help please

my girlfriend is pregnant we had intercourse on 9th of of march. we want to have abortion but she is very scared and nervous she dont want her parents to know about it keeping confidential. we even dont know we need to get admitted or the doctor agrees to keep the information confidential? we dont want them to inform our gp and send letters to home.

please advise where we must go and how long the procedure and this will affect future pregnancy

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  • Hi Araz,

    If your girlfriend does not want to continue with the pregnancy, yes she can get an abortion in complete confidentiality. Nobody will be told about the procedure if she doesn't want to tell them, including her parents and her GP. If she is under 18, she will need to be accompanied by an adult - so someone over 18 - on the day of her abortion.

    If your girlfriend doesn't want to speak to her GP about it, she could go to her nearest sexual health clinic where they can refer her for an abortion - again, they will not tell her GP if she doesn't want them to. You can find your nearest sexual health clinic online here:

    Alternatively, your girlfriend can ring bpas directly on 03457 30 40 30 and discuss her options and book a consultation.

    How long the procedure will take will depend on the type of treatment your girlfriend chooses. We have more information on our website here about the different types of procedures, but if is important to know that safe, legal abortion has no impact on a woman's chances of having a baby in the future:

    I hope this helps. I think the best thing to do would be for your girlfriend to speak to a medical professional sooner rather than later as she is so anxious. Please let her know that there is no reason to be scared - whatever she decides, people will be available to support her.

    Best wishes,


  • Thank you very much for the reply. My girlfriend is very scared about it after reading rivews on bpas as many of them wrote the pain was horrible and some people wrote the about complications. Furthermore bit confused if it does affect her health by any way. And after taking a pill if dhe goes home can she manage.please reply.

  • Hi Araz,

    No problem at all. Happy to help.

    In terms of the impact on a woman's health, abortion procedures, especially in the early weeks of pregnancy are very safe. No clinical procedure is entirely without its risk but while there is a risk of infection, at bpas all women are giving a course of antibiotics to reduce this risk. In terms of your girlfriend's chances of having a healthy pregnancy in the future, no link has been found between between abortion and any ectopic pregnancy or infertility.

    It amount of pain will depend on the procedure your girlfriend chooses, and she can discuss her options with one of our counsellors at an appointment. There is more information about the different types of procedures and what they involve on our website here:

    We do advise that when a woman leaves after an abortion, she is accompanied by a partner or friend. I hope this helps.

    Best wishes,


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