My fiance had a heart attack and with other unresolved issues I'm having anxiety attacks.

[Fireking1]

Hi there,I'm just seeing if there's any one out there in similar situation,my fiance had his heart attack in March and I've been panicking every day with every little pain he has.Can anyone offer advice on how to deal with this as I need to be there to support him?Thanks.

[Rose54]

Hi

I can assure you he is going through the same thing as you

We all of have periods of anxiety when we are aware of every beat of your heart .

My Son asks me to phone him when I am out on my own as he worries about me I can understand that but life does go on and I dont want to be reminded of what happened.

It was ok to start with when I needed to regain my confidence

Could you ask your GP to arrange some counselling for you ?

[Fireking1 in reply to Rose54]

Thanks,I have arranged an emergency dr appointment as I dont want to add to his trauma as I know this has rocked him,he is such a great man for coping and hes done loads to change his life and I couldn't be prouder.

[Rose54 in reply to Fireking1]

You will get thier what your feeling is normal .

Hes a lucky man to have you

[Fireking1 in reply to Rose54]

Bless you for saying that,especially in my down times I dont feel he is lucky,I've been trying to push him away to make it easier for him in my muddled head.

[SpiritoftheFloyd]

Hi Fireking1

Sorry to hear you're struggling with this, it is a common condition that effects a lot of people.

There's another group in Health Unlocked that deal with anxiety which might be of help, link below:-

healthunlocked.com/anxietys...

[Fireking1 in reply to SpiritoftheFloyd]

Thankyou,I'm just feeling selfish as he was the one who went through the attack.

[SpiritoftheFloyd in reply to Fireking1]

There's no need to feel selfish, he might have been the one who went through it, but the event radiates out to effect other people who are close to him. If you can get some help for your anxiety that will put you in a better place, from where you can help to support him.

Best Wishes

[Lezzers in reply to Fireking1]

Please don't for one moment think you're being selfish, you're on this heart journey as well & at the moment it's so new and very scary.

Hopefully your fiance is being well looked after by his medical team, but you need to be looked after as well & I say that as the wife of someone who has also had a heart attack!

I hope the appt with your GP is helpful.

[Lezzers]

My crutch was smoking, thankfully I was eventually able to give that up. Please do tell your GP how this is affecting you & how the drinking has become your crutch.

Good luck.

[SpiritoftheFloyd]

Good luck with your GP appointment. You need to be brutally honest about how all this is affecting you when you see the GP, hope it goes well.

[Hidden]

My brother had same but not saved.

I had stents last year doing well

Walk 3km everyday. No fat diet

Cholesterol down but scared every twinge I panic I keep looking for uncomfortable feelings I get some cramps from the stating but now it's all a what if

[Fireking1]

Glad you're doing well,so sad for brother.It is all a what if but it doesn't stop the worry and worry can be mentally damaging,especially if not addressed but that's why I'm trying to open up on this forum.Thanks for your input.

[Pitt12345]

I was told it was very normal. I was awful after my husbands massive ha. Stayed awake listening to him sleep. You will feel better once he has hopefully taken part in cardio therapy sessions. For few months after I could not see a blue lighted ambulance without breaking down. He had his ha in ambulance outside our house. Dr said it was a form of PTSD and I have counselling. Still check he takes all his medication and get concerned if he isn’t back home when he says he will be. Take advice from dr and look after yourself as well as him.

[Fireking1 in reply to Pitt12345]

He has been discharged with no cardio planned.But everytime he goes somewhere or like this morning,said his tummy hurts I go into panic.I have dr appointment today but she didn't seem too convinced of what I know goes on in my head and have trouble expressing,hence why in the phone call to her yesterday I couldn't speak well as I was still in panic mode.I dont seem to be able to take anything in as my brain wont stop analysing the panic.

[Lezzers in reply to Fireking1]

Could you write down what/how your feeling when it happens? It may be easier than trying to express yourself verbally when you're on a time limited appt.

Also, ask about cardio re-hab & why your fiance hasn't been offered it. If/when he does go to re-hab I would recommend attending some sessions with him as that helped me enormously.

[Pitt12345]

I agree with Lezzers I went to the first and last session of cardio therapy. Very helpful

[Fireking1]

I have actually just written something I need to try to say! I cried when I read it back as it seems like a lifetime of pain.Tim lost 3 stones,got a more active job so in their eyes hes done more than they expect,hes a minimal drinker and a non smoker so I suppose they felt what more could they do?Hes been brilliant and I'm proud but I'm a mess and need to be well.

[Lezzers in reply to Fireking1]

Crying is OK, it can be part of the healing process. Good to hear Tim is doing so well but re-hab is more than diet & exercise. When we went it also included counselling, relaxation, the opportunity to meet others who are going through the same thing, etc. I can't recommend it highly enough.

[Fireking1]

Tim is typical,straight man.It would be hard to ask him to go to counselling,it wasnt offered and he didn't take it. Maybe he just sweeps under carpet like I try to do,I encourage him to talk but I take it all on to try to save him.

[shellarc]

You know what happens when you swep it all under the carpet? Eventually you start falling over the huge lump in the carpet Speak to someone, anyone - together and separately. Its a good first step speaking here but try to get some professional advice.

[Fireking1]

I have fallen over the massive lump and went to ask gp for help this morning.Was so hard to do,such a simple thing but my God did it feel huge.

[Fireking1]

Thanks for the support,I'm very sorry to say I couldn't ask for help as I didn't know I'd worked myself up into this state,I've been very good at getting my own head out of my butt,however since his heart attack,I seemed to have lost the ability to do that.Im so pleased time has given you some respite and glad you have the strength to help others with your experience and I wish you well.xx