Need advice

I'm 21 years old, I've been with my boyfriend 5 years and we've always had unprotected sex. The last year and a half we've been trying for a baby but not getting pregnant. I have irregular periods and some months I don't come on at all. I'm very shy and not confident at all and get myself worked up about going to the doctors to get checked so thought I'd ask for advice on here with what I should do. Thank you

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  • Hi there

    Sorry to hear about your situation. But the only way to find out what is going on with your menstrual cycle is to be investigated by a healthcare professional, as a couple (not just you). You might find it easier in the first instance to visit a young people’s sexual health clinic for advice. use this link to see if you have a Brook clinic in your area or this

    If you are not near a Brook, there will be a YP’s service near you via the NHS. They can then chat through what’s been happening, and make a referral to a specialist if they think that would help. They will help give you the confidence to get checked out as they are used to working with young people. Good luck.

    Best wishes


  • Hi I was in the same position as you- irregular periods etc so I went to the GP where he referred me to the fertility clinic where it was found I wasn't able to ovaulate properly.

    After a few tests I was out in chomid and pleased to say that it worked!( currently 28weeks👶🏻) Who knew all I needed was a little tablet lol

    Get yourself to the GP where they'll want to test your partner aswell as your put forward as a couple!

    Good luck X

  • If you need advice but don't fancy going to the doctor's, maybe you could try going to your nearest CASH/GUM clinic. Having an informal chat with a nurse might be a bit less daunting than talking to a doctor, and they can point you in the direction of extra help/support if you need it. I have always found this to be true.

    Consider taking your partner too - as earlier comments have said, two of you need to be involved to make a baby! Having him there may also lessen your nerves when talking to a professional.