Good things, bad things.

[memanyouwoman]

A question for you bods.

How come good things come to an end a lot quicker than bad things?

[Titchy52]

memanyouwoman I've not had my coffee yet will give it some thought lol x

[velvet55]

Do they ?

There is always going to be bad things going on...the secret is not to let them over shadow all the good things.

Concentrate on the good things, and not the bad for a happier outlook on life.

xx😂

[Katinka46 in reply to velvet55]

Just going to say something similar but you said it better. It's all about attitude. Not "I was in the wrong the place at the wrong time." But working towards "I am in the right place at the right time." (Mainly because we have no choice except our reaction to what life flings at us.)

Morning everyone.

Wet, coolish here. Bright side? I will not have to water my pots, tubs and baskets today.

Love

Kate xxxx

[velvet55 in reply to Katinka46]

Hi Kate

Very true.

Like many on here l have had rotten things happen in my life, which can and has left me very depressed at times. I have dealt with that slightly different.

I am speaking about every day life in general, l made up my mind to try and be a glass half full type of person...or if you really want to be cheerful, a full glass ! 😂😂

xx

[Katinka46 in reply to velvet55]

Love it. Prosecco?

I believe we make our own happiness. And gratitude is weird: if you are thankful then it kind of breeds and more stuff arrives that makes thankful....

Kx

[JP1954 in reply to Katinka46]

Hi Katinka, recently been to Garda and had a drink called a Hugo. I think memanyouwomen lives in Italy so may have heard of it. I found it very refreshing and it consists of

Prosecco

Tonic

Elderflower liquor

With, ice, lemon and mint.

I think you can get Elderflower liquor at Waitrose.

JP

[Katinka46 in reply to JP1954]

Sounds great. Thanks. I will try it.

K xxx

[memanyouwoman in reply to velvet55]

That is not an answer.

[Katinka46 in reply to memanyouwoman]

Errrr.....

What's the question?

K

[velvet55 in reply to memanyouwoman]

MMYW

Actually You didn't asked a question, you made a statement of how you see things....we can only reply with our opinions

[Hidden]

They do? I'm grateful for all of it ....let the welkin ring

[Katinka46 in reply to Hidden]

Just about to go and look up Welkin ring....?

K x

[Hidden in reply to Katinka46]

Reaching up to the skies - happiness great joy.

xx

[memanyouwoman in reply to Hidden]

Why,what is up there?

[Hidden in reply to memanyouwoman]

You have not got enough time for me to teach you

[memanyouwoman in reply to Hidden]

I think I might.

[Hidden in reply to memanyouwoman]

Questionable of course. Think is not a positive.

[memanyouwoman in reply to Hidden]

I did say think , not think not.

[Hidden in reply to memanyouwoman]

....and "might" is neither here nor there and is certainly not a positive.

[memanyouwoman in reply to Hidden]

But then again how do you know I haven't. That is positively a negative.

[Hidden in reply to memanyouwoman]

Don't like negatives, you have to hold them up to the light to see.

[memanyouwoman in reply to Hidden]

Only if you can see the light.

[Hidden in reply to memanyouwoman]

It helps.

[memanyouwoman in reply to Hidden]

I will have to put the ear plugs in.

[Hidden in reply to memanyouwoman]

Here - have something to read which may answer your original question, whilst I go and pick some tomatoes for my lunch

That was fun

pbs.org/wgbh/nova/einstein/...

[memanyouwoman in reply to Hidden]

I have to wait until the neighbour goes out before I can pick fresh tomatoes.

[Hidden in reply to memanyouwoman]

...of course you do

[memanyouwoman in reply to Hidden]

I have the breath to do this now.

[Hidden in reply to memanyouwoman]

It is a necessary requirement.

[butterfly31851]

I think it's called 'sod's law'

[memanyouwoman in reply to butterfly31851]

No it is not. Sods law is if a negative can happen it will.

[Bettz in reply to memanyouwoman]

Sods Law must be like Murphy's Law:

Nothing is as easy as it looks.

Everything takes longer than yo think.

If anything can go wrong it will.

[pergola]

That's life. ups and downs. Enjoy the ups!!

[memanyouwoman in reply to pergola]

Still not answered the question. How come there are more downs than ups. Not for me naturally.

[Hidden in reply to memanyouwoman]

heh heh.............I thought you lived in a mountainous region?

[memanyouwoman in reply to Hidden]

Ha Ha. Close to a mountainous region and I assure you if I go up I have to come down but that is only physical ,maybe the mind is somewhere else. Tried sleeping overnight on a mountain. No,nor have I.

[Hidden in reply to memanyouwoman]

Why do you ask a question - I assume it was a question, with a reply on behalf of yourself? How do you know we have not slept on mountains, either overnight or during the day?

[memanyouwoman in reply to Hidden]

Rhetorical. Had to be as I know nothing of you.

[Hidden in reply to memanyouwoman]

You wouldn't. Don't like rhetoric.

[memanyouwoman in reply to Hidden]

Touche'

[diesel12]

I try and live with the "positive things happen to positive people" mantra but this year is really testing me. Diagnosed with COPD in February, Mum falling badly and having to go into residential care and this week my sister has been diagnosed with breast cancer. I'm trying hard to really enjoy the good things and challenge myself with new things but some days it's difficult.

I'm focussing on the good times, and good people around me and on how lucky I am to have these around me.

[Hidden in reply to diesel12]

Diesel dear Diesel - what to say. I wish I could do something to make it better. Everything has gone to hell in a handcart for you this year. Tell us if we can do anything? Let us know won't you? I don't often feel guilty for being happy, but I do today.

xx

[diesel12 in reply to Hidden]

Oh don't feel guilty Jennifer! no need at all, sometimes in life crap happens but it makes us stronger and helps us appreciate the good times xxx

[Hidden in reply to diesel12]

Don't quite know what to say because I'm lost for words. It's when it is happening to someone else and you have no control - then it hurts.

xxxx

[Twoose]

If you don't have the bad things how can you appreciate all the good things?

[memanyouwoman in reply to Twoose]

If you do not have the good times how do you know you are having bad times.

[velvet55 in reply to memanyouwoman]

Mmyw

Because according to you the bad things last longer !!

[Bettz in reply to Twoose]

"If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant" Charlotte Bronte (1816-1855)

[Billiejean_2]

Murphy's law ?

[memanyouwoman in reply to Billiejean_2]

I knew the Irish would have to come into sometime. Tis not Murphy's law. Murphy's law is that if something bad will happen,it will. Not the question I asked.

[Billiejean_2 in reply to memanyouwoman]

Clearly, you haven't the faintest grasp of what Murphy's Law means. Equating it to a simple 'que sera, sera' is missing the point entirely. It's that something happens despite you and your efforts, not just that something 'will' happen, regardless.. So if you bring your umbrella, it won't rain, if you don't it will.

I imagine it's as relevant to your question as any other meaningless phrase. That tends to happen when you ask a meaningless question.

Ciao, ciao

[memanyouwoman in reply to Billiejean_2]

I know exactly the meaning. 56 replies to a nothing question. Wow.

[Dragonmum in reply to Billiejean_2]

I thought that was Sod's Law?

[Billiejean_2 in reply to Dragonmum]

If the Sod's name is Murphy

[Twoose]

You're not aware of time passing in the good times because you are enjoying yourself and it doesn't matter about time. In the bad times it's all too east just to watch the clock.

[pergola]

Memanyouwoman, well what sort of answer would make you happy, then!!!

[memanyouwoman in reply to pergola]

Ha Ha. A wise person hey. The answer is no-one knows. Probably a perception of time. Does not make me happy,I just like asking questions.

[velvet55 in reply to pergola]

Hi P

Ha ha

Looks like we should all go to the bottom of the class for not answering his question 😂😂😂😂😂😂

xx

[pergola in reply to velvet55]

What was the question originally. Totally lost the plot here x

[velvet55]

MMYW

It's the one you are going to get off me.

We can only give you an opinion on why you you think like that, because you question does not have a right or wrong answer.

As for prosecco being a s**t wine, again that is your opinion

[JP1954]

I have come to this discussion late in the day but here are my thoughts.

Good things we take for granted and they can stick around for all of your life. Love, family,great friends, a walk in the woods the list goes on. But, being human we take these things for granted.

When the bad things happen they too can last quite some time but if you are cushioned by what I said above you are able to ride out most storms. That, unfortunately, is just life. We all expect too much from it and are never content. How does it go "what is this life if full of care that we have no time to stand and stare..."

JP