Hello everyone

[cales]

Hope everyone is aswell as can be , I have had my granddaughter staying for the last 3 nights and I have to say I am exhausted , by teatime I can barely breath 😥 I’m trying to make the most of the time with her as my daughter is moving up north next month so won’t get to see them very often I’m gutted and the closer it gets the more low I am getting , I’ve supported my daughter in her decision but from a selfish point of view she’s the only one that cares enough to look after me when I’m ill I don’t know what I’m going to do without her and quite honestly I’m scared .

Sorry to be such a misery just needed to get how I feel off my chest as there isn’t anyone around me that would want to listen to my self pitying .

Hope you all have a lovely day and thanks for listening

Cales xxxx

[Lilian226]

It must be very worrying for you Cales, not only are your family moving away and you will miss them but you are also afraid of being alone without any help. I can understand that, I don't know any answers but someone will have some really good ideas. Lilian xxxxxx

[cales in reply to Lilian226]

Thank you Lillian I do have a husband and a son still at home but they aren’t really interested helping me , husband is in denial and thinks I put a lot of my distress on and son is too wrapped up in his own life which is ok ....... but I’m just being self pitying as I’m so low at moment I will be ok I know I will 😊

[Lilian226 in reply to cales]

Yes, you will be alright Cales, you're obviously feeling low at the moment. My husband and son seem not to care sometimes, but I know if the chips were down they would be there for me. You can look forward to your visits to your family. A bit of self pity has never hurt anyone. Hope you feel better soon. Lilian xxxxxxx

[skischool]

Lesley,We are not a million miles away ooop north and even have communication,i am sure your lovely daughter will keep an eye on you and be good company all be it over a telephone line and can soon be with you should the need arise.keep your spirits high my dear......home alone Ski's and a trusty cat xx

[cales in reply to skischool]

Awe thanks skis I know it’s not a million miles away and I have plans to visit her often 😊 it’s just going from seeing them every day to just every so often is a hard thing to come to terms with , I need to shake myself and stop being so self pitying 😊 ........ hope your having a good day the weather here is lovely although not that warm hope it’s good where you are , also hoping that your knees are still lovely and doing ok 😂😂

[skischool in reply to cales]

The knees are looking splendid Lesley though not as tanned as i would like and the sun is out oooop north so we can't complain,enjoy the sunshine and look forward to your norther adventures in the future,,,,,,,,Ski's and Scruffs xx

[cales in reply to skischool]

What part of the north are you skis ?

[skischool in reply to cales]

approx 8 miles north of manchester,so not that far oooop north x

[cales in reply to skischool]

Daughter moving to Halifax so just a bit further on from you 😊

[skischool in reply to cales]

She will be in 'gods own country' Yorkshire as they love to tell us Lancastrians lol

[cales in reply to skischool]

It’s definitely beautiful up there so I will enjoy my visits 😊

[sassy59]

Bless you cales, what a wrench it will be. Keep in touch with your daughter and granddaughter by every means possible. They will miss you too I’m sure. Xxxx

[asfaan_abs]

Dear cales,

Sorry to hear your daughter is moving away, i wish i had daughter who i can relay on..

I just lost my husband recently, I have a son and daughter in law with 3 grandchildren who lives with me, but i still fell so empty and alone with out my husband at least you can talk to your daughter you can also do face time with this new technology ... she is not far its only travelling distance take care and you are not self pity its human nature

[cales in reply to asfaan_abs]

Sorry to hear of your loss , ❤️

[Hacienda]

My Dear Cales, I feel for you and I understand. Please let your Daughter know how you feel and both work out a Travel Plan, these days the Distance isn't so far. We have to let them do their thing, but travel is easy. My daughter is 2 hours away in Spain, but she can be here very quickly if I truly needed her to be. We talk every day on Skype or Wattsap, So I feel near to her and my Grandchildren...Its the Arms hugging & Real Kisses I miss. But lots to look forward to when They all arrive to stay with me. Be happy for your family , but please talk about them visiting... Love n Hugs My Dear. Carolina xxxxxx

[Hidden]

They say absence makes the heart grown fonder, Cales, but I don't suppose you will find much solace in that right now. But you might just find that you value your time together even more in the future. Having somewhere holiday here in the north is an additional asset. Even though it is in Yorkshire.

Don, in Lancashire.

[Stumpy55]

Hello cales, my son is 42 years of age and moved out to the Lake District ten years ago and there's not a day goes that I don't miss him around me with his cheeky sence of humour, the way he ruffles my hair and lifts me out of my wheelchair giving me a big hug. Yes I miss him but have learnt to let go and be happy for him because that's what we do. I phone him once a week and we text each other more often. He knows that I'm poorly and on occasion throughout his absence he's driven down through the night to visit us. He stays for a few days and then off he goes bless him. Please keep in contact with your daughter and if you can visit then great. She's only a phone call away. Anyway, you have all of us to turn to when ever you need us . 🌹✋️😊xx

[cales in reply to Stumpy55]

Awe it’s so nice to hear , I know we will be in touch all the time it’s just the physical contact that I will miss and I worry that the bond I have with my granddaughter will be broken I was there when she was born and have seen her just about every day for the last 4and a half years , I know it will be a wrench but I also know it’s something that I will get used to 😊

Thank you it’s good to know how it’s worked for other people

Cales x

[Stumpy55 in reply to cales]

The bond you have with your granddaughter will never be broken, the memories live on a life time. The excitement of visiting with loads to talk about and you know what they say "abcense makes the heart grow fonder. It's true because I know it is. You will always be her Nanny. ✋️😉xx

[cales in reply to Stumpy55]

Thank you ❤️

[Robin77]

I would be sad too. Make sure your daughter knows you really want to be in touch regularly, and the little one. A friend just left an adored newborn grandchild behind on another continent but I hear they have their Skype switched on all day and baby still gets his foreign lullabies sung to him by grandmother. Young mother calls to show grandmother every single new thing this marvellous baby gets up to. Distance has changed since we were young. Longed for airmails that you read and reread then!

[peege]

I do feel for you. I live alone and don't have family nearby but have spent many hours chatting, reading bedtime stories and singing lullabies on Skype or Whatsapp for free, it keeps the bond going. My son in the south of France video calls with little Charlie for just a few minutes every few days. One of my daughter's favourite tricks is to set up Skype, iPad on the loo so the little ones can show me their deep bath antics - and I don't even get wet! You'll be fine Cales, where there's a will there's a way. X