Concerns for my adult brother

[ccrr]

Hi,

I am writing for some practical advice. I am a 30 year old living away from my parwnts and younger brother who is 25. He has always struggled with lots of things and I am now certain he is on the autism spectrum. I should add, I am a teacher and have lits of experience of children with autism as well as libing with my friend's son who has been duagnosed, so I am experiended in what ASD can look like in different poeople. Having researched it herself my mum agrees with me. Our dilemma is that he is refusing to accept that he neds any help or talk to anyone about his difficulties and how unhappy he is. As an adult we obviously can't force him to see anyone but this has been going on for years and is becomingmore of a strain. He has seen a counsellor on occasion but never seems to get anywhere with this. Does anyone have any advice as to how we can support him, who we can contact or what we can do to help him to accept that he needs support? At the moment he becomes very defensive and angry whenever it is mentioned and it is having a negative effect on his relationship with my parents.

Thanks in advance for any help.

[DawnHec7]

Hi there, I know how difficult and frustrating it is for you and your parents,my son is 26 and he won't admit he needs help or if there's a problem not until everything gets too much for him and he literally can't cope with everything. even though I'm the closest to him, I'm the last person he'll speak to about what's happening, sometimes worrying about him took over my life and as he lives in supported independent living and is a vunerable adult I felt I had to protect him and was constantly there when things went wrong and I was the one that was constantly picking up the pieces which eventually made me ill, it's really difficult to do but sometimes you have to take a step back. I think it's something called'Tough love'and it is tough,but until my son had to realise the serverity of his actions and the negatives that he inflicted on his life that's when he accepted he needed help and things got better for the both of us. I'm not sure if I've helped you by telling you my story but whatever you do, it's obvious you love your brother a great deal so however long it takes everything will work out for you all.😂

[A_Better_Society]

Hi there if I can help! I think at the moment reading all your report, the best option is to maintain a healthy lifestyle! I keep believing that more of the autism cases are because the vaccines filled with metals; ´(...)hallium, lead, cadmium, tin, and mercury are 41% higher in blood samples taken from children with autism compared to children who do not have autism.(...)´My advice is a detoxing diet, there is a lot of advise on youtube that works wonders and it serves for the full family! As well it has been said that Autism appears as a genetic inheritance, in that case to not to make it worse for the person who has this condition, try to help him to have a nice comfortable environment at home, his personal own space to figure out what he wants to achieve in life! Help him to love to do something that really matters to him and can benefit him psychically! Also to mention that his foundation in the school in his early years, did he had personal development? Did he had any learning disability? Maybe we can take from there going back to the early stage of his life! I really like to hear from you!

All the best!

[1234abcd567 in reply to A_Better_Society]

Hi, A_Better_Society.

Thank you for hi-jacking a worried sibling's post to push your, unsourced and spurious, rhetoric regarding vaccines. It really is fantastic to see how someone's anxiety can be publicly politicised. Congratulations!

With this in mind, I cannot help wondering how your life was in your early years? Did you suffer with any learning disabilities? Did you, "had personal development" [sic]?

I find that it's always best to discuss deeply personal issues via internet forum, especially those that are open to the public.

Thanks again

PS: If OP is reading this, apologies for the mini-rant. I sincerely hope that your brother will accept the help & support that he may need. It's a long and difficult journey but with the love of his family, and the right services in place, things can (eventually and slowly) get better. Good luck OP, brother & family.