My garden is lovely for me but I P F means no social contact or outdoor activities! Iโm lucky to have my family and friends who are wonderful
I have a lovely girl who helps keep home spick and spam but because Iโm high risk I have been trying to manage on my own. My family have great concerns and donโt come in- drop off at front
Do you know the guidelines for my situation coz I have difficulty keeping up with the housework ๐
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Awwww my heart goes out to you. Just know you are not alone. It is soooooo difficult psychologically. I am one of the safeguarded so certainly have my down days. I miss my daughters and grandchildren so much. You will get through this knowing you are loved and remembering they are waiting for you.
Hello sunflower, Just read your post and know how despondent you are feeling because I feel the same. I have been indoors, shielding for the best part of 7 weeks just like you and many others like us. Yes, we appreciate having a garden to spend time in, my daughter does my shopping, I speak to friends on the phone. I am so grateful for all of this but, living alone I miss companionship and social contact just like you. In fact, these weird times have made me think a lot about my husband who I lost 20 years ago. I have days when I feel quite low too.
I'm just replying so that you know you are not alone thinking and feeling the way you do. It has been a long time living this way but I think things are beginning to change now that lockdown is opening up. We have to put up with it for a little longer and then we will be able to be with our families and friends once again.
So, enjoy the sunshine and your garden, keep as busy as you can and hopefully things will get better soon.
Hello Sunfloweronline. What a lovely Name. I am sorry you have had a tough year. And now this isolation on top. Is not helping at all. But we are now seeing light at the end of the tunnel And you maybe able to get out and about. And make new friends. Sadly there will be alot in your position after this virus took so many. You are Stronger for coming so far. Take Care all will be better Brian
Hi. I think it's probably quite unwise to have visitors inside your home ie your home help.
Do you have a garden? I believe it's acceptable to have one visitor sitting at a safe distance in your garden . I 'have a coffee' with my neighbour. She up at an upstairs window and me getting a crick in my neck sitting in mine. We're both so grateful for the human contact.
Itโs a difficult choice to make wether to have help in the house or not.
My mother who is 86, considered high risk is on her own, and recently has been quite unwell. I live too far away to be much help, some 200 miles and donโt drive these days.
She decided to keep having her carer in do do housework, pick up her prescriptions etc her ironing lady picks up her ironing and drops it back off and the gardener comes in when required.
My brothers do her shopping tho she misses going out for her weekly shop.
I was pleased that she is still having help, sheโs always been neat and tidy, can remember as young children all four pairs of shoes lined up and polished ready for the next day. Iโm sure the cat was polished when we were at home! Iโm the total opposite
As I say tho personal choice and we are all different.
We WILL get through this and come out the other side to whatever the new normal is as long as I can go to footy.
I can't imagine what it's like to be on my own this long (even though I'm shielding my mum who has dementia - and lung issues.)
Firstly, house work can slip a bit in these times - other than keeping things clean (due to infection reasons) - and even then, if it's too much for you, allow yourself less that 100% perfection. Don't take any risks if it's too much, a clean house isn't worth a broken wrist or hip - and a trip to hospital!
Fortunately the weather is beautiful, which is uplifting. Your photo suggest you have a garden so (if they can get to the garden without going into the house) perhaps in a few weeks you'll be able to have your family - one at a time - at one side of the garden and you on the other. They could bring a coffee/drink for themselves so that you don't get contamination or have to wash up. Whatever can be done, just having something to look forward to should help a little.
This won't go on forever (even though it feels endless). We don't know yet what amazing discoveries will be made (with a whole planet working on this there surely must be a breakthrough), so although it's lonely at the moment, one day we will meet each other again (even if covered in special suits!)
One of the few good things to come from this situation is joining groups like this to share experiences and find help, not to mention meeting lots of wonderful new friends with intriguing names and possibly the stories of how they came about.
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