They say we shouldn't make major decisions during grief but..

[chloe40]

Often that's inevitable.

Did you have to face anything remotely major during this period?

Sending love

Chloe <3

[Hidden]

In an ideal world no you shouldn't make major decisions whilst grieving but this world isn't ideal is it?

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Hidden]

Nope, absolutely not which is why I posted.💗

[Hidden in reply to chloe40]

When I was on about leaving that toxic job one colleague had said to me how I shouldn't have had to have put up with the bullying there and I had said yes in an ideal world no I shouldn't but this world isn't ideal is it?

Thing is everyone's circumstances are different in regard to making major decisions during grief and it's not as simple as what's right for one person should be right for all as we are all different.

[chloe40 Administrator]

I totally agree Hidden There are times when life just forces us to make decisions, that’s exactly what I mean, so although they say we shouldn’t make decisions at that time, we often have no choice.

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[Veteran250 in reply to chloe40]

When our Son died(covid) he was 38 years old, he lived alone, 150 miles away from us…. We had a policeman knock on our frontdoor at 2-30am on a Sunday morning.

We had to travel down to his house in the West Country, we live in south east of Uk we had to clear his house(council), sort out his car, his insurances, his pensions, register his death, contact the local coroner, funeral home…. So much to do for two people in their 70s who had no Idea what we were doing.

Our son died in October last year, his inquest has only just been completed, we never want to go through that again!

[Hidden in reply to Veteran250]

That's not fair is it how young he was when he died!

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Veteran250]

I can't imagine how you must have been feeling or thinking at such an awful time Veteran250 I imagine you were running on automatic pilot, it's just not how we think life will turn out for our children, you must be devastated.

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[Veteran250 in reply to chloe40]

Three other children to think of, and their respective families, you can’t explain to young grandchildren why granddad or grandmum are so sad?

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Veteran250]

Well, thank goodness for Parents like you Veteran250 but so very sad.

It must be so very hard trying to explain to grandchildren, unimaginable.

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