Out of the blue

[Belgravep]

My wife 56 deputy head no markers heart attack 1wk ago . Recently broken up with me over problems with her son and me . Just been made redundant . She’s very emotional and I’m worried for her mental health but I’m in an impossible situation as she doesn’t want me in the home . Any advice ?

[Chappychap]

Fix whatever is broken between you and her son.

If that's not possible then neither is anything else.

[meadfoot]

It's tough all round have you considered using Relate to try to resolve yours and your wife's issue and her son. All this stress is no good for you all. Good luck.

[DavidG1971]

Could you offer to stay and look after her with no strings / obligations on her part?

[Franksluckypants]

Respect her wishes. Last thing she needs is increased stress and worry about you and the son arguing or fighting.

Knowing you're there if she needs you would probably be the best option, till at least she's both mentally and physically stronger.

[Deanosbeano]

Get a councilor for yourself and thy will help you and advice you on how to handle being separated and worrying.

Priority is to respect her wishes and don't mix worrying with excuse to see and be with her or that will add to her anxiety .

Offer your shoulder if needed then keep a distance and maybe a regular text once a week .

[Andyman]

Stay away. Don't add to her stress. Make an offer first to help. Then step away.

[MydogBrandy]

I would send her flowers with a note saying you are there if she needs you for support but you won’t ring or call as you don’t want to cause more stress, this then put the ball in her court. If she does call you try not discussing the son at this anxious time for her and let her do the talking. Best advise I can give sorry.