Delayed Surgery? Monitor yourself and demand Consultant/GP Help if needed

[TooLate4Daughter]

If your surgery has been, is being delayed please make sure you are monitoring yourself and if any concerns, even if no specific concerns, contact your Consultant and/or GP and get checked. Don't hold back because of any misplaced concern of being a bother or adding to the stretch on the NHS and don't let them use COVID as an excuse not to attend to you. Ask where you are in their planning, if your treatment needs modifying, if there's more you and they can do to make sure you okay in spite of obvious added risk of delaying surgery.. Understand what to monitor in yourself and when you might need help. Read and use excellent guidance on BHF website and call them for advice: bhf.org.uk/informationsuppo...

[Prada47]

Hello Your post is bang on after all it is Our NHS

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[Hidden in reply to Prada47]

I thought exactly the same.

[EmmyLaury12 in reply to Hidden]

Me too

[gilreid1]

Have to agree valid until the unnecessary rant. Think you should edit that part out

Gil

[Prada47 in reply to gilreid1]

Hi Gil

Hope it's a Nice day in the North East

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[TooLate4Daughter in reply to Prada47]

Hi Prada47, You pulling me up for my statement valid .. my meaning not clear and so has led to intention of my post being lost. My stupidity. Have as Gil suggested edited my original. Could try to edit your response out, might help to salvage something from it. Hope all good with you and yours. Cheers.

[Prada47 in reply to TooLate4Daughter]

Good Morning

I am sure people will understand your post, when you see things in print they look totally different to what you are thinking.

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[TooLate4Daughter in reply to gilreid1]

Hi Gil, Thanks for suggestion to edit out - didn't realise could do that. Have done so but perhaps too late for post to do what little good it might have done. My error.

[gilreid1 in reply to TooLate4Daughter]

No problem we all have moments off anger in your case very understandable

Stay safe

Gil

[TooLate4Daughter]

Okay, sorry - Accept, agree with the points about the unnecessary emphasis but sorry, lost my daughter thru delay in her surgery. And not criticising the people that were getting the best they could out of Christmas - fully sympathise with some of that. Main thing for people here is, please, don't make the same mistakes we did - a) Know how to monitor yourself to detect and avoid problems and b) Demand attention and at increasingly higher levels if you not being looked after, communicated with properly.

[Hidden in reply to TooLate4Daughter]

I think you're still missing the point! You're implying that everyone who contracted COVID must have been out Xmas shopping and partying! This is, in many, many cases simply not true.

As suggested, removing that part would give your message more credibility

[TooLate4Daughter in reply to Hidden]

Sorry, didn't mean to imply that and know enough people myself for whom that not the case. Have removed the irrational part of post but too late for post to achieve its intended purpose. My error.

[Lezzers in reply to TooLate4Daughter]

My sister, her daughter, my brother in law , his daughter & a cousin (who's currently in hospital with covid) & his wife have all had or currently have covid and I can assure you not one of them was out partying/Christmas shopping etc. I'm very sorry that you've lost your daughter and I understand that you want to ensure people are looking after themselves but the fact they're part of this forum would indicate that members are already being responsible for their health.

[TooLate4Daughter in reply to Lezzers]

Sorry to hear of your families suffering and hope they all recover without too much harm. Good point about people on this forum - needs more visible promoting to those that don't know about it. .

[Milkfairy Heart Star]

Covid is impacting us all.hsj.co.uk/acute-care/exclus...

I am so sorry you lost your daughter.

[TooLate4Daughter in reply to Milkfairy]

Thanks, Milkfairy - will carry this into the other stuff I'm looking into outside this forum.

[Chickenlou]

I am sorry for your loss and understand why you feel this way.

But please don’t presume that everyone who catches Covid has been irresponsible. I work in a hospital and have been scared everyday of bringing Covid home to my partner who had heart surgery last year (and still has numerous health problems)

I’ve done nothing to risk catching it (and wear the provided PPE at all times) and haven’t been anywhere other then work since last March, I haven’t even seen my family, but still run the risk of contracting it and passing it on from my job. I have been fortunate so far, but some of my colleagues have contracted it despite taking all precautions.

Take care of yourself.

[TooLate4Daughter in reply to Chickenlou]

Certainly not presuming all who catch COVID irresponsible - realise that most aren't. And definitely feel for hospital staff like you that are risking and sacrificing so much, so often and so long for the rest of us. Have seen hospital staff struggling with the ineffective PPE they've had to put up with while trying their best for my daughter. Hope you and yours come through this okay. You take care of yourself.

[Shrodie]

I don’t know why people are criticising you, i lost my daughter suddenly several years ago and know exactly what it feels like, there is no feeling to compare to losing a child. We all know that the vast majority of people are following all rules to try and keep themselves and others safe, but at the same time it is a sad fact that this pandemic has uncovered plenty of selfish uncaring people who for whatever excuse they may make refuse to follow the rules, i believe a little more understanding is justified here

[Mickymoo in reply to Shrodie]

Well put. So sorry for the loss of your daughter too xx

[TooLate4Daughter in reply to Shrodie]

Hi Shrodie, Thanks but not over bothered about people's criticism. I shouldn't have put what I put - too easy to misinterpret as it was and lost main point of my post. Am trying to keep my emotion out of my objective inputs and need to keep that sort of thing for other forums. And sorry to hear of your daughter - yes, it's tough! Hope you've settled into some sort of new norm without yours - we struggling with how to do that. Again, other forums for that but here, just want to get across to people any of the lessons we've learnt and are learning to avoid such challenges for them. You take care.

[Shrodie in reply to TooLate4Daughter]

Thank you for your reply, i found i could not stay in the house after losing my daughter and went out every single day until covid reared its ugly head, it is nine years since we lost her. You will find a new norm but it will take time, covid and the restrictions obviously make it harder for you, but stay strong and take care xx

[Mickymoo]

Sorry for the loss of your daughter. I cant imagine how you feel. I have an 8 year old son so can understand how lost you must be. Your right about pushing for your medical needs, as my gp had to step in and push things along at the hospital for me, which im grateful for. I live in Northern Ireland and the cases here since xmas have exploded. Alot of people here arent taking the situation seriously about covid, especially amoung the younger ones and teenagers. They are still out in force and house parties although finally the police etc are trying to clamp down on this. I hope you hold up ok and im really sorry for your loss again. Xxx

[TooLate4Daughter in reply to Mickymoo]

thanks.

[WildswimmingLady1]

So sorry for your loss........kind of you to think of others at this time of crisis for us all....... sending you all good wishes xxxx