My mum was admitted to hospital 3 weeks ago. She has copd(not sure what stage but she didn't use continuous inhalers but has had a few chest infection in the last 2 month and she would get out of breath very eislily) they put her on non invasive ventilation first then changed to the one going in her mouth. Her condition got critical by then they found out she caught influenza A and pneumonia on top. She got sedated and had been on the ventilation for the last 2 weeks. She had trouble waking up but she finally did 3 days ago they they straight away they started weaning her off it so far every mode they have put her on she was fine today and yesterday she has been on the spontaneous mode and pretty much breathing for herself. She is still on antibiotics but she is getting stronger each day and she has only been awake for 3 days!!! The drs called us in today to tell us that my mother has very little chance of getting out of hospital and to have an ok quality of life based on how weak she is and how much support she currently needs and wanted us to agree if anything majorly goes wrong they would stop any further treatment as such additional life supporting medication or to bring her back if her heart stops. This morning we were so optimistic as each day she is looking so much better and now we feel there is not much hope but agree with dr that if she can't have the quality of life outside of her hospital we don't think she would want to carry on but generally she is an upbeat person who I don't think it would cross her head now that she might not want to live. She suffers with anxiety so there is now way we would attempt to have this conversation with her.
We just feel like tok hospital is now thinking of numbers and money rather than a person which is understandable from their point of view but just makes us feel very helpless