My dad has had boop or its called cop, he is going to die tonight as he was put on hospice after had covid and pneumonia. He lived with it since 1995 and now he dies at the hospital. I was a coward and did not stay, but my mom did. I found this site when I started taking care of him and I know this is for the uk, but I found some comfort reading all the lives here. I hope they make a cure soon!!!!! Sincerely,
John
Dear John, so sorry to hear your sad news, l feel for you and your family. You’re certainly not a coward though as it’s very hard to watch someone die. My sister and l couldn’t do it when my mum passed in 1991 because of a stroke. My condolences to all and l too hope a cure for all lung disease is found soon.,
Best wishes to you. ❤️
sorry for your loss , condolences to your family .
I am so sorry you and your family are going through this. Please don't feel you are a coward, by caring for your dad you did everything you could. In my personal experience, i felt i could have done something better, or did something different, but I did everything i could too Xx
Sending 🤗 & respect. You showed your love for ur Dad when he needed it. 🙏
John, I'm so sorry you're going through this. You're not a coward it's hard to face something like this, and everyone handles it in their own way. You've cared for your dad all this time, and that means a lot. I hope you and your family find peace, and like you, I truly hope for a cure soon. Take care.❤️
Hi John. Please don’t worry that you weren’t there at the very end. You were there when he needed you. When my mum died I was with her while my dad rested as we knew it was her final hours and didn’t want her to be alone. However, when it was obvious that the end was close, I woke my dad and left the two of them alone. It was the right thing to do. And you leaving your mum and dad alone at the end is also the right thing to do, they need that time, so please don’t beat yourself up about it.
Condolences to you and your family.
definitely bit a coward….. very sorry for your news …..stay strong 🐞🐞
Sorry for your loss. When parents die it is so difficult, sad and often we are left with feelings of I should have done/said this or that. Its part of grief. I am sure he would have known how much he was loved and cared for in all those years you spent together. Take care of yourself.x
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Thank you for all your replies heartfelt and truthful. I appreciate your words. I will work to taking care of myself.
Sorry for your sad time. My mother dies very quick at home, my father was on an air bed - Was a very grim time indeed,,
Wishing you well and I think we all hope for a cure.
Sorry to hear your news, and don't beat yourself up as you did not stay. xx
Very sorry to hear your news. Covid was and still is a serious infection, not to be taken lightly. The best way to fight it is by vaccination. We are both vaccinated but still managed to get Covid back in June. My wife is still feeling the long term effects with gruff voice, but thnakfully not much else. Take care, theere`s always support on here for you, Chris.
I’m so sorry for the sadness you are feeling. You’re not a coward. You were there for your dad when it mattered. That’s what counts. I hope your dad had an easy passing and you and your mum can be a comfort to each other.
so sorry of your loss and there is no cowardism in seeing someone you dearly love die please do not carry this guilt around with you ..my heart goes out with you and your family
your dad has been battling for a long time , almost 25 years , he’ll be at peace now . If you cared for him in the years, months before his death he will understand your not being there at the end , It’s the choice of many , many people and nothing to be ashamed of . I hope you and your family are finding comfort knowing his suffering is over now and that he knew he was loved , not just for a moment in time but for all the years before xx
Sorry for your loss. It's so hard watching someone you love die knowing there's nothing more you can do. We all handle things differently...try not to dwell on the end focus more on Alfie well lived
A life well lived
Such a hard time losing a loved Dad. My thoughts are with you and family . It was very kind of you to wish a cure for all people who suffer with illness here. Bless you xxx❤️
Sorry to hear of your sad news. Death affects people in different ways. X
You are certainly not a coward, you have been there for your dad you just don’t want to watch him die and that’s perfectly understandable. I don’t think my daughters or son would want to watch me die either, it’s your choice. You have great memories of your dad, happy memories you’ll keep forever, that’s what you need to remember.
Take care
Wendy xx
So sorry to read this sad news, please accept our deepest condolences from the team at A+LUK.
Take care
❤️❤️❤️ xxx
Hi John, the way I see it, is like recognising someone is going on a long journey. We can travel with that person, travelling with them to the departure station, and watch them board the train. And we can continue to stand on the platform till the train pulls out. We don't all wait till the train pulls out. We can say "goodbye" on the platform or at the platform barrier. Sometimes we just take someone to the station. All of this is a kind of goodbye. Whether it's the station entrance, the platform barrier or the platform itself. Any one of those points is a kind of goodbye. Often sad, but always with hope that that journey can come full circle. Very best wishes John. You've done well.
So sorry for your and your mum’s loss xx
Hello John, it sounds as though you have been a great support to your dad to help care for him during his illnesses, do not feel you have let him down by not staying to the very end, not a coward at all. Maybe your mum and dad just needed that little time together to say their last words too. Loosing a parent is a very sad and emotional time, take care of yourself and your mum, huge condolences to you both, Sally.
Hello John, I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s ok to feel frightened but reassuringly you made sure was Dad was well looked after. If you find support from a group of preople you may find a local bereavement group will also help. Take care.
Wow so many great people out there for everyone still it makes me feel better.
Be gentle with yourself. Being with someone who is ill is hard. My father had emphysema for years and then died from lung cancer. Those last few months of watching him finding it harder to breathe were hard. He was in a hospice at the end and we took it in turns to make sure he wasn't alone, but I was not with him when he died. I felt we had both said all there was to say, and I was just happy that he was at peace as he struggled so much the last week.
It takes time to process and to grieve your loss.
I hope your father if he was awake was thinking of something nice or funny when he passed. Thank you.
He and my mum had a great sense of humour. At the end he was simply glad to leave his earthly body and go forward to the next great transition of life.
Yea he had laugh and smile even though he was in constant pain all day.
This site is in the UK but there are members from all over the world, not just the UK so everyone is welcome.
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