Sitting here part way through my morning meds intake routine, Ann just left to go shopping, musing on your response. Life is not fair and makes no pretence to be so, it just is. Those of us who share this forum need no reminders of that but there are some circumstances that lay one hurt upon another that feel particularly hard to take and yours feels like that to me.
The feeling of helplessness to help or aid another is so bloody galling.
My very best wishes Wendells for some luck a bit closer to that which you deserve than you're getting right now.