New to heart failure : Hiya, I’m a 4... - British Heart Fou...

British Heart Foundation

54,321 members33,988 posts

New to heart failure

Dru75 profile image
12 Replies

Hiya,

I’m a 46 year mum recently diagnosed with heart failure, LVSD to be precise. At the time of diagnosis my EF was just 15. I’m on a plethora of drugs that the heart failure team are currently trying to optimise. I’m trying to put a brave face on it all and have started a phased return to work, but I’m scared, miserable and exhausted all the time. Would be lovely to talk to people who understand and going through similar stuff.

Written by
Dru75 profile image
Dru75
To view profiles and participate in discussions please or .
12 Replies

Hi, I have cardiomyopathy diagnosed in my thirties, now I am early forties. I have school aged kids. I don't have exactly the same condition but can empathise with the exhaustion and brave face and trying to keep everything going whilst absorbing life-changing news.

It is OK to not have a brave face all the time, though it can be hard for friends and family to understand.

Has your workplace been supportive? Do you feel ready to go back?

From what I have read on here some people can see a big improvement in EF once they have been diagnosed so hopefully you will too.

Dru75 profile image
Dru75 in reply to

Hi, Thank you for your reply. I definitely haven’t had a brave face on today. My EF has improved slightly but it’s the exhaustion that is hard to cope with. I’m only 6 months down the line though and apparently there is quite a bit of medication juggling so hopefully things will get better still. Just feel so bad that my 7 year old is missing out on activities with me.

Brian1974 profile image
Brian1974

Hiya Dru75

Had the exact problem CHF EF12 but that was after being missdignosed as a chest infection

3 times after 3 different courses if anti-biotics and sterloids was seen on a late friday gp whom i had never seen before or after(i have tried to contact through practice)who rushed me into hospital with 150hbpm and afterhaving pump inserted moved to the heart transplant ward in the Golden jubilee where it started to drop through as you are going throug various medication .

I have 5 kids and 2 Grand kids who i missed a lot of time with through the year's working 7 days a week having some time at home on call,which i suppose is kind of catch 22,you are out working hard to try and give them the things they want but missing them at the same time!

4 out of 5 kids are girls who have me wrapped round their fingers oldest 30 and youngest 4

and run rings round and then try and raise my voice to calm things down

and my youngest Faith who is 4 just looks at me and i just melt and say"right ok then"so

as you can imagine is a weee bit loud sometimes and when aftercouple of month

bpm down EF up to twenties which i didnt really understand at first that nobody's is ever

100%.

Anyway i also have enlarged heart cardiomegaly Asthma and couple of other health problems Anxiety which i already had before, pdsd etc.

When i was in hospital i was told off most coctors that i would never work again

which i still have trouble trying to accept.

But when i was disschrded to my :stress free enviorment:

😀🌈(I think that is a myth)started to realize and accept tat i couldnt do what i used to so you are lucky and some people may say i'm mad which is probably right but i always looked forward going to workias a industrial steam boiler engineer,so part of accepting that

after years of doing all the hard work and courses to get to where i was where no longer an option ,even if i could i wouldnt as i would a lot of other people to think about if something happend to me while working away on a main steam valve or up in a cherry picker.

All of that kind ofmade me get through as my health both physically and mentally

wher very low .But now i am slowly getting there (baby steps)as one of the dotors

says,and this pandemic has chopped and changed a lot of my hospital appointments

where i was not going to get scans etc.as often .

I am a 46 year old man and i was using a lot of excuses as i could not run around like a

teeenager or cycle for miles like before which the doctors in the jubilee

say may have helped me get through the worstas was a bit fitter then ,tried the getting old ,no chance as am still a strapping you lad so just to send my warmest regards and to let you know that it does ,will get bettera and thogh you may fell it you must br doing good

or you would not be out and about and remeber also take it easy as you get about more you will start to feel a bit fitter and it could be worse you could have 7 to run about after!(HA-HA)wouldn't change a thing !

Dru75 profile image
Dru75 in reply toBrian1974

Wow Brian, you certainly have a lot on your plate with all those girls. I think I’ve just hit a wall and started to feel sorry for myself after having a panic attack at work and having to come home. Think I may have started too much too soon. I too have anxiety problems that have been medicated since I was a teenager. Together with hip displacement arthritis and and hypothyroidism. It certainly makes things a challenge. It’s weird you say about chest infections etc. I too was treated time and again with chest infections and treated like I had asthma. Years down the line got told it wasn’t asthma but I had an enlarged heart, global cardiomyopathy and SLVSD. Was angry at first thinking if caught earlier I wouldn’t be in this position. If I hadn’t have collapsed I would have been living in ignorance. I wish you and your girls all the best and thank you for taking the time to reply. Joining a group like this is very out of character for me but I think it may be a good thing x

Brian1974 profile image
Brian1974 in reply toDru75

No prob's Dru75

It sounds like you,also like me, have been through the mill.

When reading you're reply it look's like we have both been through similar

expriences.

I was diagnosed with asthma when i was very young,and can remember being in yorkhill hospital that much that it was like a third of the my chilhood years iwas having sometimes quite bad asthma attack's,can remember one of my report cards saying that i had attended or attendance was half of the term.

I think as i wrote on my profile i was in my early teens whe i had last one,and

can also remember having lots of chest infections and kind of knew that this

was not the same thing could only walk along the road and had to stop and sit

and have a breather ,and after working with a lot of dangerous chemicals was

thinking it was maybe something like that.

So may sound funny but wanted it to ne an infection because after an antibiotic and a rest i would be ok!

Anyway iam going to go now as my sausage finger's have started tu swell to

where i will have to use a pencil (ha-ha )as for the coming on to a site and writing about it is defintely a good thing ,may not be the same as sitting talking to someone

which i have been waiting to see for years after various mix up's

is good to send messages to help someone who is worried about something

similar and you can let them know or to ask for answers and help people

to face something can only be a good thing!

Again warm regards

Brian

Terri14 profile image
Terri14

Hi ,I have a leaky heart valve and feel fatigued and when working my blood pressure and heart rate went sky high and they said it was stress , so I left my job ( as was carer going into covid) but now worried about going back to work and it happening again . Feel for you

Dru75 profile image
Dru75 in reply toTerri14

Wow Brian, you certainly have a lot on your plate with all those girls. I think I’ve just hit a wall and started to feel sorry for myself after having a panic attack at work and having to come home. Think I may have started too much too soon. I too have anxiety problems that have been medicated since I was a teenager. Together with hip displacement arthritis and and hypothyroidism. It certainly makes things a challenge. It’s weird you say about chest infections etc. I too was treated time and again with chest infections and treated like I had asthma. Years down the line got told it wasn’t asthma but I had an enlarged heart, global cardiomyopathy and SLVSD. Was angry at first thinking if caught earlier I wouldn’t be in this position. If I hadn’t have collapsed I would have been living in ignorance. I wish you and your girls all the best and thank you for taking the time to reply. Joining a group like this is very out of character for me but I think it may be a good thing x

Dru75 profile image
Dru75 in reply toTerri14

I’m so sorry Terri14, I think I sent the wrong message to you by mistake. Thank you for your reply. A carer during COVID is enough to send anyone’s blood pressure sky high. I do think stress at work is making me feel worse, although I like my job, I’m just worried I’m doing too much. It’s difficult trying to find the happy medium when you’re too young to jack it all in but want to be around to see your kids grow up x

Terri14 profile image
Terri14

No worries Dru75 , all the best to you

Breesha profile image
Breesha

Hi, Shelf , I was diagnosed younger than you, I am now 77yrs old , I have a CRT fitted , and take 12 m Bisopropol, Digoxin 1 ml and bumenanide ...I had very severe allergies to the normal BP tabs .

I work virtually full time fundraising, drink too much alcohol, eat too much good food , so try and just enjoy life , worry is the biggest killer , keep busy , keep active

Pam

Breesha profile image
Breesha

I was told the last thing you should do is ‘ take it easy’ , you must keep the heart pumping and be happy so many worse than us , in dreadful pain day and night , so get going , volunteer , write a story, ring an elderly lonely person .Pam

Roxiedog2022 profile image
Roxiedog2022

Hi , I've just come across your post . I have recently been diagnosed with LVSD. How are you 1 year on?

Not what you're looking for?

You may also like...

Heart failure

Hi my name is Sharon I had heart failure in December 2017 and fluid on my body now I’m on a life...
Shaz45 profile image

Heart Failure Worseninh

hello, my mum’s has heart failure for about 7 years now and it has slowly got worse over time. For...
SuzLud profile image

Heart Failure

Hi guys... so I have recently been diagnosed with heart failure and I’m 27!! I have an enlarged...
Jamie27 profile image

heart failure

hi all so Iv been a member since getting out of hospital in October. I was diagnosed with...
MyHF profile image

Heart Failure onset

Does heart failure always occur over a prolonged period of time, or can it evolve very quickly?...
Sensei_Mark profile image

Moderation team

See all
HUModerator profile image
HUModeratorAdministrator
Luke_BHF profile image
Luke_BHFPartner
Amy-BHF profile image
Amy-BHFPartner

Content on HealthUnlocked does not replace the relationship between you and doctors or other healthcare professionals nor the advice you receive from them.

Never delay seeking advice or dialling emergency services because of something that you have read on HealthUnlocked.