1st alcoholic drink in 5yrs

[Lynn1966]

After a very stressful 18 months. My stepmum was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Iv have been with her every step of the way 😢 Sadly she passed away 8 days ago😢😢

I decided to have an alcoholic 😀 while I’m on holiday, 1st one in 5 years 🤦‍♀️ I don’t miss alcohol at all 🤣😂

[yellow731]

aww bless you , nice to have one though to raise a toast for your step mum .

[Lynn1966 in reply to yellow731]

That’s who I did it for.. While she was going through all her illnesses she was more worried about me. She was such a lovely kind lady 😢 xx

[Kelling in reply to Lynn1966]

Whilst being with you in your sadness for loosing a relative, which can be so very stressful in so many ways. My real concern is for you in another way and would like to ask you just the one question: - That is why you stopped drinking five years ago - hope you don't mind my asking?

My very best wishes to you

J

[Lynn1966 in reply to Kelling]

Hi Kelling, I stopped drinking and smoking the day I had my heart attack. I promised my children that I’d never smoke again and I’ll not drink ( not that I drank much apart from going to a party) I said I will do everything that I am advised to do, so if anything did happen then they know I did my best. X

[yellow731 in reply to Lynn1966]

Ive not smoked since a hour before my attack , wish i listened to my daughter years ago when she kept telling me , and i dont miss or crave them either x

[Kelling in reply to Lynn1966]

Thats great news, I just wondered if you had broken a pledge - I have not had a drink since 1996 - having reached my quota early, I had to stop - if you know what I mean. Good luck to you and good luck with your growing strength

[BeKind28-]

Hello

I am so sorry to hear about your StepMom and how she must have known how much she was loved you caring for her like you did

I do not blame you one bit having a toast to her while on Holiday and may I say you look very well and glam in your pic x

[Lynn1966 in reply to BeKind28-]

She was such a beautiful person, never said a bad word about anyone and always seen the good in people..

oh thank you lol I do try to make an effort when I’m on holiday.

How are you BeKind ? Xx

[BeKind28- in reply to Lynn1966]

Hello

She sounds like my Grandma was like and so I can imagine what a beautiful person she was

You hair looks lovely I like the style it really suits you

Me the same as always not coping I feel I just get worse my anxiety will just not settle

Thank you for asking me x

[rjb112 in reply to BeKind28-]

Have you tried listening to the Audio Tapes of Dr. Claire Weekes, MD? Or reading any of her books? She was an expert on anxiety. You might be able to get her audio tapes and books in the library. Best wishes to you

[BeKind28- in reply to rjb112]

Hello

Yes I have listened to many of her tapes they have helped until my own thinking comes back

Thank you for the suggestion x

[rjb112 in reply to BeKind28-]

You're welcome BeKind28. Here's a different suggestion: Recoveryinternational.org is based on the teachings of a Neurologist/Psychiatrist named Dr. Abraham Low, MD. They have many Zoom meetings each week based out of the US, I think over 100 total, because there is active participation in most of the States of the U.S. Dr. Abraham Low, MD is usually referred to as a Neuropsychiatrist. Mental Health Through Will Training is his main book. You could get that at a library or online. There's even a way to get a free copy online, as a PDF. There will be a new version of the book coming out over the next many months, I don't know exactly when.

Another excellent book is The Wisdom of Dr. Low.

Check out the website, recoveryinternational.org

Almost all the meetings are on Zoom. There are Zoom meetings for newcomers which you can find out about online at their website. I think a total of 4 Zoom meetings for newcomers.

Wishing you the very best!!

[BeKind28- in reply to rjb112]

Hello

I will take a look at that thank you so much and for the links to it is very kind of you x

[rjb112 in reply to BeKind28-]

You're welcome BeKind28. My pleasure. Wishing you the very best.

[BeKind28- in reply to rjb112]

x

[Lynn1966 in reply to BeKind28-]

Aw be kind I’m so sorry to hear that you are struggling with your anxiety . If you ever need someone to talk to or just to listen I am here my lovely..

you take good care of yourself xx

[BeKind28- in reply to Lynn1966]

Hello

Thank You x

[RufusScamp]

Your step-mum was fortunate to have you with her. I'm sure she would agree you deserved that drink!🙂

[Heyjude31]

Enjoy every moment, celebrate your stepmoms life! 🙏

[Yumz199725]

Wow I bet that felt great and tasted amazing !

[Lynn1966]

Although I haven’t processed she is no longer here , as we came on holiday 3days after her passing . She will certainly be missed.

I do have something fantastic to look forward to in October my granddaughter will be born😀 I really can’t wait. 😀😀xx

[Bingo88]

So sorry to hear about your loss Lynn1966. But you certainly deserve that drink for supporting her all through her illness and certainly looking good as well. Hope you had an Amazing holiday. Brian

[Noodlesalad]

I did exactly the same when my mum died two years ago, it was a huge mistake and I was so sick afterwards.

[Qualipop]

So sorry about your stepmum. That's such a painful condition and hard to watch it progress. I haven't touched a drop of alcohol since 1972 when I had my first ever serious hangover which was enough to stop anyone. Come Christmas I sometimes wish I could have a sherry or an occasional whiskey but I'm now on strong opiates so it's no longer my choice but I honestly don't even think about it 99.9% of the time. I no longer even like one chocolate liqueur.

[Seasid]

Alcohol is very addictive and dangerous. My family is destroyed by alcohol. If you want less problems in your life just stay away from alcohol. Every addict find some good reason to continue his addiction. The easiest way is just don't drink alcohol.

[Lynn1966 in reply to Seasid]

I don’t have an addiction with alcohol nor have I ever had an addiction 🤷‍♀️

[Seasid in reply to Lynn1966]

That is great.

Unfortunately lot of people get addicted. Alcohol is very addictive and I don't underestimate that problem. I personally would stir far away from alcohol. My family history proves that problem.

[Seasid in reply to Seasid]

I feel better when I am not under the influence of alcohol, plus I really hate the way how are feel the next day even after consumption of minimal alcohol. Next day I don't feel that it is me. Than I say to myself it is because of that alcohol yesterday.

[Seasid in reply to Seasid]

Therefore for me it is really not the question of addiction but rather how I feel. Not to say anything about the increased cancer risks with alcohol.

[JessicaRed]

So sorry for the loss of your lovely stepmum bless her, its taken me more than 2 years to deal with the death of my Mum even though she was 91 yrs of age the last few years were not good healthwise but the end was an unexpected shock, as an only child been a lot to deal with but family helped me get through till now Ive been hit with my heart problemsJust had to cancel our spring trip to Spain next yr but hoping ill be allowed out before too long lol

Cheers bottoms up enjoy every moment

[Lynn1966 in reply to JessicaRed]

I lost my mum 5years ago. I still can’t get my head around it 😢😢 no matter what age we are we will always want our mums..

Hopefully you will be able to travel next year..

take care of yourself xx