COPD NOT A LIFE .

[juliejon]

hi I'm Julie 54 with COPD .2HEARTATTACKS AND DIABETAS2 . tied all the time . get very angry at little things....

[Toci]

Life really can be difficult and having multiple health issues is not much fun. Many on here are very ill, some housebound and some with a lot of pain. Yet you will find a lot of good cheer, humour and immeasurable kindness towards others. I remember my Gran saying 'Life is what you make it' and she was right. So look at the good things in your life and you will find that concentrating on positives brings a smile and makes us feel much better. I truly hope you can see this for yourself. Good luck.

[esther333 in reply to Toci]

Wonderful words

[Watfordgirl]

Took has it in a nutshell, juliejon. Hope it helps. if not, do come back x

[Watfordgirl in reply to Watfordgirl]

Sorry, TOCI this predictive spell check thing is a bit of a nuisance! x

[Jessy11]

Hi juliejon, I'm sorry to hear you have these conditions in your life. It can't be easy for you.

Toci has given you excellent advice. Life is really what you make of it.

Chat to us, many of us here have multiple conditions & we share our good & bad times with each other.

You know what they say, a problem shared is a problem halved.

Join in with us & enjoy life, we all try our best to do just that 🌸

[Katinka46]

Life's a bugger. While I agree with the others' replies about being positive and making the most of things I am also a believer in being realistic about what hurts us. We are entitled to have moments of "justifiable lamentation", ie a howl, a weep, a rant. We are human and part of our humanity needs to say "Ouch!" when we are in pain. We are good on this site with virtual boxes of tissues, and hugs. Most of us have been and still are where you are.

So hang on with us, think beech leaves, lilac blossom, and (yes, why not?) chocolate.

Love

K xxxx

[y_not]

I'm in my 60's with multiple health conditions but I look at my son who at 30 had a motorcycle accident and lost his right arm - his right shoulder (well, what remains of it) cause him intense pain yet he just gets on with life.

Sometimes I sit in the corner but then I think about him, not even halfway through his life, who just gets on. I know he has bad days (like all of us) but we have to try and remain positive.

His view is "I'm alive - every day is a bonus 'cause I should be dead!" - that's what he openly says!

[Caspiana in reply to y_not]

Hello y_not . Your son's story has given me even more reason to be thankful for life. No matter how difficult it is. You must be very proud of him.

Cas 🌷

[Bobsie1 in reply to y_not]

There are always people worse off. I had tropical Sprue whilst working in Thailand ended up in hospital for a year many people died whist I was there so although I now have COPD I consider myself very lucky that I survived. Regards bobsie1.

[diesel12]

I get it. You must feel that life has dealt you a rubbish hand and no wonder you snap from time to time, However, the question is, do you feel better after it? My guess is no, you feel worse. The guys on here are right, you take the hand you are dealt and make the best play you can. You've had 2 heart attacks but you survived, you've got copd but you're still breathing. It is a bugger but you can still go and do things and enjoy your life. We all go through bad times but it makes you appreciate the good. We all come on here and have a good moan and get supported. My guess is that you are one worried lady and this is your way of dealing with it so come and join us and share those feelings, we all get it, we all feel it and we all share it. It does help love, oh and welcome we are pleased to have you here xx

[Caspiana]

Hello juliejon . I understand how you feel. I'm in my early forties with a life threatening illness and chronic illnesses on top of that. I sometimes feel like it's so unfair. I have so much I still want to do. It's natural to be somewhat angry. It's how we deal with the stress, anger and frustration that comes with being ill that matters.

Joining this site has made a big difference to me. Before I came here, I felt pretty isolated. I don't know anyone personally who has a life threatening illness. All my friends although sympathetic, do not have a clue as to what it's like having serious health issues. And rightfully so. For a long time I felt left behind and so alone. Being able to talk to others who are in the same situation has been a wonderful release for me. I am not alone, and neither are you.

I guess the first step is to reach out to others. Like Toci said many people here are seriously ill but there is always good humour, understanding, advice and support available.

Please do come back. We'd so love to have you.

Sending happy thoughts.

Cas xx 🌹

[Sheilab123]

Hi Julie, you can have a good life with Copd, it's just different. The others have given you some sound advise so I won't repeat it. Just wanted to wish you well, you will be in a better place when you have accepted it. Take care. Love S Xx

[butterfly31851]

Julie,

I know excatly where you are coming from - I have learnt a lot since joining this fab forum and have had a lot of support. I am still trying to come to terms with it all - why can't I walk around like I used too, why can't I do the garden, why can't I change the bed sheets? I keep on getting told that I will be able to do some of these everyday things again by very slowly! BUT WHEN I ASK MYSELF - I do get very angry with myself, keep things from my family (I say I'm fine on phone) and lock myself away indoors a lot.

We will improve Julie, I don't doubt that, once we can accept our lot - after all there are so many people far worse off than us - we can do it. keep coming back to this site.

take care.

love Jean x

[Azure_Sky]

It is a matter of coming to terms with your situation. I have a few health issues but have learned what I can and cannot do. Diabetes 2 is a pain the rear. Once you get used to it, it becomes second nature to know what will affect you adversely.

My chest continues to wheeze and rattle yet I don't have a cough. My emphysema is mild. The osteoarthritis is the most intrusive and annoying thing. I am losing my hearing due to Meniere's Disease.

The strange thing for me, is that my husband had a heart attack 40 years ago. He had cellulitis in his leg last year and gout. Apart from them he was fit as a fiddle and full of energy. He how has terminal cancer, we only found out just over a week ago.

What I am trying to say, is this, please take one day at a time, to appreciate what you do have. Try to have treats, don't bother saving things for best. If you are tired have a nap. Put your feet up. Read your favourite books. do what you want to do each day.