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Sometimes life is just unfair... I needing the love tonight

So today i went to docs as have been having some pain after a recent smear. I was in agony at the time.... nurse kept saying she had to keep going.

Doctor checked me today.... and yed the nurse has damaged my insides due to nt putting the instrument in correctly... and when the doc checked some other lower abdomin pain I have been having has sent me for an ultrasound scan tomorrow! They think it may be ovarian cancer.

I need to hide this from my son till I know... I have no family near.... and sometimes even this positive person feels like cracking. So sad tonight

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I am so sorry that is unfair after all you've already been through .try and stay positive as you haven't had any confirmation one way or the otheras yet ...tough I know to keep getting back up when life keeps knocking you down .im proberbly not helping much ,as what does one say in such a situation but I wanted to say something to let you know I'm here if you need an ear .

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Wow 😮 this must be such a blow, after everything you’ve been through. I wish I could find the words that could bring you some comfort. Here’s a big hug 🤗 and another 🤗 🤞 for tomorrow Kaz❤️💕💖

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Thank you Kaz.... just having an outlet and knowing that my lovely BHF friends are there.. .. means such a lot. Thank you... tomorrow I will be strong and hope for the best x

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Thinking of you and praying for the best outcome. Take care and keep positive. Xxxx

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Thank you... and yes trying to stay positive at the moment. X

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You poor soul what a worry for you on your own. I’m really hoping the scan gives you the all clear. It so isn’t fair you have been bouncing back and so happily despite your heart issues

Jo

Xx.

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Thanks Jo.... I did just have a mini meltdown this afternoon. It's about dealing with yet Another big thing like this mentally. Just felt like the stuffing had been knocked out of me. Anyway it is good I am being checked out so quickly. And just trying to stay positive. And it is a release for me to be able to tell someone. I don't feel so alone ..it means such a lot x

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Will be sending megavibes your way tomorrow, hoping the scan offers some much-needed reassurance to you. You're right, it's great you're being checked out so quickly and there's no reason to be anything but positive about it in the meantime, but still... Life can be a major prick at times and, even if a day of worry is the worst to come of this, you still deserve better. Chin up, lovely lady, and get ready to soak up all the well wishes headed your way. Lots and lots of love xxxxxxxxx

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Hi darling,

Just don't know what to say to give you comfort after what you've just been through.

Like our friends on here I am sending you all my love and best wishes for later today.

Huge hugs sent your way, Jo xxx😊

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Hi Heartlady,

so sorry to hear this, sending you my best wishes and hoping all goes well

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Hi all .... thank you for allowing me to unburdon myself and for all your lovely supportive messages... I am certainly feeling the love. And hey this could all be a false alarm.. .. and I could be panicking about nothing. Let's hope so xxx

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When I was younger so much younger than today I always took the attitude that any testing or investigation being done was to rule out whatever problem they might be looking for. That’s why every one else thought I would be worried it was a cancer scare every breast lump I had to have biopsied from the age of 22 - 49 but I was cool.

Since my heart diagnosis (at 50) it has wiped that easy confidence and arrogance that it wouldn’t be me.

I think that once your confidence in your health has been shaken by living with a condition it is harder not to allow the possibility it could be you. So it’s very real and understandable to feel like that but I will believe for you that it won’t be you this time.

I’m glad they are moving quickly on it less time to fret xxx

Jo

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Mega Vibes from my Wife and Myself

Prada

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HAPPY THURSDAY I HAVE GOT THE ALL CLEAR 😍🎉😀🎉🌞🎉😁 I literally danced with the nurses. After I had stopped crying. Thank you all for being there.... the sun is shining... and this is the first day of the rest of my life YYYIIPPEEE. You were right Jo ... not this time xxx oh the relief xx

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I'm so pleased to hear that Heartlady1 - that's such amazing news! :) :) x

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Yes wow excellent perfect news for today. So very happy for you - you can go back to rallying us all into new improved lives (seeing as you excel at that).

What a relief.

Xx

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Aw that made me smile.... and yes i will certainly bring out the positive posts now!! no rest for the wicked. It's first rehab session tomorrow.... I will have an extra spring in my step now. I am secretly hoping after 6 weeks I may have a beach body ...😂😂 I live in hope. So now off for my walk in the sunshine x

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I went to my first Tai Chi taster a couple of weeks ago last week I had to cancel because at the hospital in the afternoon and back at 830 the following morning to return equipment and today my heart has gone into fast AF so will have to cancel again - all whilst I’m waiting to see cardiologist again next week re the latest treatment plan ...I now have pulmonary hypertension added to my ailments.

I used to hike long distance and walked mountains and live volcanoes for fun and have run half marathons - I have kept trying to return to exercise downgrading each time (nordic walking was one) but even this was beyond me - I am at a loss if I can’t even manage Tai Chi....

Hopefully the plan will come good and I can follow in your footsteps rebuilding my strength and fitness in a controlled way.

Good luck your posts are like sunshine on a rainy day - from Jo sat in bed with heart racing doing a marathon whilst my body isn’t moving an inch....

xx

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Hi Hi so sorry to hear of your current heart issues... and hope everything has calmed down for you now x

I know how very frustrating life can seem whole you are awaiting results and diagnosis and treatment plans to be put in place. And when you are feeling good you think.... well I will just do a little exercise ( exercise is good right) however please be kind to your body in this interim period and try to hear with. This is NOT what your life needs to be going forwards. But it could be what your body needs right now until your heart treatment is sorted and your heart is more under control.

Trust me I have felt exactly the same as you whole I was waiting my test results.. One day I went into town shopping... met for friends for coffee ... then shopping for about 3 hour ended up in an ambulance and at hospital they told me I had overdone it. At times like that you really feel... is this what life is now. But it isn't.. .. it is just for now.... and maybe if you want to do a little something. Why not try a little walk... emphasis on the little. 10 mins if your doctor allows. And remember you ate being kind to your body right now. I had nearly a year like this.... hence my legs have gone to Mush. But that's ok... because I ( eventually) took things easy... it is why I can work through rehab now. And you will too.... I can't wait for your posts once treatment is in place. And if you are worried about your heart.... call a doctor x.

I am a little further on the journey is all... so glad you like reading my posts.... because this will be YOU too. Keep your chin up hun you will get there xxx

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Hope you all feel better today. I always feel better when the sun's shining..... it is up here but as I'm in North Yorkshire the pavements are icy like a skating rink!

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Good luck Jo. Thinking of you. I like nordic walking . But I also liked the excitement of walking over hot lava at Etna summit (in 1976 you could go right up to the crater edge!) and in Hilo island Hawaii. Xxx clare

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Woman after my own heart, yes strolling along the hot lava of Etna was something else, I went in 2011 and we climbed Strombolli so that we were looking down on the erupting crater, apparently the only live volcano you can do this - I still have the video on my iPhone to remind me. We also did Vulcano. At that time my then GP was busy telling me that my slow heart rate wasn't anything to worry about, at times I was quite breathless (obviously the air quality is poor and my heart was on the way to being shot) and they make you think it is just you getting unfit as a middle aged woman! 2 years during which I developed Brady/Tacky or Sick Sinus and Atrial Fibrillation (with heart rates sometimes over 200) and 2 ablations later. Now I have Pulmonary Hypertension and some days I have to stop walking up the modest ramp to the train platform to catch my breath - the latest GP has only known me in recent years I don't think he appreciates the huge losses in fitness and adventure I have suffered and it's not their problem so I try not to dwell on it. I'm just so glad I never put anything off for another day or my retirement....you never know do you?

West Highland Way in Scotland, The Lakes, Yorkshire all beautiful and hilly so this March I'm going pottering in the Cotswolds with my sister, I'm not a quitter.

Have a good weekend, it's good to remember good times and plan to have more (if different ones) ahead.

xx

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Hallo Happy Jo. I also went to Stromboli & Vulcano.....in 1976. Haven't been back to Sicily but since 2001 I've had 34 trips to Malta, where I teach complementary therapies each winter. I'm so lucky I travelled everywhere on my bucket list before my heart conditions were diagnosed... Machu picchu, Easter island & Patagonia, Rio & most of South America. When I lived in Asia (16 years) I travelled extensively & also adopted a baby from an orphanage in Hong Kong. Now she has her own babies & lives near me. My heart conditions are inherited from grandfather & mother. Do you live up in the frozen north like me? Have a good weekend. Xx Clare

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Hey that's wonderful... enjoy the rest of day xxx

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Oh bless you, I am so, so happy for you. You keep dancing girl😊😄😄😃😊😁💜💟💕💖

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Ha ha I intend to hun xxx

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brilliant news so happy for you

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Great news! No excuses at rehab now 😋

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Ohh I am so pleased 😁 for you

You must feel absolutely on top of the world 🌍

Now go out there and live the Dream. ❤️🍾🥂🤗

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So pleased for you this is great news. Keep well xx

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I'm so glad to read you got the all clear. Wonderful news. Hope you can relax now. Xx xxxxx clare

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So pleased to hear the good news. Keep smiling. Best wishes to you & all on Health Unlocked.

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So happy for you xxxx

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I hope you are ok honey 😊

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Emotionally drained.. .. I won't lie.... but very very happy and relieved xx

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Oh me too, believe me. Me too 😊😊

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So good to hear, hang on to the Mega Vibes we sent they will look after you, along with the Medical Help of course.

XXX

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