emphasema depression

[mommalou]

i have got severe emphasema diagnosed by hospital i am feeling reely down at mo sit crying hubby gatting fed up with caring for me what can i do.

[Preshous]

get yourself to the Drs ASAP tell the Dr how you feel and don't hold back.

[mommalou in reply to Preshous]

got docs thurs already on 40mg ad`s

[Preshous in reply to mommalou]

Im on 40mg citalopram and it helps keep my head out of the shed. But you need to tell your Dr what works and what doesn't.

[pollyjj]

Hi mommalou, I think everyone with emphysema suffers with depression at some time or other, I agree with preshous you should go and talk to your Dr.

I was very down and having lots of panick attacks a few months back and Dr gave me some pills, I did not like the effect so I went and had some cognative therapy and I was able to work through it quite quickly, I would not hesitate to go again if necessary.

polly xx

[mommalou]

what`s cognative therapy?.

[RichardAT in reply to mommalou]

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy CBT, it's one of the talking therapies where you see a counsellor/therapist and talk through the problem and you 'create' a viable solution to the problem. It also empowers you with the ability to spot the symptoms and take action in the future; a lot of the time it is used in combination with medication. It worked for me. Take care, Richard

[evo1510]

keep takeing the tablets i had to go to my g.p a few months ago feeling exactly like you.and am takeing same tablets but once they get in you system You will feel better I do now..but also ask your doctor about going to pulmonery re ab.its exercises and that also realy helps me...xx

[Hidden]

Sit and cry or get up and fight are both ways of coping with emphysema but only one will give a longer life and do the things that are in your dreams it will not be easy use any support that is available but do not fall into the blackness, it is hard climbing back out after falling in as I think is already happening.

[Puffthemagicdragon]

I'm a bit of a " get up and fight " myself. I do get rather angry with my emphysema sometimes though. I usually end up swearing under my breath !

[Hidden]

Hi it sounds like your hubby having problems coming to terms with your illness. Sometimes I think dealing with other peoples feelings are harder than dealing with the illness.

I do think you are depressed. How long have you been on ad's? It can take 3 weeks or more to feel better. If after a month you don't feel better get yourself back to the doctor and try some different ones. Its a question of trial and error with those.

I do feel for you - emphysema a horrible illness. Depression very common with chronic illness.

Keep posting and let us know how you get on. We are all here for you.

Bev xx

[Hidden]

Hello Mommalou, I am so sorry you are feeling down. I am my husbands carer and he has severe COPD, but where you are feeling down and crying all the time, he is nasty, lazy, calls me all the names under the sun and I am fed up of caring for him.

He has said he is not depressed and won't go to the doctors so the Matron says there is nothing I can do if he won't help himself. I have been on this blog countless of times venting off my anger about him and the advice I get is second to none.

The first thing you should do is get yourself to the doctors, or if you feel you don't want to go, get a visit from them. Secondly, sit down and think about how you are feeling, are you feeling sorry for yourself and have stopped doing the things you have always done, because if you are that is probably why your husband does not want to look after you as no-one wants to help someone who will not help themselves, I know this from my own experience with my husband, he feels sorry for himself all the time and won't lift a finger to help himself so I have become the chief cook and bottle washer, skivvy, nurse and have been told by our Matron that there is no need for it, if he got off his backside he would feel a lot better and it would stop him from having chest infections all the time as he would be able to cough up the gunk more freely. He sits and talks about his illness non-stop, what colour his gunk his, how many times he has been for a wee, I really am sick of it, so you need to just sit down and think about what you can do for yourself that would make your own life much better, the more you do the more you could do and I honestly think your first port of call is the doctors, once you get yourself sorted out, you will be able to cope much better. I really hope you feel better soon because once you are in a better frame of mind then your husband will feel more inclined to want to help you.

Go on all the British lung Foundations help sites and read all about your illness, read all the blogs on this website too as they will also help you. My husband thinks he has a death sentence hanging over him, but the hospitals, specialist, physios would not spend all their time in trying to get him back on his feet if he was going to pop his clogs anytime soon. I have told him the only time he may die is if I hit him over the head with his oxygen cylinder, and I would not use the small one either.

It is your life, and you do have an illness, but you owe it to yourself to make your life as comfortable and as easy as possible. You don't say when you were diagnosed, but if it is only recently there is massive help out there. See if your GP's have a Matron, she will visit you and get other things organised also, we got wheelchairs, walking sticks, oxygen assessments, standby medication. If there is anything that comes into your mind that you need an answer for, get on this forum and ask us, everyone is fantastic, and we all have our own tales to tell.

I would love to know how you go on, so please keep in touch, I wish you well,

lovexxxxxxx

[derrylynne]

the first thing that comes to mind ' is hubby really fed up with caring for you'. It is easy to feel that way, more so when we cannot do what we used to do and need our other partners support. Depression is normal, although I am always up and about within a day of 'feeling sorry for myself'. It sometimes is not easy but you need to sit down with your husband, and explain how you feel. You need to talk about things because more than likely you have formed a wrong impression. I felt the same way as you. That my wife would no longer want me and would want to be off with another man. That she was feeling I was a shadow of the man she married. And even told myself that she would be bettter getting out of our marriage and finding someone else. We talked and hey, my wife loves me, supports me, and cares for me. Talking is good. Don't talk yourself into believing your husband does not want to support you anymore. Best of luck on your chat

[Ozzygirl64]

I would say that your hubby has not come to terms with your illness and maybe this is why he is finding it difficult rather than him getting fed up. Maybe you could get him to visit the GP with you to help him xxxxxx