.

Finally are you any good at drawing? The reason I ask is that it is a way of getting out feelings for those who are. It beats the bottle. Unfortunately I'm one of those who thinks stick drawings are the height of drawing skills. I never worked on these skills, that's a story in itself.

Until my injury I used to take my anger and hurt out on housework. Fortunately for me it didn't happen too often as I would go crazy moving furniture, dumping rubbish ( even if it wasn't). Until I calmed down I created a an exclusion zone. Still the house did look better for a few days. Now I can't do it I get really difficult to live with. I might need to get my crayons out and start learning to draw.

Take care

Gx