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Where was I? Ah yes, I had left a message on George’s phone that I had considered the assignment off. He had not shown up at Morden tube. And yes, I felt a huge relief; a great weight was off my back. I caught a bus to where my brother and his wife lived.

The garden party was already in full swing when I arrived. The sun was now out and most of everybody was already there in the long garden. ‘Grandma’ was relaxing, with a glass of white wine, surrounded by her children and grandchildren. The place was busy and merry.

I’d forgotten all about George and began chatting to members of the family. Someone served me a beer and I remember reclining in a garden chair underneath the apple tree and thinking how grand life was. An hour had gone by, and I’d had at least two pints of beer. And then one of the daughters-in-law approached me in rather urgent fashion, “David, David, there is someone at the door asking for you.” For a moment I couldn’t think who it might be and then the penny dropped. “Oh no.” I put my hand to my mouth, believing it could be George. I was in panic mode and walked quickly through the house towards the front door. The door was already open, and two or three of the adults had come to check what was going on. And yes, there was George but not as I had remembered him. Not the George I recognised from the tube subway. George was dressed in an immaculate mid blue suit. I would call it electric blue. I had a kind of shimmer and the kind of suit he might wear for a wedding. He carried a large black case and he opened it to show a gleaming, state-of-the art accordion. Gleaming red in the sunshine. This was definitely not the accordion he had used in the Underground station at Kings Cross.

I was in shock, and said to George, “didn’t you get my message?” And he answered “No, no, I come, I play.” (He must have used the maps I had given him.)

I took a deep breath, shook his hand and said “Good to see you, come on in and start playing as you go through the house. Everyone is waiting for you in the garden!”

So, George began playing, music from Paris, Hungarian dances, and all manner of other tunes, entertaining us all. His music could even be heard in Morden Park at the end of my brother’s garden. It was absolutely wonderful. Grandma (whose 80th birthday it was) was in seventh heaven. In one musical break, my brother invited him to tour the garden. I remember George pointing to my brother’s pond and saying “Look. Fish, fish, we don’t have this where I live.” (He had come from east London.)

Ninety minutes had gone by when there was a shower of rain. Nearly everyone one rushed into the house for shelter, many of us, including George, going into the dining room, where a Yamaha upright piano was. Some of the ladies put out a delicious buffet for everyone to tuck in. But George continued playing his accordion. My brother, a gifted pianist and accompanist at the Royal Ballet School, accompanied George on many a tune. It was just wonderful. You name it and they played it.

In a quieter moment my brother had asked me, “Who is he, how do you know him.” I paused, thinking what the hell would I say. I lied and said I know him from Holloway Prison!

My brother was so taken by George’s ability that he said to him, “oh you must come again.” And George said “Yes, yes, I bring my wife.” We fed George from the food table and invited him to take some home with him for his family. I gave George the agreed £100 and topped it with another £10 or £20, I can’t remember. And I had been drinking!. I think he had been there for three hours.

My brother offered to take George by car, back to Morden tube, and I joined them for the ride. It was quiet in the car; little was said. I suspect my brother was thinking of what I had told him. How would I have met him at Holloway Prison? Unless of course George had been a guest, after all, it is a prison for women.

After we had said goodbye to George and were driving back to the party, my brother questioned me, “Really, who is he?” “How do you really know him.” He hadn’t believed what I had said.

This time I told him the truth. “I found him in an underground subway.” I think at this point my brother decided that he wouldn’t invite George back. And he never did. I think he believed his wife would not tolerate the idea, that they wouldn’t befriend him, even though he had duetted with him at the piano. They also may have thought that I had taken liberties”!

And I never did see George again. He had told me when we first met, that he travels around. He had a kind of circuit of underground stations. I regret not keeping in touch with him, though I may have his number on my records somewhere. But George had taught me a lesson: never to make assumptions about people, how they look or the circumstances in which one first meets them. I had let George down. When there were dark clouds in the sky, I became negative, full of mistrust. But George never let me down. In fact, he rose sublimely to the occasion.

And my brother fell into the same trap as I had done. To allow negativity to influence his judgment. Do not presume you cannot befriend someone just because they are poor or live off the street. Nobody who attended that 80th birthday party will ever forget George’s brilliant musicianship and courtesy. I’m proud I booked him.

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I hope that one day you bump into George, he sounds a very humble man. I was always taught by my mum , dad and grandparents never to judge a book by its cover, as we could end up that way. But it sounds like George left a lasting impression on youwhich is nice. Thank you for sharing this with us. Have a lovely day and take care 😊 Bernadette and Jack 🐕 xxxxxx 🌻🌻

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Greenthorn in reply toDamon1864

Bernadette, thanks. I wouldn't recognise him unless he was playing an accordion. And I regret I didnt stay in touch. But I will see if I still have his mobile number on my records. I'd love to see him again.

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Otto11

Awh what a great story but also tinged with sadness. It also teaches us all a lesson. What a shame you never got to see him again though. Thanks for sharing x

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Greenthorn in reply toOtto11

Thanks Otto. Yes I wish I had kept in contact.

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Otto11 in reply toGreenthorn

Maybe one day 🎹

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Caspiana

Such a great story and even better because it is true. I sincerely hope George is still well and prospering. I am so glad he made it to the party. What a lovely memory. xx 👏👏👏

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Greenthorn in reply toCaspiana

I told this story to the women prisoners at Holloway one Sunday service in Chapel. Occasionally I'd be given a slot to have a 5-10 minute talk. But not often haha. I'm glad you enjoyed it. I had to get it out!

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sassy59

What a wonderful second half David. I’m so pleased George played for Grandma. He seems to have captured everyone with his accordion. Hopefully he’s still playing somewhere. We should never judge a book by the cover. Xxx👍💕

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Greenthorn in reply tosassy59

Hopefully George is prosperous and still in the UK. He was a diamond accordionist! Thanks Carole.

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Hobbledehoy

I’m so glad to have caught this story. It brought tears to my eyes. George would never have been looked down on in the Folk world I knew. We learned to accept & appreciate talent however offered or discovered. I do hope you catch up with him.

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Greenthorn in reply toHobbledehoy

Thanks Hobbledehoy, music is a wonderful thing and live music the best of all.. My greatest joy is being in small Irish countryside pubs with a gaggle of musicians just playing their hearts out.

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Izb1

I can understand your mistrust from somebody you dont know, especially in todays society, but how sad we feel like this. It sounds like he made the people at the party very happy with his music and I am sure everybody will remember this . I do hope you get to see him again x

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CarolMcl

I really enjoyed that. It's certainly food for thought. Thanks for sharing

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Jane2005

Brilliant story I really liked. It is sad how we all make quick assumptions these days. Hope you catch up with him sometime 🙂

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Katinka46

Fantastic tale. That you so much.

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Stratos20

I’m so glad you booked him too. He sounds like a good person. I hope he and his family are happy and that he is still playing. You never know, fate might let you bump into him sometime 🎶😊

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Biofreak

Great story. George sounds very mysterious and actually he might have chosen that kind of life......free to roam and go where the mood takes him. It's unlikely he lived on the streets as he would have nowhere to store his electric blue suit. Either way his musical talent would open many a door. Maybe you weren't the only person to engage him for an event. We will never know.

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HollyBoyd

Well, George certainly didn't let you down , he rose to the occasion and did you proud. You must wonder if he is still playing in the underground. It proves that music never discriminates. A lovely story Greenthorn, thank you for sharing xxx 😊

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watergazer

Great story. He sounds a wonderful fellow and extremely talented x

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teenieleek

Great story…with an understory and a backstory. Thank you.

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SORRELHIPPO

At least he wasn't in hospital or dead, both of which has crossed my mind. The 3 second judgement is so prevalent, I remember being taught about how to dress for an interview, as my likelihood of getting the job was sunk in the first glimpse. I have also found myself, when on small interview panels for NHS jobs, looking at someone's very dirty shoes. or very long fingernails painted scarlet, and just thinking, how could you come to an interview looking like that. I would wonder, if they were offered the job, would they willingly cut their nails and remove the varnish. One person I knew did, the others did not see the need, even if you explained that they could hurt a patient with such long nails, let alone harbour infection under them. But your gentleman sounds great. I did meet an eighty year old Romany of central European origin, who had played the violin, she could no longer play it (rheumatoid arthritis in her hands) but still had the instrument and her stories of working in western Europe after the war were wonderful. She had escaped death in the camps, she reckoned, due to playing for the guards.

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Greenthorn in reply toSORRELHIPPO

Thanks SH for sharing that. Lovely to read.

Instinctively we form opinions about people. Students have a gift for it as soon as a teacher walks into a classroom. I read the other day that it is the brain's way of conserving energy, choosing not to bypass analytical processes ha ha. I put great store in my judging a persons character by their face; that's probably why I invited George in the first place - didn't matter that he was begging in a subway or wearing second-hand clothes.

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Threecats

A fascinating tale, Greenthorn, thank you for sharing it. It’s easy to make assumptions about people but so much more difficult to change them. At least, through the power of music, they were overcome for a while. George was obviously a very talented musician. I wonder if he is still playing in the underground somewhere.

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Greenthorn in reply toThreecats

Yes, for the duration of the garden party, everything was in perfect harmony! 👍

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Morrison10

That’s a very different experience, glad it turned out really good. We live in a very mixed society, good to know that there’s good will and honesty at all levels. Thank you for telling us of your experience with George. Best wishes, hope you meet him again if and when you want to! Jean.x

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Greenthorn in reply toMorrison10

Thanks Jean.

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Bingo88

Such a beautiful story. I certainly enjoyed reading it. Wonder what George is doing now. I personally would be tempted to give him a ring if I had his number. And I wonder where he got the beautiful suit from as well. Hope your day goes well. Brian

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Greenthorn in reply toBingo88

Bingo88, I suspect the blue suit was for all his professional engagements. He didn't only play in the London subways! I'm sure he would have played in groups for weddings etc.. He was that good. Strangely, in the last few years, I have got to know many more gifted Romanians, including a painter.

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Thepainterswife

What a great story and a great party ! 😃 How many of us have been in this position I wonder ? You make a connection with a stranger , you have a positive experience with them but unfounded fears keeps you from continuing the relationship. I know I have , “ Are they trustworthy? “ “ will they become a nuisance ?” “would I be opening a can of worms if I allow this person into my life ?” the list goes on and on and the concerns should be taken seriously but I wonder how many great potential relationships have been lost through lack of trust and faith 🤔

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Greenthorn in reply toThepainterswife

Thanks. This kind of sums up how I felt at the time. My brother's view of George, after he had discovered his origins, soured my own judgment. I had already felt a bit guilt for taking liberties NOT saying anything in advance and keeping George's visit a complete surprise. I was disappointed by my brothers reaction. Had he welcomed George to make a return visit then undoubtedly the relationship would have prospered, they may even have done gigs together. I AM going to look to see if I have George;s mobile number on an old Excel spreadsheet and if I do find it then I shall make a call, only to answer many of the responses on this post! But it remains a lovely memory to recall George entertaining us all - the cherry on the birthday cake.

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madonbrew

Oh wow…yes both a happy and sad part 2! I’m really glad he came and played and everyone had enjoyed his great talent! I wonder how different it would have been if you’d told your brother you met George I don’t know…somewhere more ‘socially acceptable’? How differently we judge people from the situation we find them in!!! I really hope he’s still playing his accordion 🪗 and is getting on successfully here! Thank you for sharing this story!

Dee 😊

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Greenthorn in reply tomadonbrew

I've often thought of that Dee, but I would have had to continue the lie with my brother and his wife. Probably impossible, since George would have had to have followed suit. And see my replies to the The Painters Wife and to SorrellHippo.

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Alice70

Loved the story, hope you see gorge agian

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Greenthorn in reply toAlice70

I wonder. That story was all of 18 years ago. George would be near 70 now. With the influx of so many Romanians here now, I am sure George is very active and weddings etc and may even be playing in concert halls.

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