Bad News...Maybe.!!

[1234Alfie]

Partner 75..just been diagnosed with COPD,Emphysema..he tuff as old boots for the last 10yrs at least..so thinks this all Crap..but have been having to watch him wheezing an puffing for the last

6mnths...been told to quit smoking....there maybe a murder!! me or him..but have told him..sometimes the professionals know what there talking about..No-one saying you just an ol fart...but maybe if you you want to get some of your goals/bucket list done you should listen

early days dont want to measure the ol git up for a box yet...underneath a heart of gold..

wish me luck..........................

[sassy59]

Welcome to you. You’re in the right place for lots of helpful information and advice should you require it. I’m carer for my husband Pete who has COPD but chronic bronchitis and he gave up smoking when diagnosed with sarcoidosis in 1991.

Your partner can live a good life but must take care of himself. Hoping he listens to doctors and you.

Thinking of you both xxx

[Hidden]

You both sound a right pair of characters with very much love between you both .. I hope he listens and stops its very difficult when they are pig headed good luck 💜

[Alberta56]

Best of luck. It sounds as if you've got a job on your hands. I hope your hubby will take all the advice on offer. He'll have a better quality of life if he does.

[gingermusic]

Honestly had I not given up smoking when I did I would not be here now. It is really important also see if he can get on a Pulmonary group which is so worth while and will help no end. Best wishes Ruth

[Lee_Scoresby]

My experience (almost 74; same diagnosis) is that there comes a time when you have to be honest with yourself. Do that and you can move forward, but otherwise you probably won’t. Fingers crossed 🤞for him.

[Ergendl]

I do wish you luck.

My late husband Bob was a bit like that. From first diagnosis in about 1991 (he'd been showing symptoms for some 6 years before), he lived another 12 years gradually going downhill until he died of heart failure in 2003. It would have helped if he had stayed stopped after giving up cigarettes with me in 1985, but he didn't. It would also have helped if he had stopped trying to push through his problems. But you can't change another person, only offer suggestions and support them as they choose to live.

I tried to make sure he had a healthy diet, took his meds, was able to get out and about (latterly using a mobility scooter), had plenty to interest him at home, and ran the home for him. If it had been today, I would have got him to go on a Pulmonary Rehab course too.

Wishing you all the best xx

[Digger0]

Good luck with getting him to do what he should be doing! My husband is as bad! I used to be a physio and when he had a bad back I suggested he did some exercises!! No way, til his GP referred him to the local physio who, guess what, gave him the same exercises!

[Karenanne61]

Hi and welcome to this friendly, funny and informative forum. He knows what he should do but I understand your frustration. He has to want to do it for himself.

[Thepainterswife]

Oh how well I know what you’re up against 🤦🏻‍♀️ My hubby is 75 but was diagnosed 18 years ago and there have been a fair few raised voices in that time I can tell you 😂 Geoff didn’t give up smoking immediately but eventually ( not that long after diagnosis) when he realised it was getting more and more difficult to breathe he did give up and I’m sure he wouldn’t be here now if he’d carried on . I do know someone who received the same diagnosis refused to give up smoking and died within 3 years 🤷🏻‍♀️. Ignoring it won’t make it go away , hopefully he’ll be more accepting of his situation when the shock of diagnosis wears off 🤞 As you said it’s early days yet but the sooner he acts the longer , more comfortable life he’ll enjoy Good luck 😊

[1234Alfie]

WOW....many many thanks for replies was in the dark about how common these sort of

issues were so many different diagnoses,,,its early days for me and my "Pig headed partner"

but im not a quitter...so will keep on watching,,advising.. (used to be called Nagging!)..

an hope he feels more alive when the good weather comes back. He country boy (75) at

heart..an always cheers up an gets busy outdoors when its warmer and the sun shining..

me busy working shifts but will keep watching this site..best wishes and thanks to you all..Rx