No longer desire sex from my extremely attractive girlfriend. I’m young, healthy and stress free. Ruining our otherwise perfect relationship

[Dunkirk1903]

the fact I’m even writing this surely conveys how desperate I am to fix this.

Me and my girlfriend are in our mid twenties, been happily together for 5 years, both healthy, living together, stable jobs and spend a good amount of time together.

A year ago, my sexual desires about her started to change. I started to lust over her less and less getting to the point I actively dread having sex now.

I still have a sexual appetite, I still masturbate and look at other women but my girlfriend just doesn’t do it for me anymore.

Thing is I love her to death. It’s easy for me to say this but it’s true that she is as much of a 10/10 you’ll ever see. I figure that if I spent 3 ish years consistently sexually attracted to her and then all of a sudden almost non existent that I somehow I can learn to get that back again.

If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice I’d be eternally grateful. I’m willing to try anything to save our relationship.

[HAK33]

Hi Dunkirk1903, hope you are well.

I have one question for you to answer...How would life be without this woman? The fact that you masturbate and find other women attractive shows it's not you having lost your sexual drive (to me). It's more about your perception towards sex with her. I would advise you to maybe spice things up with her in the bedroom and try do things that are more exciting and new TOGETHER! The reason I ask the above question is that (to me) love and lust are two different things. It's normal for a person in a relationship to feel a bit out of place and feel they are losing their Mojo with their partner. Why do you think many good looking celebrities end up alone? My bet would be to ignite the fire you once had for her, for each other by doing romantic things for her, go out your way like you used to before you were together, leave love notes, take her out for dinner, things to get you both in the mood. Fantasise about HER alone. They are many people, Men and Women a person can be with (physically) but don't knock what you have, you may regret it. Focus your attention solely on her and you. Things that can rekindle the romance.