bullying at school.

[mumsy]

my son who has aspergas syndrome .(autism)doese not want to go to school because he says there are too many bullys in his new school.hes just started at a senior school.im trying to get a reveral for him to go to a new school because he is scared of school.i hope i can keep him off till he has a new school to go to were he will feel happy and safe.

[perusal]

May be you should have a word with the head of the school if you have not already. It does take a while for any child to adjust from Primary school to Senior there is such a big difference in size of school and the numbers of pupils. I hope you can sort something out because education and socially mixing is so important. Take care .

[Lynne1955]

The school has a duty of care to investigate this and most schools have policies in place to nip this in the bud.

The problem with moving him at such an early stage is that you don't know whether it might happen again somewhere else. Also keeping him off school is not helping his education and not dealing with the issue.

It is very hard for him and for you, but Perusal is right, work with the school to try and address this. If they are not doing what they should, report them to the Education Authority and your local MP.

Good luck,

Lynne

[amagran]

Oh I sympathise, my grandson is waiting for a definite diagnosis of ausperges, he will start high school next sept and hoping for something in black and white to show school before he starts, otherwise it will be the same for him as it has been in junior school, he has spent a lot of the time alone at playtimes, luckily his sister is at this school but she wont be at the next for several years, so difficult. hope all works out for you. xx

[pollyjj]

My grandson is now 23 and has aspergers, he had a terrible time at senior school with bullys and when he reacted violently he was in trouble. The school was useless.

I now have another 7 year old grandson with autism and he has just gone to junior school and they are really on the ball, getting all the right agencies in to train them on what is best for a particular child.

The school should be setting up meetings for you to voice your concerns and work out an Individual Education Plan (IEP) for him.

Keeping him off school will not help the situation, why not try to keep him there until you find another school because you might find he will refuse to go after a spell at home.

I am sure you have been in touch with Social Services and the National Autistic society, but just go back to them again to see who can help you.

On a lighter note my 23 year old grandson has just finished university with a degree in computer graphics, and passed his driving test, we are so proud of him.

Hope you find help soon.

polly

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Well done for an early diagnosis, my eldest son of 42 was diagnosed last year. On the plus side he went to uni, runs his own business and is doing very well. School is a tough time for young people with aspergers, as you know one of the problems is socialising, being in a crowd is very stressful. I would be on the schools back all the time asking what they are doing about the bullies. Don't be fobbed of with "tell an adult" that doesn't work. Nor does segregating him at school. My area had a fantastic school mediation project that addressed the issue of bullying head on and it worked until Eric Pickles ate it. !

[Katlover]

I am about 3 months late into this thread but my 52 year old husband was diagnosed 2 years ago and the biggest thing I would say is help in the early years is said to help them in later life as the biggest problem my husband has is understanding what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour

xxx